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Days of Our Lives Episode Four: What Do You Want to be When You Grow Up?

Updated on November 18, 2015

Dredging My Memory

It’s one of those questions that always crop up during childhood. Our parents will introduce us to some other adults, and inevitably one of them will ask us what we want to be when we grow up….or a teacher will ask….or even one of our friends will ask.

A silly question for a young child, isn’t it? Oh sure, we all have an answer….mine was professional baseball player….but the reality is that it is not reality at all. We have a romanticized vision that is not based on a foundation of logic.

I was reminded of this question the other day while talking to a friend about our youngest daughter, Allora, who just headed off to college for her freshman year. I was asked that question….what does she want to be after college? My answer was a bit vague. I told my friend that Allora was going into the Business program at college and she was interested in Accounting, but that wasn’t set in stone.

The truth is she just isn’t sure yet. Check back in two years and maybe I’ll have an answer for you.

Allora and Bev
Allora and Bev | Source

So That Got Me Thinking

Between the two of us, Bev and I have five children. The oldest is Matt who is a registered nurse and part-time farmer. Second in line is Tyler, who works retail, and then Andrew, a carpenter. Leo is fourth and he’s in California working on a farm and Allora, as previously mentioned, is in college.

I would be willing to bet that if we could go back in time and ask all five of them what they wanted to be, only Allora would match her reality with her dream. The same is true of Bev and I. There is no way a five-year old Bev would have said she dreamt of being a retail merchandiser, and in my wildest dreams I wouldn’t have said I wanted to be a writer.

And yet we are!

And the interesting thing, for Bev and I, is that we are happy. We didn’t even come close to reaching the particular stars we envisioned when we were young, and yet we love our lives.

How cool is that?

I suspect a couple of our kids are not at that point yet. They still have particular dreams, wants and needs they haven’t achieved yet, and that bugs the hell out of them at times, and that means more than a few days, and nights, of dissatisfaction and dis-ease.

My son Tyler
My son Tyler | Source

Here’s the Thing

2015 marks the fiftieth year I’ve been employed in one fashion or the other. My first job was working in the Proctor Bowling Alley. I don’t remember my hourly wage but I know benefits included free bowling and I was ecstatic. Since then I have been a teacher and a lumberyard gofer, a store owner and a retail grunt. I’ve shoveled pig poop and shoveled coal into blast furnaces. I’ve sold wine, sold beer, delivered wine and delivered beer. I’ve mucked out stalls and I’ve driven a taxi, delivered newspapers and yes, written.

Bev has been working close to forty years, and her list of employment opportunities is equally varied and interesting. I went to college. She did not. We are both single parents. We both understand which side of life’s bread is buttered. There are days we haven’t had a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out, and there have been days when we were flush with cash.

Andrew
Andrew | Source

Remembering My Dad

It was my dad’s big dream that I go to college and become the first in our family to do so.

And so I did.

I have three degrees, in Marketing, in Economics and in Education.

I’ve had six-figure incomes.

I’ve been homeless

With those three degrees I’ve owned fine cars and I’ve hitched rides to a homeless shelter.

So when I hear that question, what do you want to be when you grow up, I laugh.

As does Bev.

And my answer to anyone who asks is this…….

From the Movie Meatballs

I don’t know how many of you saw that old Bill Murray movie, but in Meatballs, Murray was a camp counselor. In one scene he is coaching this miserable, ragtag group of kids in a basketball game against some rich kids, and they are getting the stuffing kicked out of them. So Murray has this pep talk with his kids, and he has them chanting “IT JUST DOESN’T MATTER, IT JUST DOESN’T MATTER.”

I still laugh when I think of that scene, and I always think of it when this subject comes up in conversation.

Matt and Leo
Matt and Leo | Source

It Just Doesn’t Matter!

As I said earlier, today, Bev and I are in love with life. We are ecstatic. We are rolling in clover. We are….well, you get the point.

And our happiness has nothing to do with what we do for a living.

Absolutely nothing!

I am happier today working on our urban farm than I was driving a Porsche to my business back in the 70s. I am happier today with a used washer and dryer than I was thirty years ago flying to Mazatlan for vacation.

IT JUST DOESN’T MATTER!

And do you know why?

Because happiness is an inside job!

It makes no difference today what I do for a living.

It makes no difference what Bev does for a job.

And, if our kids learn this lesson, it will make no difference what they do for a living in twenty years.

IT JUST DOESN’T MATTER!

Because happiness is an inside job!

