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The Fatherless Child....Now All Grown Up

Updated on January 20, 2014

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Have you ever said to yourself, that you would never leave your child's side no matter the circumstances? Have you ever said, that you would always love and never miss a moment with your child? Well I say this all of the time, and stand firm with those words. I can't wrap my mind around a reason why a person would not want to be in their children's lives. They are a image of you, you help bring this child in the world, and they give you love like no other. Growing up, I seen my Father from time to time. I would never see or spend time with him on a daily basis. All I had to look to was my older brother, and that was not his responsibility to be my father. Reaching my teen years I would cry for him, and wonder why he never wanted to be around like the other dads I saw in my surroundings. I started to blame myself, and I started to blame my mother for not pushing him to do what he was suppose to do. At that time I just didn't get it, and I was growing angry and frustrated with it all. I wanted to have a father in my life so bad that I would go and look for one. Not actually searching, but when I came across a man that I liked I would smother them with my phone calls, visits, and just wanting them to be there and never leave. It was a struggle to understand that neither of those men that I thought I loved, or cared for could never be the father that I needed.

Moving On....

I know that there are more than a few things in life that you just have to walk away from. You can only do and say so much, and things aren't changing, then it is time to move on. I had to learn that the hard way with dealing with my father. I continued to believe that he would come around, and he didn't. I continued to believe that he would call, but he didn't. As much as I needed him to just be there, I had to move on. I'm not saying that I just completely ignored him, or acted as if he never existed. I simply put my feelings to the side and thought more with my mind rather than my heart.

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We Need You....

I can assure any male, that all daughters need their fathers. I understand that men have special relationships with their sons, but your daughters need you too. They need a good father to look up to, so when she is in her adulthood she would know how to be treated. She needs you for advice, security, and just the love. A father who is there for the good and the bad. Her first break-up, her first job, and when walks down that aisle. Fathers also need to know that it isnt all about how much money you can spend, or what kind of car you buy for you daughter, but it is all about time being spent. Its about listening to her, and enjoying the conversations you and your daughter has. Get to know your daughter, because there will be times where she doesn't want to go to mom and she will look for you. You surely don't want her to find a father image in the streets. Be there, protect her, and love her and trust me she will love you back.

Why I Wrote This

I wrote this blog because I too wanted my father growing up. I had a short conversation with my father the other night and I usually write blogs to vent. This is why this blog is so short. I honestly feel like I can relate to a variety of people, and people would understand where I am coming from. I have been through quite a bit, single mother of three, and I too grew up fatherless. I'm praying that someone reads this, and could possibly feel better. I know it sounds bad, but just to know that you are not alone and you can move forward with the things that bother you. I always say, things happen for a reason, learn from it, and Move On. Try not to dwell on the past if it isn't positive, and work on making more positive memories for you to look back on.

I also believe that people have remember that you cannot change the past, what has been done is already done. You can try to fix things, and make it better, you can forgive and forget....but to me, you must MOVE ON!!

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    • jns-211 profile imageAUTHOR

      Jara 

      5 years ago from North Carolina

      Awwww Ericdierker, thankyou so much. I have much more to write about....Stay tuned.

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      Eric Dierker 

      5 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      My new friend, know that you are loved.

    • jns-211 profile imageAUTHOR

      Jara 

      5 years ago from North Carolina

      Hello Ericdierker, I am so glad you read my post and I appreciate your feedback. It can be tough growing up without both parents, but I do believe that you do become stronger in the long run. I agree, my heart goes out to those who may have sorrow because of a absent parent.

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      Eric Dierker 

      5 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I liked reading this. My father was absent since I was about 7. But I he had so much love for me I felt he was always with me. Anyway your hub was a nice reflection for me. And my heart goes to those who have sorrow in their memories of childhood.

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