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How could you have done More

Updated on November 1, 2017
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What could you have changed if you could have done more?

How often did you think you could have done more?

Could I have done more?

What could I have done to make things any different?

You could have done more bad than good, right?

When you get a negative result, you wish you could have done more to see a healthy result.

The three Es, are; Envision, Experience and Enliven.

Are you working on your three Es?

Life as you always know it is full of surprises.

If you take care of your health you will see greater improvement or less improvement.

You can't change what happens in your life unless you are in control of the situation.

Any of the three possibilities affects you when you neglect to see it for yourself.

You do more for others than yourself.

What you do can turn out to be the opposite of what you want for yourself

So, you don't know what would have been, and how it will be effective unless it happens to you.

You can make the situation better, worse or outright on a downward spiral.

What could you have done more?

Maybe your pet would have lived longer if you paid attention to its health issues.

You did not do more so the results are bad.

These are the kind of thoughts that go through your head when something doesn't go your way.

You can't always make it right or make it work for you.

No matter, how careful you are, or how perfect you think everything is around you, something could go wrong and then you don't know how, to fix it, or to make it better again.

What you can't prevent or failed to pay attention to can lead to a bad result and upset you.

The unexpected moment makes you feel alone and angry with yourself.

Could you have done more for your pet?

Could you have done more to change the situation?

You could be doing everything right, and still something would go wrong to cause you negative thoughts.

Your actions show weaknesses and sadness.

Negative actions show for the poor results.

You couldn't have done more or less to change what happened but you feel that way due to the circumstances.

No sense in blaming others for what you couldn't do more for, or see the bad in the future events.

It happened and you have to cope with it in your own way.

Everything happens for a reason that you don't see right from the start.

Whatever happens; be it a disaster or the death of a loved one, you can't control such experiences.

You didn't know when, where, and how to stop it.

Envision:

You believe in something that might exist or happen in the future.

It is something you focus on in your mind as in having a picture of that event.

For example:

You picture having a date with someone and hope it comes true.

An event that will happen.

Enliven:

To animate and to be cheerful.

Experience:

You want to experience what you animate and you want for yourself.

To get a reasonable answer about you making the difference for yourself is to be able to handle on what is coming toward you.

More or less what could you have done more?

Could you have done better in your last job?

What could you have done more in your last relationship?

Could you have managed your emotions in a better way?

Could you have communicated more directly with your friend or partner?

How could you have saved your marriage?

Could you have done more to save some else's life?

Do you regret not doing more for your family?

Change makes you see life in a different way and makes you a stronger person.

If you feel by doing more it could have changed the way others think of you, well, that is not how it works in the real world.

Look at life realistically what you see is what you get!

Everything is different for the first time.

When you look at life in that way and in each day you tend to appreciate a lot more for yourself.

Dwelling on what you could have done, or you wish you could have done more won't make your life any easier, or harder than it already is.

Be the one to help yourself and focus on what makes you the happiest.

How happy are you with your life?

What more could you have done to make your life easier?

You have done a lot and if only you could have done a bit more that wouldn't have happened.

I heard that line many times.

He could have done better but failed to do pay attention to the faults.

If only, he did that instead of this.

You can write daily, or write once a week. It depends on what you feel like doing each day.

Sometimes you can only do a little each day to continue and stay energetic.

You need to envision, experience, and enliven your opportunities to live the life you really want for yourself.

How could you change what already is?

Interesting, boring monotonous, and negativity in your life can make you a dull person.

You don't know what is waiting for you around the corner until you get there.

Each step you take forward allows for another positive idea to grow in your mind to be that hopeful and happy person.

What you could have done is as good as a mile away from you.

Everything is part of what you do each day.

Tragedies add negative issues to your lifestyles.

For example:

You wish you had done more to save yourself from drug addictions.

The bad experiences often make you wish you had done more.

What you don't realize is how life can be taken from you in a split of a second.

Appreciate what you have and treasure those great memories.

It could have been worse.

You need to remain calm about your life and focus on enriching your ideas.

People grow and change all the time.

The path chosen allows you to see the better you.

You could have done more if you listened carefully in some situations.

For example:

Her son had battled with drug addiction and married thinking he could stop the drug addiction and change for his wife. The addiction worsened.

He died of drug overdose and the family was devastated by this tragic incident.

The mother often says,'' She wished she could have done more.''

She tried and didn't fail in her attempts her son failed in what he was drawn to for many years.

People grow in their own ways and share different tastes in what they do.

They are responsible for their own actions.

The choices you make affect the rest of your life.

To wish you had done more allows for millions of thoughts that you can't change for better or for worse.

You tend to blame yourself for what went wrong but not what went right.

Think positive!

What can make your life better and not so complicated?

You got to love and live your life.

Nobody can do that for you.

Think of what you can do for yourself and help others in need.

Remember you can't do what you have no control over in your life.

Live in the moment and embrace each day.

Love what you do and focus on your best moments.

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      Devika Primić 2 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi my friend, so sorry to hear of your loss and in such times it makes you wonder if you could have done more. In most situations it is not up to you. Thank you for stopping by once again, always appreciated.

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      Shyron E Shenko 2 months ago from Texas

      Dear Devika, I am back to re-read this as it makes me think of our son/stepson, I never envisioned an end to my son/stepson’s life before my husband’s and mine. I did not envisioned that our grandson/step-grandson’s illness was such that it would cause such a tragedy.

      Our son/stepson tried every day and every way to enliven his children’s lives and Kevin believed that he could cure his son’s afflictions. Could we have done more? I think not?

      Blessings my friend.