The Greatest Lesson My Dad Taught Me

I understand where my dad was coming from. He was a child of the Great Depression. He worked hard all his life and barely scraped by more often than not, so he was determined that his only son would have it better than he had it…thus the insistence on going to college and his firm belief that the road to success went right through that college education.

But he failed to realize a much more important lesson that he taught to me daily…..

He failed to realize that daily he modeled love for his son, and it was that modeling that led me, eventually, to the realization that love is the most important thing in the world.

Not education, not money, not a three-car garage, not any of that extrinsic b.s.

Love!

If Bev and I have taught our children that lesson, then honest to God, their occupational choice…

JUST DOESN’T MATTER!

2015 William D. Holland (aka billybuc)

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      Janine Huldie 16 months ago from New York, New York

      Love this Bill and you are so right. Definitely didn't know what I wanted to do with my life at 18 years old by any means. And if you would have told I would have been writing and working from home at that point, I would have laughed thinking you were making it up. But still it does work and makes me happy, so that is all that matters. Happy Wednesday my friend and enjoy your day now ;)

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Very true, Janine. Very true! Thank you, my friend, and Happy Wednesday to you.

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      Jackie Lynnley 16 months ago from The Beautiful South

      Wow; great picture of Bev!

      My mom said I would tell her different things every day I wanted to be when I grew up (maybe a nun or a ballerina dancer) and then one day out of the blue I told her I decided to be nothing, just like her!

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Awww, Jackie, that is so sweet. You must have made your mother's day with that line. :) Thanks for sharing that.

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      Nithya Venkat 16 months ago from Dubai

      Happiness is an inside job, so true. True happiness does not depend on material things, it just comes from being surrounded by loved ones and being who we are. Great write.

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      breakfastpop 16 months ago

      My older daughter wanted to be a cow. Instead, she became a lawyer! I just wanted to be happy, and I am!

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 16 months ago from Southern Illinois

      I always dreamed of being a nurse but was doubtful because we were poor. I never once believed I would ever write. That came after retirement. I love to write at times. It is not my main focus at the present. I love how you share a part of your life with we your followers. Thank you.

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Vellur! The best people I know understand this very well.

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Pop, I'll be laughing about that the rest of the day...a cow! LOL

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you, Ruby, for sharing a part of your life. I love to write, although I'm going back to work part-time and won't be writing as often. I will miss it while I'm out in the real world. :)

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      MizBejabbers 16 months ago

      Good for you and Bev, Bill. I had a dream of what I wanted to do when I grew up, and I lived that dream for 20 years until it became a nightmare. I worked in radio and nearly starved to death. Then I became a state employee and discovered security. However, editing law books is fascinating, so I'm happier doing that than looking for my next job in radio. You are right that love is everything, but there is something to be said for having a roof over one's head.

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      MizB, I've had a few days without a roof over my head, so I agree completely. :) Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

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      Liza Treadwell Esq aka Liza Lugo JD 16 months ago from New York, NY

      Bill, I love this. Life is ever evolving. Indeed, happiness is an inside job and most certainly is not defined by material things, careers, or the number of degrees we earn. Happiness is about having love and peace in our life and learning how to overcome the obstacles that life throws us which gives us personal confidence and spurs our growth as human beings. Keep writing about all the things that are really important in this life. You keep all of us grounded and inspired. Many blessings to you and your family.

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      Ruchira 16 months ago from United States

      Loved your perception, Bill.

      Happiness and Career definitely go hand in hand. You are a living example, my friend :)

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Liza! That is sweet of you, and I love your thoughts on this. Why does it take some of us so long to learn these obvious lessons? Well, the good news is, at least we finally do learn them, right? :)

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Ruchira! I really appreciate that.

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      Sally Gulbrandsen 16 months ago from Norfolk

      So true Billy, the only thing which matters is love, the kind which sticks like glue throughout the good and the bad times. Have a great week Billy

      Sally.

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      Brian Leekley 16 months ago from Kalamazoo, Michigan, USA

      Now I'm wondering what does matter. The answer seems close but is elusive. Perhaps after a nap the answer will come.

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Sally. My week has been good so far despite the power outage from a recent storm. I hope yours is good as well.

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Brian, I think a nap is a good plan. Enlightenment just might follow. :) Thanks my friend.

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      mckbirdbks 16 months ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

      Hello Bill what a warm dedication to the absurdity of life. Congratulations on finding 'happiness' that is no mean trick. Can having happiness and being flush with cash coincide? Just thought I'd ask. No use ruling it out. Or I could just write a story now and then.

