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Family hurting family

Updated on October 19, 2016

The turbulence is like a waterfall.

Like a waterfall.
Like a waterfall. | Source

When family hurts family

When families hurt their families and friends who are as close as family, they break up a bond that can never be fully repaired. When outsiders begin the rift and keep it going with lies and hatred, the bond is gone for good. No one can overcome such tactics and remain as they were. Sadly, there are too many people out there who use a single statement, twisted to suit their own needs, to hurt, change, cause anger, and make themselves look good. The hurt is real. The pain is real. The change is more real than anything else.

A chance remark retold

A chance remark, twisted around, and told to someone else

A coarse exchange that never was is passed and lies upheld

A fight begins between innocents who had not planned the strife

Now, as before, the anger grows with more lies and no one is nice

The lying party smirks and smiles, their tactics worked so well

They wait in silence, feigning innocence, till another lie they tell

Ever been there?

Has anyone you know told you something bad about a friend, family member or lover that you found hard to believe?

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How do people believe the lies?

How do you believe people when others are so adamant about what they heard, saw, or remembered. How can anyone know who is the liar and who is not. Well, the liar will be loud, obnoxious, and mean and they will come back and do it again. If the one they hurt stays out of the picture, they will grow tired of rehashing the same information and will chose another on which to vent their powers of deceit. They will be found out, eventually; but they will cause a great deal of stress, strife, and hardships along the way. Sadly families, friends, and lovers will be torn apart before this person is done. And the liar will always appear to be the innocent one while everyone else suffers from their lies and deceit. It takes long hard times to discover the liar; and by then the damage is done.


If you have a family member or friend that you have known for a long time, try to sift through all of the words spoken before you make a decision, because the truth, no matter how hard to believe, is in there somewhere. And maybe, just maybe, you'll find the lie!

Let your family waterfall become a steady river

From a waterfall to a steady river.
From a waterfall to a steady river. | Source

Are you a liar without knowing?

Have you heard something about a friend, neighbor, or co-worker that you found wild or hard to believe? Did you pass it on? Were you asked about the person in question? Did YOU ask the person in question?

We often hear things and think nothing of passing the information on to others because the person telling us wouldn't lie, would they? Sadly, even those who pass the information on may be passing on a lie. How? By believing without checking; by embellishing without facts; by speaking without consent.

But everyone does it, right? Sadly, most do. They think nothing of passing on rumors and gossip; but, when it comes to something about them, they can't believe it was actually passed on. How dare anyone says such lies about them. A friendship or family is sacred, right? Was it to them, you think, before they spoke?

Before you pass on rumors and gossip, try thinking about how you would feel if such things were being said about you. Then, putting yourself in their shoes, stop the gossip before it goes any further. After all, rumors and gossip can only move on if someone repeats it.

© 2012 Cheryl Simonds

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      Cheryl Simonds 5 years ago from Connecticut

      AnnaCia, you are so right, the problem begins when they talk behind your back and then it gets back to you from another--heart breaking!

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      AnnaCia 5 years ago

      Hi. Very interesting and realistic topic. I voted on the poll no, due to the fact that I do not let others talking bad about my family or dear friends. The thing is not to give the opportunity for the person to even start talking.

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      Cheryl Simonds 5 years ago from Connecticut

      kj, as always, I welcome your comments and incites. You are very correct in stating that society is in trouble because of this. It isn't just family, it has become everyone. People say and do what they feel will make them look good and don't seem to care what it might do to others, or themselves in the long run. Thanks for reading and commenting.

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      kjforce 5 years ago from Florida

      cherylone...It is said we can't choose our family...that being said, what makes us think we don't have to work at that relationship, as we would a friend ? Sometimes, because it is family we hurt without thinking and take for granted, no apology unconditional love...we need to pay more attention to family than friends...that's why society is in trouble today...thanks for giving a heads' up...great hub..