- Family and Parenting
Let it all out
Do you consider yourself a good listener
Just let it go
Listening is key
Did you ever experienced a moment in your life where your listening skills were so high, that suddenly all the people around you (especially the ones you cared about the most) start telling you those deep secrets? Usually these require a high level of secrecy too.
Teenagers, when dealing with serious issues, they suddenly become real adults. They are really good listeners and most of the time they carry not only their problems, but also the ones of the people who decide to confide in them. It's not your fault if you are a good listener. These skills are going to pay you back when doing other things. Remember to learn from your weaknesses and turn them into strengths. It might seem difficult at first, but with time, you will learn to gain a better understanding of the Self.
Some teenagers then act normally and pretend not to care. OTHERS just start thinking about those problems and realise that their weight is too much to keep carrying around. At this point, the only way to release it seems to get locked in a room and cry. Some people may not want to use this method as they believe it shows weakness. Instead, they decide to keep it all inside.
And this is a mistake.
Not only because the next time a "burst" attack comes round you will be less able to control it, but because you are accumulating emotions - negative emotions - that should be released.
My suggestion would be to try to find a hobby, a distraction, or whatever activity that lets you release all the energy you have inside. By turning your negative energy outwards you also release the stress, and I can assure that you will feel better afterwards.
A few quotes to reflect upon:
"Good listeners have a huge advantage. For one, when they engage in conversation, they make people 'feel' heard. They 'feel' that someone really understands their wants, needs and desires. And for good reason; a good listener does care to understand."
- Simon Sinek -
"We have two ears and one mouth, so we should listen more than we say."
- Zeno of Citium -
"Most of the successful people I’ve known are the ones who do more listening than talking."
- Bernard M. Baruch