      Looks like I can suspend my subscription to Grammarly and just paste my stories into a comment section for corrections.

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Mike, I don't know about being flush with cash and being happy, but I sure would like to find out if it was possible. :) In the meantime, I rest comfortably knowing that HP is working so diligently for me. :) Thanks, buddy!

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      Mary Craig 16 months ago from New York

      "Because happiness is an inside job!" I can see that quote on a poster. That is just how it is. If you have family, if you have love and support, the rest doesn't matter. Happiness is an inside job!

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      William Leverne Smith 16 months ago from Hollister, MO

      In high school, I answered "theoretical mathematical nuclear physicist." My ego was apparently working overtime... ;-) For all our differences, I'm fascinated each time you write about these things, how similar so many of our experiences have actually been... but, the underlying truth is still the same... 'happiness is an inside job,' for sure! I love that. THANKS for sharing!! ;-)

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      Linda Lum 16 months ago from Washington State, USA

      Bill, I love this! We wake up each new day with a clean slate and a choice--we can make the best of the little "goods" that come our way, or we can dwell on the little "problems" until they look like mountains. Happiness is indeed an inside job. Not bought with money, or possessions or position.

      You and Bev "get" that, and I'm sure your children do as well. And like you they will try many different professions in life before they find the perfect fit for them. Or maybe not.

      "What do I want to be when I grow up?" I don't know--I haven't grown up yet.

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      Eric Dierker 16 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I would not give up one of my "careers" from carpenter to river runner to exec to lawyer. And I don't dare leave out house painter, plummer's helper ;-) and bartender. So many more. I write from the heart, maybe I should get into my head and write about all those experiences - - - nope, I already do. God I am glad to an American where for sure I am free!

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      Mary Norton 16 months ago from Ontario, Canada

      You are so right Billybuc. Often, we forget what really matters as we're busy with so many things and let our happiness ride on unessentials. Great reminder.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 16 months ago from The Caribbean

      So much wisdom here, Bill, not that I am surprised. You're gifted with life skills and a beautiful complement in your wife. Thank you so much for sharing. My take away? "Happiness is an inside job."

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      Rachael 16 months ago

      I'm positive my Masters Degree in Psychology would agree with this post :) You know, the one I never use because that's not what I was supposed to do with my life.

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Mary! This is a lesson I had to learn the hard way, but learn it I did.

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Bill, I'm convinced we all share many more commonalities...our differences make up such a small percentage. I can build on that with practically anyone if they are willing. :) Thanks my friend.

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      You are me both, Linda! I'm sure enjoying the process of growing up. :) Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Eric, like you, I've been given a plethora of opportunities and, like you, I see them for what they are and were....learning experiences that helped me to grow. Thanks for your thoughts.

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you very much, aesta! It's good to hear from you.

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Dora, that's a good take away, my friend. May happiness always be your companion.

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Rachael, I hear ya! My economics degree looks good on paper and that's about it...but I enjoyed collecting it. :)

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      Genna East 16 months ago from Massachusetts, USA

      Oh that dreaded question we all got hit with long before we reached adulthood: "What do you want to be when you grow up...do you plan to follow in your "mother's (or) father's footsteps?" Like we were all supposed to know -- right? Or maybe they were just trick questions. :-) You have led such a very interesting life, Billy...each step brought you closer to the happy, loving and fulfilling life you live today with Bev and your family. Our parents always wanted the best for us; not to make the same mistakes; to be stronger, secure, and so forth. But it's like the Crosby/Stills/Nash/Young song says in, "Teach The Children." "...and know they love you." I loved that bit from Meatballs!

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      sujaya venkatesh 16 months ago

      prime time is the joyous time

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      Zulma Burgos-Dudgeon 16 months ago from United Kingdom

      'What do you want to be when you grow up?' I've never liked that question. I always felt put on the spot to give an answer and then try to become what I said. It's only in the last ten years or so that I came to realize that no, it just doesn't matter.

      I remember reading somewhere that when John Lennon was in school, his teacher asked him that very question. He responded that he wanted to be happy. The teacher said he didn't understand the question. He replied that the teacher didn't understand happiness. I wish I had been clever enough to respond that way.

      I suppose if you love what you do and it brings you joy, then you're doing exactly what you were destined to do.

