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Does It Ever End?

Updated on April 18, 2010

Life is short! At least to those of us who have been around a while. The younger generation seem to think that they are going to live forever. They give no thought to how what they do today is going to effect their lives tomorrow, next year, 20 or 40 years from now. It can be very disheartening at times.

My two sons, 26 and 39, have been into drugs over the last 20 years. My oldest finally came to his senses last year and, as far as I know, has been clean. My youngest , on the other hand cannot seem to get shed of the addiction. He and his girl seem to get drawn deeper as time goes by. It's not that he is doing more different drugs, it's that he cannot seem to grip the fact that what he is doing is effecting his daily function, his body and his life over all. I have seen him and his girl lay up in the bed til well into the afternoon totally oblivious to what is going on around them. She cannot even hold a job for more than a week. She has 2 kids that have grown to hate what she does. The 2 kids take care of each other. The strange thing is to talk to these two teenagers you would think that they were the adults in the household. My son does, at least, go to work everyday. But he never has any money, that reason I am sure is obvious.

I cannot begin to tell of the countless times I have gone into my room, closed my door and got on face to God begging Him to take away their addictions. Crying from the depths of my soul for their deliverance. Still to no avail. I know that He hears our prayers and I am sure too that He has His reasons for answering or not. I have prayed at times and he answered within minutes. I have prayed for 11 years now about this and still my son continues to do drugs. We have been given free will and I know it is a lot about the choices that we make. I must say that he is not doing all the drugs he once did, but he still has to do something to get high everyday. I bet in the last 11 years he has gone maybe 7 days without putting some attitude adjusting chemical in his system. I ask myself, as I know in my heart many, many Mom's are asking, Does It Ever End?

What is so sad is that there are people struggling with health issues, wanting to live, to stay alive. Dealing with the pain of what they are going through and fighting with every breath in them to sustain their lives, fighting for each day. Yet these young people put these chemicals in their bodies knowing full well that it could possibly give them a heart attack or a stroke or worse still, end their lives. And they do it over and over again. Giving no value to their own existence, to the beauty of their own lives. I can only imagine what many terminally ill people would give to have the youth and good health in their bodies that these kids are wasting for a temporary high.

I can only hope that the generations that are coming up now, our little ones, will not follow in the footsteps of their older sisters and brothers or even their parents. If it doesn't stop somewhere, this country will be in worse trouble than what it is now. And yes, it can get worse. Drugs are to easily accessible today. From their parents medicine cabinet, their friends, the corner, the internet, mail order. All they need do is ask and someone will make the connection for them. It's just too easy. Just think of the money the government could make off the drug dealers. This country could be out of debt in no time in my opinion. That is how rampant the drug situation is here.

This problem will not come to an end soon enough for me. Many lives will be lost due to drugs in one way or another. How do you get a grip on something so out of control? I believe it starts in each individual household. Keep an eye on your kids and who they hang with, their behavior, their grades. You can buy drug tests across the counter, test them if you feel they may be using. We have to try some way before the future of this country goes down the tubes hand in hand with drugs. We the people and those fighting for it are what make this a great country. Lets bring it back to safety for our kids, for their futures. They are the future of this nation, we need to take resposibility to teach them from a young age to say 'NO!' to drugs. Educate and stress to them the risks and consequences of drug use. I still believe that one person can make a difference in this world. We each need to be that one person in a childs life. We each can make a difference, and when they get older they will make a difference and the ripple effect continues from there. We just need to start it.


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    • singlmomat52 profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago

      Nice to see you here ahorseback, thank you for reading my hub! As I have said before, I write to vent, to help myself sort things out and hopefully to help others. Your comment is so true, we all have scars, but sometimes we don't realize the scarring til we mature or til it's to late. People can only be helped if they want to be. Peace to you as well and believe me I have found serenity here. Thank you so much!!!

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      7 years ago

      Singlemom , I am always amazed to hear addicts talk about thier pain and tials in life , but quietly behind the sceens the families are the ones disintegrating and paying the highest price. The scars run very deep in the children and the parents of essentially, some very selfish people. My father was an alcoholic and raised nine children and in one way or another all of us have our scars , mostly internal , and my father has been gone for almost twenty years . I always want to grab someone , shake them up and tell them that the path that they cut through thier life leaves a wide opening in the souls of thier children and parents.The child pays the highest price , they will live longer with the marks . Peace ,a little luck and serenity is what I wish for you. Stay well . And thank you for the help that you give to everyone .

    • singlmomat52 profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago

      Thank you so much for your comment. Many have no idea what it's like to go through something like this. I am so sorry that you had to. Take care and thanks again.

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      James A Watkins 

      8 years ago from Chicago

      I truly empathize with you and your situation. I have a son, 32, with similar issues, hooked on painkillers after a traffic accident. He once had a beautiful home, fancy car, lovely clothes and furniture, tons of great friends, pretty and nice girlfriends—and a great job and trade. All gone now. He just sits around and vegetates.

    • singlmomat52 profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago

      Thank you Specialk, all prayers are welcomed!

      It has been very tough.

      But I remember seeing somewhere a few years ago, 'don't give up 5 minutes before the miracle'. So I continue to pray, I will never stop. Thanks again!

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      Karen Metz 

      8 years ago from Michigan

      I will be praying for your sons! I can only imagine what you are going through everyday wanting your son's to come back to God.

    • singlmomat52 profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago

      Thank you for reading my Hub and for your comment Susan.

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      8 years ago

      I totally agree with you on this topic.

      Susan Lynn


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