Do Parents Accept Their Children Living Far From Home
Parents and children
Do parents accept their children living far from home?
The move from one country to another has caused stressful moments, happy moments and frustration too.
Others don't know how I have done it!
They look at me and think it was and still is easy for me to live in a foreign country. My parents would rather have me live back home again than be far away from home.
A choice I made and don't regret it!
- I love my family, but this is where I am now, and I can't change that.
- It is where I want to be and like my choice.
- Acceptance doesn't come easily to parents and to our choices made.
Do I feel bad for moving away from my parents?
- No, I don't feel bad about moving away from my family.
- I married a foreigner and had to someday move to his place.
- I have been back home four times and each time; I realized my new life is waiting for me to return.
- It is just how it is; the changes have made me stronger and more positive.
- The safe environment is what I have grown used to and will not give that up.
I love my family!
- I don't have guilty feelings for leaving home.
- Life has changed and I grew with that life.
- They need to understand my reasons for leaving home.
- Sacrifices are made and not everything goes well, as planned.
- Most parents don't want their children to leave home.
- The home feels empty and sad.
Am I being selfish?
No.
It is what I wanted and had to think of my child's safety too. My family is supportive but misses us. I didn't leave home to deliberately stay away from my parents, or the rest of my family.
It depends on culture as well. In mine, living far from home is not accepted that easily. Parents miss their children more as they get older.
I moved away from home to make my own life elsewhere to be safe. I don't feel guilty, but I miss weddings, birthdays, and funerals and that is something I can't ignore or change. We try to contact each other on such days.
I moved from South Africa to Croatia and have no guilt. At some point I had to leave, so I don't believe anything, or anyone could have made my trip an impossible one. I do feel bad for my sister and wish she could join me in Croatia.
Most parents don't see the choices of their children as good choices. My parents are among those parents. I gave up a lot in my life to live in my new adopted country.
It is the understanding of the movie which remains difficult to explain. Immigration didn't allow me to have my old life back, which I knew could have never been that way. I had to start a new life right away. The experience had taken me through many battles in Croatia.
The life I had no experience with until I made my choice without any research. It is difficult to explain to parents such issues.
Most parents see it only their way. I know my parents are getting older, and they wish I could come back home.
I have a different life now and need to focus on my goals. There were struggles that I kept to myself.
Sometimes I feel certain experiences have taken me far away from home for unexplained reasons.
I miss my family a lot, but I can't go back to live there when I must constantly be looking over my shoulder. It is hard to live far away from family. When I moved away from my family, my perspective on life itself changed.
I became independent and learned how to focus on my family. The meaning of family came to me immediately after my move to Croatia. The family life I sacrificed and my other life for me had changed my lifestyle.
The move made me see how life can go from happy to not-so-happy very quickly. I use my vacation time to travel back home. To be with family and enjoy our special times together.
I felt lonely on many occasions but lived through that with a positive mind. From one state to another, or country to the next my life changed, and I accepted that over time.
When you live the only life you know moving to another country is not something you should take lightly.
You think your place of stay is good for you because you only want to experience that life. A move can destroy you mentally if you don't open up and look at life from a broader perspective.
You can climb hills, but when you climb mountains that is the greatest feeling of freedom.
Everything affects you in a foreign place. The climate is different, and the people can be inquisitive about you, but you got to hold yourself together through these times.
Don't let others know what you are feeling show them what you are capable of in your new beginnings.
At your worst times, you feel depressed and want to go back home. It is normal to feel homesick. Anyone can be affected by hard times.
You don't feel it as much when you are with family, mostly when you are away from family,.
Do you feel negative and depressed about your tough times?
Life is full of adventures and surprises. The unexpected move did create issues in the beginning. Well, it has been fifteen years since those issues, and I have moved on to Croatia. I don't feel isolated or unhappy. Life has changed and I made that change.
I moved away after marriage and that has left the emptiness at home. I realized nothing can change what is right now, but our travels back and forth do mean a lot to us.
No matter where you live the heart knows best. The pain is there, and the scars are there too.
Start over and make your life without a doubt.
Parents need to understand the reasons for their children living far away from home.
You make the move and want a different life that doesn't mean you are selfish or should feel guilty about what you want in your life.
At some point, you would have had to leave home and grow your personality in another part of life. In another part of the world or in another way of life.
Parents should try to visit their children and enjoy a vacation at the same time. The move away from home affects the family and the person who is moving away.
How you deal with the situation has a lot to do with your approach. You choose to be adventurous and to see the world.
An opportunity to live and enjoy life. It is okay to have that bittersweet feeling that happens to anyone in such circumstances.
You will never get back those moments with family, but you can create new special moments.
Sometimes I have mixed emotions about home and my adopted country. There are many issues to deal with and at times I wish that will disappear. Share your feelings with an open mind.
Explore and work your hardest to achieve your goals.
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This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2017 Devika Primić