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      carol stanley 16 months ago from Arizona

      And who says we are grown up LOL. I have never had any particular aspirations and doing gift baskets for almost 25 years was not in the mix. Who ever heard of gift baskets besides fruit baskets. I have done so many things and I once mentioned you could wall paper an entire wall with my business cards. The important thing to me only and still is..I love what I do and if not it ends.

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Genna, thank you for another great comment...CSNY Teach the Children....great reference. Oh how I love that song. :)

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Yes it is, Sujaya! Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Zulma, I had forgotten that about Lennon...isn't that the perfect response? I wonder if he achieved his goal????

      Thank you my friend!

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Exactly, Carol! I actually enjoy working most days regardless of the job. I find joy and satisfaction in doing a job well, and I know that makes me an oddball, but so be it. :)

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      drbj and sherry 16 months ago from south Florida

      You got that right, Bill, love is the most important factor in our lives and our happiness begins from within. You may now add to your plethora of esteemed titles: "Eminent Life Philosopher."

      I have spoken!

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      Paula 16 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Bro....This is another winner. I thoroughly enjoyed reading about the excitement ( and sometimes confusion) of youth getting a handle on their potential future scenarios.

      When I grow up, it's absolutely necessary that I am in a position to use my talents, experience and education to help my fellow man. I want to have purpose, happiness and "enough" of what it takes to live a healthy, decent life. I must be as independent as possible with strength and resolve to make it through the obstacles and pitfalls, coming out wiser and more cautious. I want to be proud enough to depend on myself and humble enough to know when to ask for help.

      I hope to be an example of compassion, morality and fairness to my children. I would like to make people laugh or be there to hold their hand when they cry. I want to make it a point to learn something new and beneficial every single day.......I.............wait a minute.

      OK, sorry. I've obviously lost track of time. I already grew up to realize all these things. Wow.....I'm feeling pretty damned good!

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      Karen Hellier 16 months ago from Georgia

      Wow, very inspiring writing Bill, as always. I never thought I would be an eBay seller, but it's paying the college bills for my daughter. But I will say that I have wanted to be a writer since I was 10 years old and in the 5th grade and won a poetry contest. It only took me 41 years to start! And I am HAPPY!

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      manatita44 16 months ago from london

      Well put, well-written and flowed extremely well! So who cannot get this message? Who still needs some input on this take on life? Well, it just does not matter, and yes, inner Happiness is 'cool.' I am joining you Bro.

      I say, who are those two stunning beauties up top? Both colours are stunning, and the bouquet enhances the poise and charisma even more, (as if they needed it!) Great Hub, my Friend.

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      Audrey Howitt 16 months ago from California

      Aww does that me I have to grow up? I was counting on not doing that anytime soon!

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      Paula 16 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Audrey! I'm sorry. I must have forgotten to send you a copy of the rules........We are all allowed to embrace & nurture that secret part of ourselves that NEVER ever has to grow up!! It's actually Rule # 1 !!

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      Audrey Howitt 16 months ago from California

      pfew! So glad!

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      Suhail Zubaid aka Clark Kent 16 months ago from Mississauga, ON

      A strong and a powerful hub! And a beautiful one to immerse in - from the opening paragraph and the first picture to the last. Thank you for sharing Bill.

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      drbj, I'm happy just being known as one of your peers, but thank you!

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Damn, Sis, you got it made in the shade. I'd say quit while you're ahead but where's the fun in that? :)

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      I hear ya, Karen! All I wanted to do was play baseball. :)

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      No rush, Audrey! No rush at all!

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      Shyron E Shenko 16 months ago

      If you had asked me when I was a child, I would more than likely have told you that I wanted to be an adult.

      But if I knew then what I know now, I would probably say, who cares?

      Like you and Bev, John and I are together and in love and that is all that matters.

      Interesting hub

      Blessings and Hugs

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      Patricia Scott 16 months ago from sunny Florida

      And no doubt, your children know that. And that is crucial. Parents' expectations and pressures can spell disaster...but just knowing that no matter they choose, your children will have your blessings...well that is all that matters....

      so glad I spied this early this morning...a great way to begin a day...the optimism and positive energy is where I live too!!!

      Angels and blessings to you and Bev and your little flock as well ps

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Manatita, those two lovelies are the two women who keep me aimed in the right direction, and I'm lucky to have them. Thank you brother.

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      True words, Sis!

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Audrey, I find I'm much better off when I listen to Paula. :)

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you so much Suhail!

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Shyron! Who cares indeed?

