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Embrace These Parenting Behaviors For the Sake of Your Children's Future

Updated on March 18, 2017

You may recall with a tinge of regret how your parents behaved in a certain manner that did not in any way help you in becoming what you wanted to be. Of course, you may be reluctant to blame them because their circumstances were different. Further, they are, after all, your parents and they may have always wished you well.

Of course, you are only to blame and not your parents nor your circumstances or other factors if you have not succeeded in becoming what you wanted to be even after growing into an adult. We have come across several thousands of people who could accomplish great feats despite their unenviable backgrounds or circumstances.

You may have become a parent yourself now and may not want to feel guilty in future that you have not created a conducive atmosphere for your children so they could become what they wanted to be. You can use the following tips for setting your children on the right path to success.

1. Never discourage your children when they try new things

If your children express their desire to try a new field or skill, do not discourage them. They may fail but do not consider it as a drain on your finances. Remember that the lessons they learn from their failure are invaluable. You may say that your intention of preventing them from trying new things is noble because you do not want them to taste failure. But children have to realize that failure and success are inseparable parts of life and that they have to learn to manage both the phases with equanimity and with a positive mindset.

2. Do not over-pamper your children

There may be a number of chores your children can handle and so, do not do those chores under the pretext that you are helping them. Instead, insist that they should only do them. For example, children will make a mess of things when they play. But once they finish playing, they should keep their toys and other items in the right place. Let them learn that "there is a place for everything and everything should be in its place." This will help them grow into well-functioning, disciplined and well-organized adults.

3. Do not over-praise them

It is true that you must never fail to appreciate your children for their accomplishments. But if you exceed the limits and over-praise them even for successfully carrying out small chores, you will be spoiling them instead of motivating them. There are parents who think that if they give gifts to their kids for every chore they carry out, they can keep them motivated. But experts point out that this is a form of bribing and that this can corrupt the minds of the children. Therefore, limit your praises only to accomplishments that are worthy of being lauded.

4. Encourage your children to develop friendships

There are a number of parents who are highly protective of their children. They do not even allow their kids to develop friendships. This is wrong. Though you must be concerned about the choices they make, you should not be unduly protective. In the present-day context, effective social networking is absolutely necessary and your children will be deprived of the opportunities such networking presents if they are prevented from developing friendships.

Of course, there are no perfect rules that can help in differentiating between good friends and bad friends. A lot of trial and error is involved in this process. You need not worry because children will learn as they move along. But you must ensure that they do not lose good friends and should keep bad elements at a distance. This means you must keep your ears and eyes open during their learning phase. Instead of interfering too much, you must guide them in a subtle manner.

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      Raman Kuppuswamy 6 months ago from Chennai, India

      Peachy,

      I think you should gradually reduce pampering your son and allow him to make decisions. If you find it difficult, you can offer him choices. I think it will make things easy for him. Once you are confident that he is capable of making his decisions, you can allow him to make independent decisions. You have to adopt patience and work towards achieving this aim.

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      peachy 6 months ago from Home Sweet Home

      I have a serious problem, I pamper my only son very much that he is not independent at all