Does Mommy & Daddy Still Make You Feel Incompetent?
I love my mother, Lord knows I do but everytime we have a phone conversation or are together I always get that tone of "you need to do this and you need to that." It's always as if I don't know how to do anything. I have been living on my own for the past 10+ years and I think I've done pretty good so far. And if you were to ask her she'd probably say the same thing. I mean, I'm an only child and I've always been responsible. But everytime I talk to her I get a one-liner here and there that just runs up my spine and makes me want to scream "I know what I'm doing!"
One example, I simply mentioned that my face felt dry and without her giving it a second thought I was told that I need to moisturize. These constant little bits of already known pieces of advice drives me nuts! What makes her think that I don't know to do these things already? Does she not remember that she raised me to do such things? And I know to you it may sound like nothing but to me it's just another thing to make me feel like she doesn't realize that I'm capable of taking care of myself. What makes parents do this?! Do they really think that we aren't able to take care of ourselves without their guidance? Do they believe that we've made it on our own by sheer dumb luck? What annoyances do your parents provide you with that make you go insane and how on earth do you cope with them?