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      PS, I once led my life in pessimism...I much prefer optimism. Thank you for sharing a part of your day with me. You are always appreciated.

      blessings and hugs on this chilly morning

      bill

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      Larry Rankin 16 months ago from Oklahoma

      Sometimes I feel like it isn't so much what you want to do as what life will allow you to do.

      I agree it just doesn't matter. Just have to enjoy life, every blessed moment.

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      Ann Carr 16 months ago from SW England

      No, it certainly doesn't matter what you want to be when the time for working comes; happiness and love are the important bits. However, it's good to have dreams and goals and I think that's part of the 'what do I want to be' thought process, rather than whether we actually do any of the crazy things we aim for.

      Your family sound wonderful and they are obviously very different - that's the great thing, that each individual is unique.

      I know my granddaughter wants to go into the police but she's busy being a teenager right now and thinking about all sorts of possibilities and pathways. She knows that study is important but she also knows how to live and how to love life.

      Great hub, bill. I always agree with your philosophies so I always enjoy reading your thoughts, along with the humour attached!

      Ann :)

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Larry, that's an interesting perspective and I certainly do understand it. Thanks!

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Ann! It's fascinating watching kids as they develop into adults. I love their journey as much as I love mine, and I know you understand that, my friend.

      Happy Sunday to you and thanks for the note earlier.

      bill

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      Linda Crampton 16 months ago from British Columbia, Canada

      This is an inspiring hub that contains some wise words, Bill. The photo of Allora and Bev is beautiful!

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Alicia. I appreciate you being here.

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      Marlene Bertrand 16 months ago from Northern California, USA

      It just doesn't matter! I wish I had learned this lesson way earlier in life. Like you, I have lived on all levels of the income scale and lived on the top, bottom, and everywhere in between the hierarchy of needs chart. Today, I am earning less money than ever, but I live a richer life. I'm not living the life I planned. But, I am living the life of dreams. Does that make sense?

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      It makes all the sense in the world to me, Marlene, and I'm happy for both of us.

      Happy Thanksgiving, my friend!

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      FlourishAnyway 16 months ago from USA

      I like that: "Happiness is an inside job." Education, however, does make me happy because the day I stop learning is the day I stop living.

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Thanks for sharing that, Flourish! "Ya never stop learning, Bill." My dad's words.

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      Reynold Jay 16 months ago from Saginaw, Michigan

      You Struck a lot of chords for this reader of your HUB today. Meatballs and Bill Murray. There is more to Bill and his silly movies than many would give credit. You did well to live up to your dad's expectations and I imagine may well have surpassed his wildest dreams. Love all the jobs you have done. As always--made me laugh!

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you so much, Reynold Jay! As for the jobs I've had, I can say without hesitation that life has never been boring for me. :)

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      Deb Hirt 16 months ago from Stillwater, OK

      I have enough to live on, but my REAL job is taking care of my feathered friends and their environment. It doesn't get any better in my book.

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      Shauna L Bowling 16 months ago from Central Florida

      I love this post, Bill.

      I've held so many positions since I started working at age 15 (earlier than that if you count babysitting). I've done everything from sell retail to finish drywall. I've been an employment counselor, donut finisher, dietary aid in a hospital, nut polisher (don't laugh!) for a chrome shop to heading up an accounting department. Let's not forget copywriting and weekend DJ-ing for a Christian radio station. The one thing I wanted to do for a living - and was talked out of it by my dad - was be an international stewardess. In fact, I took four years of French in high school to prepare for the role.

      In the end, as you say, it doesn't matter what you do for a living. What matters is being happy.

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Deb, you have the best of all worlds in my opinion. :)

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Well, Sha, I can honestly say, you are the first nut polisher I've known. I'm sure there's a dirty joke in there somewhere but I'm above saying it. LOL

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      Shauna L Bowling 16 months ago from Central Florida

      Oh, trust me, Bill. I was the only woman in the chrome shop. I heard the dirty jokes constantly!

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      I can only imagine, Sha! :)

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      Nancy Mitchell 15 months ago from Bend, OR

      I think you're so right, Bill. We are so much more than what we do. When I'm about to die, I know I won't be thinking: I wish I had spent more time on the job! I know I'll be thinking: I'm so glad for the time spent with my husband and sons, time spent in nature, and time spent learning about the meaning of life. As we grow older, the material stuff means so little and there's a desire to purge what we don't absolutely need -- a streamlining of life. For a long time, my whole existence was defined by being a teacher. But, when faced to teach in a way that I knew was not beneficial to young learners, I walked away. Now I'm asking myself that "What do you want to be when you grew up?" question once again.

