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Elderly Parents Love and Patience
Your Elderly Parents & You
Parents put out an amazing amount love and or work for their children to try to
ensure they do grow up to be healthy above, all well-balanced individuals. As an
adolescent makes the transition into adulthood, that person realizes (or they should)
the extent of what their parents have worked for, as well as it is possible to give back
when their parents reach the age of transition to senior-hood. You want them to have
peace of mind even though they’re sometimes seem confused and not sure of things
around them. Don't take thing personally.
Usually in families of more than one sibling, their is usually one that takes on the
responsibility of actually taking care of the parent or parents and one or more
looking solely at the bank account, and on the siblings back all the time about
everything but taking care of the mom or dad needing the assistance. In this day
and time it is more than smart to do what a person or family can to help with the
senior than throw six or seven thousand dollars down the drain just to get the same
treatment a senior can get without a dime. It's just not right to rape a senior of their
estate because they worked all of their life to put some money in the bank for a rainy
day and they can't enjoy it. It's cheaper to live in a Holiday Inn with a weekly maid
service than to go to an assisted living facility.
As a family there are certain things that can be done to improve the quality of life for
the senior or seniors. There are many practices you should avoid in order to become
more useful for your family by bringing all the members of the family closer.
As parents with children growing up there are many responsibilities that you are
expected to do and as a son or daughter with parents of old age that are still alive
again there are many different situations you have to adjust to as to make life livable
for them and yourself. Some people just can't find it in there ability to make these
changes. It gets rough sometimes and it's hard not to take everything personally.
In different parts of the world there are different trends and norms to follow. Some
areas of the world the children end up living with the parents till their , lets say up to
38 or 40 before they move out on their on and even then they have a rough time of it
unless they find a wealthy widow or something of the sort to take care of them as
their parents did. Usually in this situation the siblings were as a rule also used to
having their grandparents there also. On the other had as here in this States the
children, when they graduate from high school are ready to move out and get from
under their parents rule. The problem is, even now when it is harder to find work,
they need money and their so called President is only making things worse for all.
So they sometimes come back to the nest. If they make it they are not used to
having their parents around all the time.
When your parents grow old, you have a responsibility to give back all the love and
care that they dished out you, changing your diapers, feeding you, trying to build you
into a strong individual so you could make it on your own, without further
assistance, but when in time of need who did you turn to? Your parents, over and
over again. Some people never do, but as a rule, thay are always there for you unless
you burnt your bridges long ago. maybe you even have a friend that will help out
from time to time. In one case I spoke with a family that has a Cosmetologist that
will keep their mom from time to time at the shop for an hour or so to give them a
break. Even though it’s a short period of time it gives you a much needed break. Be
creative in asking for help. Later we will talk
When your parents reach old age, it is your responsibility to do what you can for
them. Slamming them in a nursing home just because you can is not the solution.
Is that where you would want to be? Get up, take your medicine, and sit around a
table with a bunch of deadbeats (pardon the expression but I hear the old men go
through the women like exlax goes through them ) that are so lonely because their
kids never come to see them at all and about to lose your mind because some
attendant is on their ass 24-7. You have to learn to respect the old age of your
parents. Unless you don't make for some, God forbid, reason, you will be in the
same boat one day and I;m sure you don't want to become Jack Nicolson as in
"One Flew Over the CooCoo's Nest".
Patient's is a virtue especially with older parents. It can get rough when they aren't
exactly themselves, but you juat can't take everything personally. Some things, they
just can't but saying but don't mean them. Lighten up my friends. I'm certainly sure
there were times when you were young that they would have beaten you to an inch
of your life if they could have but did not raise a finger in anger. They spent much
time doing their best to show you what they considered the ride road to take as so
you could reach your finally destiny in the best way possible. Give it back to your
parents, grandparents, or whoever raised you. Don't take thing personally. They
don't mean it. You can do it. Keep them in their home and save money too! Move
in with them if you can.