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      Devika Primić 4 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Shyron E Shenko Thank you very much for that. ''but what we have to remember is that whatever we do can't be changed.'' The choices we make affects us for the future plans.

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      Shyron E Shenko 4 months ago from Texas

      Devika, wonderful hub. Sometimes the things we regret are the things we didn't do, but what we have to remember is that whatever we do can't be changed.

      Blessings again.

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      Devika Primić 5 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ChitrangadaSharan, thank you very much for commenting. I enjoy sharing such information to my followers. You have a pleasant day.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 5 months ago from New Delhi, India

      This is a great hub and so very relatable!

      In many cases I do think , I could have handled it the other way, may be in a better way. Even if you achieve success in a particular work still we have a tendency to think that way. One needs a lot of maturity to think otherwise.

      An interesting read as always! Thanks Devika for another thought provoking hub!

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      Devika Primić 5 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Shyron E Shenko Thank you very much for sharing such a wonderful comment. You are so right! "Laugh and the world laughs with you, cry and you cry alone."

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      Shyron E Shenko 5 months ago from Texas

      Devika, this is great advice. When I read your work, I often think of a saying "to be pleased with one's self is the surest way of offending everyone else."

      Everyone has to do what is best for themselves, even if everyone else is offended.

      "Laugh and the world laughs with you, cry and you cry alone."

      Many Blessings

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      Devika Primić 14 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      vespawoolf thank you for commenting on my hubs. I appreciate you taking the time and sharing your views.

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      vespawoolf 14 months ago from Peru, South America

      Life is full of regrets. This article helps us to see that we need to learn from our mistakes and carry on, not dwelling too much on the past. Thank you for your insights!

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      Devika Primić 16 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      pstraubie48 Thank you very much for commenting. Blessing to you!

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      Patricia Scott 16 months ago from sunny Florida

      It is so important for us to try to do our best to make a difference when we can. Your threeE's are well chosen. Angels are on the way ps

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      Devika Primić 17 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Shyron E Shenko Well said! Thank you for sharing your opinion. You too my friend!

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      Shyron E Shenko 17 months ago from Texas

      Devika, it is funny that the things you regret most are things you did not do. I am where I am meant to be. No more regrets, no more redo's.

      This really makes one think about past situations.

      Blessings dear friend

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      Devika Primić 18 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello rajan jolly thank you very much for the insightful comment.

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 18 months ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Not many would differ with your thoughts. I like your summation though; live life in the moment and embrace each day. A very positive thought.

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      Devika Primić 18 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello FlourishAnyway, You are right! ''Regrets can eat away at you.'' Sometimes you just got to let go I appreciate you commenting. Thank you

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      FlourishAnyway 18 months ago from USA

      Regrets can eat away at you. It's important to take personal responsibility for what you can change and also realize that sometimes it's still not enough. There are some things genuinely out of our control.

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      Devika Primić 18 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi denise.w.anderson, Your comment makes me think of a lot about how I could have done more when I moved to Croatia but too late for that thought. I appreciate reading your side of this topic. Thank you.

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      Denise W Anderson 18 months ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      I think that whenever something bad happens in our lives, we look at ourselves, and think "Could I have done more?" I know that I do. I used to really beat myself up over this. Now that I have been through mental health treatment, I am a little bit more kind. I realize that I have limitations, and that I can't do everything. Like you said, when we are not in control of the outcome, there really isn't anything more that we can do. The quote that says that sometimes we have to give up on people is so true! Not everyone cares the way we do, and we just have to let go of our desire to change things for these people.

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      Devika Primić 18 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      AliciaC thank you very much for commenting. I am glad you like that advice.

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      Devika Primić 18 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      fpherj48 Thank you kindly for sharing that. You are so right! ''I believe we've all been there but I also think one visit is one visit too many.'' I am pleased to hear that you enjoy my work. Great to hear from you have good relaxing day yourself. Devika

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      Devika Primić 18 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi billybuc, Thank you for commenting.

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      Devika Primić 18 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Ericdierker, thank you very much for commenting.

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      Devika Primić 18 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      always exploring thank you very much for commenting. There has been those times when I wished I could have done more. I agree with your comment, always appreciated.

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      Devika Primić 18 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello hari sure will do thank you for commenting.

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      Linda Crampton 18 months ago from British Columbia, Canada

      "Focus on your best moments." I like this advice! Thank you for sharing it, Devika.

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      Dora Weithers 18 months ago from The Caribbean

      I like the three E's, Devika. No need for blame or boredom when we focus on these.

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      Paula 18 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Devika...Hello my lady friend. Another inspirational page. Thank you

      I have serious feelings on this subject. It's an undeniable fact that regrets & streams of "what-ifs," are simply self-imposed forms of torture. It's fairly futile to delve back in time to dwell on the possible negatives. I believe we've all been there but I also think one visit is one visit too many.

      We do what we're able to the best of our abilities for the reasons that at that time were apparently our decisions.

      No one can put more stress and pressure upon themselves once that part of our lives is in the past.

      I enjoy your work, Devika. Have a relaxing day. Peace, Paula

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      Bill Holland 18 months ago from Olympia, WA

      I've lived my entire life believing I could have done more. It's just the nature of my beast.

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      Eric Dierker 18 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      An interesting look into looking back.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 18 months ago from Southern Illinois

      My honest opinion, I do not think there is a person alive who when looking back, doesn't feel they could have done better. That doesn't mean we should dwell on it, whatever it was. We can't change the past, but perhaps we can learn and not make the same mistakes again...Interesting subject matter....

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      Hari Prasad S 18 months ago from Bangalore

      Nice hub. Devika.

      Check my hub "be yourself". It has a similar intent but in poetic way. Kudos to you.

      - hari