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      Bill Holland 15 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Similar paths, Letstalk....I did the same thing. I identified with being a teacher and then, for the same reason, quit a teaching job in October in the middle of a school year....and then the doubts and questioning happened...today I write, but I am so much more.

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      Lawrence Hebb 15 months ago from Hamilton, New Zealand

      Bill

      Awesome, and so true! I was the first in my family to go to college. It wasn't planned and Dad certainly would never have planned it (he always believed that real work was manual) but when I did he was proud as punch!

      When I graduated from basic training in the Army he was proud, but didn't attend, when I finished college you couldn't keep him away!!

      One lesson Mum and dad did teach was money wasn't everything!

      'Two things money doesn't always buy" thry used to say "Health and happiness"

      Great hub

      Lawrence

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      Eric Dierker 15 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Well there you are. I came back to read this again as someone asked my little one what he wanted to be. He said he wanted to do what daddy does. Brought a tear to my eye -- and to my wife's for a different reason ;-) He will be Gabriel, and what he does just doesn't matter. Thanks

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      Bill Holland 15 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Lawrence, great reflections on this hub. Thank you....I love that your dad was proud of you when you graduated despite his belief in manual labor...great share, my friend.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 15 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Not a bit, Eric, but that was sweet to hear for sure. :) Happy Sunday my friend.

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      Jo_Goldsmith11 14 months ago

      Bill,

      You my friend have really said it all! :-) I know when I was a kid I wanted to be a teacher, then an attorney. Then I wanted to be an actress.

      But something finally hit me one day. I realized more than anything, I wanted to be the "Best Me" and enjoy whatever it would be to make a living. As long as it was three important things.

      1.) Honest

      2.) Legal

      3.) Non fattening

      So, like you in some respects, I have been cashier, customer service, hauling boxes, wipe dirty noses. And now a writer, business owner.

      I like the way you share the reality of Love means more than all those other things! Great read. :-) Shared and tweeted.

      By the way, I find it to be so uncanny that I too have a son Andrew! So does my better half as well. He is a dentist of course. My son is still thinking about it. :-)

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      Bill Holland 14 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Jo! The reality of love, or as my favorite character likes to say..."love alters reality."

      blessings always

      bill

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      ocfireflies 14 months ago from North Carolina

      My Dear Bill,

      OH! How I have missed you. Like you and Bev, I have worked so many different jobs, and am one of the few from either side of my family to garner a college degree. Still, throughout all the ups and way too many downs, the one thing that has kept me going is L.O.V.E.

      Most recently, a friend of mine told me that what made me beautiful was my smile which was a really nice thing to say to someone who spends days at a time in tears. A loving heart feels; thus, a loving heart breaks.

      Still, my heart loves in the wake of a period where it sometimes seems as if there are only cynics and haters. Thank You Dear One. As always, you shoot straight, and I think that makes you a stand up sort of man.

      Blessings to You and Yours,

      Kim

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      Bill Holland 14 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Kim, what a lovely surprise. Thank you for the very kind words. I'm sorry to hear about this tough period in your life. Like you I believe in love and its ability to overcome all obstacles and heartaches.

      Sending you hugs on this chilly winter day.

      bill

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      ocfireflies 14 months ago from North Carolina

      Bill,

      Thank you for describing any aspect of my presence as lovely. Smiles. Also, thank you for the hugs because the day began at -11°. Off to read another one of your hubs. I am doing my best to try to catch up.

      Kim

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      Bill Holland 14 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Kim, I spent two years in Vermont and one in Alaska. That was all the cold I ever want to experience in my lifetime. Stay warm and safe and thank you so much for thinking of me upon your return to HP.

      bill

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      Patricia Scott 4 months ago from sunny Florida

      It is indeed...an inside job....happiness does not come from somewhere else, something else, someone else...it begins within and after that it's all gravy.

      It's about choice...choose to revel in the joy of each day or NOT. I choose the former...and ain't life grand ? Despite all that has befallen our family we get up each day and embrace the new day that is here and are thankful.

      Once again am not disappointed when I come to your pages, bill. Hoping you and your family had a lovely Thanksgiving.

      Angels are once again on the way to you ps

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      Bill Holland 3 months ago from Olympia, WA

      PS, I love your message, one born from hard experience. Love is always the key, but we humans have choice, and ain't that a cool thing to have? :)

      blessings and love coming your way

      bill

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