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Daycare and biting-My son was bit

Updated on May 25, 2012
Jacob's bite mark on his shoulder
Jacob's bite mark on his shoulder

The Biting Issue

I picked up my son today from daycare to find that he has been bitten again. It isn't the first time, or the worst time, but it is never a good feeling. I hate to think that my child was bitten like a treat at snack time. I guess I should consider myself fortunate at this point in that my child is not the biter, but with continued exposure to this behavior he will most likely reverse his role from bitee to biter. I can't really blame the other child; my son did take away their toy which to a two year old is the end of the world and not to be tolerated. So how do I help prevent future episodes?

The first time my son was bitten at daycare was several months ago when we lived in Maine. He had a nice bruise with teeth marks for over a week. It then happened again about a month later-via the same little bully. That child no longer attended daycare after that episode. Jacob tried to bite me and daddy after the first episode, but was quickly corrected. A firm no, we do not bite was all that was needed to reduce him to tears and eliminate the behavior at that time. Today, he tried to bite his Nana, which was also quickly stopped. I fear that he will become a biter if he gets bit again now that he is older and a bit more headstrong.



Why do Children Bite?

Every Child is different and responds differently to their environment. At my son's age (under 2) children often have limited communication skills, no control over their environment, undeveloped/unlearned social skills, and an inability to control their feelings. All of this means that an angry, inquisitive, or overwhelmed child may bite simply because they do not know of any other means to deal. Children also do not have the ability to empathize the same way as an adult and do not always realize that their actions hurt others, and this is not okay.

On the other hand some children know better, but will push the limits. My little boy is a limit pusher. He will look you in the eye and do what he knows he shouldn't, just to see what you will do in response. This is normal. How can you be angry when you were most likely the same at that age. I am not saying to let them get by with it; your job is to teach your child after all. Consistency is the most important thing a parent can do-biting is never okay, never funny, and never allowed. Over time they will learn, and hopefully the biting craziness will end.

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    • momaoak profile imageAUTHOR

      momaoak 

      6 years ago from Greenwood, AR

      Thank you for the feedback prektjr.dc. I appreciate hearing about others experiences. I am glad that you were able to get your daughter to stop biting.

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      Debbie Carey 

      6 years ago from Riverton, KS, USA

      My daughter was one of those biting children. She had EXCELLENT vocabulary AND vocal skills. She bit because it got immediate results! I did the forbidden. She bit her little brother and I bit her back! HARD! I brought blood to the surface, but did not break the skin. Her 6 month old brother had not fared as well...he was bleeding! That was the LAST time....she looked at me with tear-filled eyes and said, "Mommy , that HURT!" I scooped her up, cried with her and said, "I know!!" She said, "but you LOVE me! Don't hurt me!" I told her then, "Sis, you love your baby brother! Don't hurt him!" She never bit again! NOT what I recommend, but we had truly tried EVERYTHING!

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