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Does Mommy & Daddy Still Make You Feel Incompetent?

Updated on October 2, 2011
Is this what they're really saying?
Is this what they're really saying?

I love my mother, Lord knows I do but everytime we have a phone conversation or are together I always get that tone of "you need to do this and you need to that." It's always as if I don't know how to do anything. I have been living on my own for the past 10+ years and I think I've done pretty good so far. And if you were to ask her she'd probably say the same thing. I mean, I'm an only child and I've always been responsible. But everytime I talk to her I get a one-liner here and there that just runs up my spine and makes me want to scream "I know what I'm doing!"

One example, I simply mentioned that my face felt dry and without her giving it a second thought I was told that I need to moisturize. These constant little bits of already known pieces of advice drives me nuts! What makes her think that I don't know to do these things already? Does she not remember that she raised me to do such things? And I know to you it may sound like nothing but to me it's just another thing to make me feel like she doesn't realize that I'm capable of taking care of myself. What makes parents do this?! Do they really think that we aren't able to take care of ourselves without their guidance? Do they believe that we've made it on our own by sheer dumb luck? What annoyances do your parents provide you with that make you go insane and how on earth do you cope with them?


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    • NiaG profile image

      NiaG 6 years ago from Louisville, KY

      I know. I never show any disrespect I grimace and bare it. Like you said she brought me into this world. But sometimes I just wonder what she's thinking.

    • satice_j profile image

      satice_j 6 years ago from via the Bronx, NY

      NiaG, you know mothers will be motherly and I think it is force of habit. You are, as I am always told by my Mommy, her baby girl. When I get comments from my Mommy that make my eyes roll back, I just hush and listen. Then I think about what was said. If she is on the money, I follow through. If I disagree, I gripe to my good friend who lives a few doors away. I just continue to love her more than anything. The woman brought me into the world and I am glad she never had the opportunity to "take you out it, too," as I often heard her finish a sentence when she was perturbed with my behavior. And I was a bad kid! Not really she'll say! Anyways, just love your Mom to death as you do, and think about what she says before getting a bit sancitified! Peace!