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Depression Associated With Stay-At-Home Moms
This Doesn't Have To Be You!
It may seem far fetched to some but if you are a stay-at-home mom with no outlet and you are feeling down because you don't have a since of who you are anymore you are not alone.
I am a mother of six, entrepreneur, and stay-at-home mom. I have been in the home with my children now for nineteen years and I can tell you that there should have been a book written back when I first decided to stay at home with my children.
I absolutely love the idea of being in the home with my children but I feel we can all agree that being in the home with your children brings changes. After a few years in I started having feelings of being empty and lonely. Feeling as if there has to be more to life than this. It hit me one day that I was so busy caring for every ones needs that I had lost a since of who I was. I actually had to take my mind all the way back before I started having children and ask myself who I was because I really did not know. I realized because I was so busy, I stopped spending time with friends and giving myself the quality time that every person needs. I gained weight and I did not look or feel the same. Life to me was just the same old routine every day. The only time change came about was when I needed to go to the market or take one of my kids to the doctor.
I felt myself falling into a depression. After sharing my feelings with other stay-at-home moms that I knew I realized I wasn't alone and that we as people are more alike in our feelings and emotions than we are different. Knowing what the problem was I needed to fight for my life. I now have what I call me time. Once a month I hire a baby sitter and pamper myself. I either have my hair or nails done. I am looking forward to having a massage done. If I don't pamper myself I go shopping or to the movies. I find almost anything to do that will make me happy.
If this is you, there is hope. Here are some tips to follow when making the decision to become a stay-at-home mom.
Keep yourself up
Have a girls day out
Exercise and eat healthy
Get the proper rest that you need
Share your feelings with your mate
Have a support system (family and friends)
Start or join a stay-at-home moms support group
Here is a stay-at-home mom support group-http://www.cafemom.com
Mothers are so giving that we will even give up ourselves. If we lose sight of who we are then we are no good to anyone else. There is an old saying that "if momma ain't happy nobody is" That old saying is true. Put the same time and energy into yourself that you put into caring for your family. You owe it to yourself. Then you will be able to start another day caring for your family renewed and not drained. Use the tips and make sure your family is happy and you are to!