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7 Most Valuable Relationships Prioritized

Updated on March 21, 2018
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God and Finances

Two of the most important factors in operating a healthy family is having God in it, and strong financial planning. Budgeting is ever so critical to keep and maintain a household. You have the main money earner – head of household, and the dependant(s) – usually children. It is the practice of submitting to Godly principles that helps keep the cash flow healthy.

Family Relationship Order

The biblical order in which relationships are to be observed according to Doc Burkhart Ministries in priority are:

  • God - Our heavenly Father who created man
  • Spouse - husband or wife
  • Children - the dependants of the family
  • Parents - the ones who birthed you
  • Extended Family - siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc.
  • Fellow Believers - those who share the same faith as you
  • Rest of the World - all others not included in the above

When these priorities are intact, a more happy family life will be achieved. For churchgoers, it is easy to place fellow believers on a higher level than the bible suggests. Many church people treat fellow believers better than families. In some instances, the non-church-goer family member removes or disassociates himself or herself from the loved one who believes in God....this causes a breakdown in the relationship.

The Church's Role In Teaching Family Principles

I have always thought that the church plays a critical role in teaching on family principles. And I believe that the church should put into practice the order of relationships, starting with the Pastor. Some Pastors give more time to the church than their spouse – this is a common problem amongst pastors. The church has powerful influence in the lives of the members who attend on a regular basis. When the church has activities that involve family, spouses and children – we are headed in the right direction. However, when the church uses the services of good members and overtaxes them, the family deterioriates.

Common Out-of-Order Priority:

First Hand Information. Growing up as a pastor’s kid , I saw my dad spend countless hours with fellow believers. Outside of the scope of his pastoral duties – he would spend additional hours, evenings and weekends seeing after the needs of the congregation and also the needs of other pastors. He was well-respected among other pastors and their congregation. It was a sacrifice my dad made.

Honoring Parents. According to the scripture, parents are to be honored so that our days may be long upon the land, which the Lord God giveth.

Following are the five best family relationship and principles to live by:

  1. Family comes before people outside your home.
  2. Partnership and collaboration guides a family to victory.
  3. Enjoyment and entertainment starts at home.
  4. Finances and budget planning should be managed together.
  5. Spiritual foundation starts at home.

The book of Ephesians provides solid direction and guidance for family relationships.


Be ye therefore followers of God, as dear children; and walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet smelling savour - Ephesians 5:1,2


Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord – Ephesians 5:22


Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it – Ephesians 5:25


Children, obey your parents in the Lord; for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; that is may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. –Ephesians 6:1, 2, 3

Clemson University - Extension Family and Consumer Sciences - Family Life states: We must remember that: families are the source of love, protection and identity for their members; all families have strengths, but many families today face exceptional challenges and families are the backbone of communities.

Each of us belong to a family.  Whether you are single, married, widowed, or divorced, you belong to a family.  Single, widowed and divorced people trust in God and answer to him.  Married people answer to God and their spouse.  Children answer to God and their parents.  Take a moment and assess your family need and accountability system, because we all need someone to give an account to.  I hope you are giving an account to the right person in your life, and if you are not, re-order your life to get back on track.  There is strength in family.


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    Sima Ballinger 6 years ago from Michigan

    Hi MsDora, I sure do appreciate your kind comments about my Hubs. Congrats on your HubNugget winners - I will have to stop by and read what I have been missing.

    Be Blessed!

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    Dora Weithers 6 years ago from The Caribbean

    Your hubs are all beautiful and well-written. This one is no exception. Voted UP and USEFUL. Thanks.

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    Sima Ballinger 6 years ago from Michigan

    AllSuretybonds, appreciate your comment. I am glad you enjoyed. Relationships is one of the most difficult aspects of life - we all are challenged at one time or another with relationships. -- Whether it be spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, church friends, boss, etc... We should be ever so careful to put first things first, and then the rest will fall in line.

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    AllSuretyBonds 6 years ago

    Treasuresofheaven I enjoyed reading this. It is refreshing to read about something that is uplifting. Great hub.

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    Sima Ballinger 6 years ago from Michigan

    Hi, thanks for stopping by. I am glad you are discovering family - Family is extremely important. You will reap the benefits when you focus where focus is needed most.

  • profile image 6 years ago from upstate, NY

    Treasuresofheaven-This is essensial advice, thanx for sharing! Charity starts at home because that's the way God designed it. We're discoving right now a close family member in great need and we didn't even know it!

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    Sima Ballinger 6 years ago from Michigan

    Thanks Sun-Girl. Nice to have you back. Wow! I am glad you get somethings from reading my hubs - CHEERS back!!!

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    Sun-Girl 6 years ago from Nigeria

    Wow, treasuresofheaven. Am so pleased to read from you once again after a long time because i have always enjoyed reading your article because of the great joy and satisfaction and inspiration i CHEERS.

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    Sima Ballinger 6 years ago from Michigan

    Marcella Glenn, thanks for commenting, it is always good to see you.

    Meditationiseasy, glad you find this hub "good advice." Thanks!

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    Sima Ballinger 6 years ago from Michigan

    Niki Hampton, you have brought an additional thought to consider. I do agree that we must love ourselves - very important. Appreciate you challenging us!

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    Sima Ballinger 6 years ago from Michigan

    penlady, my very point. Thanks for pointing out the value in this hub.

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    Sima Ballinger 6 years ago from Michigan

    ClickrNet, thanks for the warm and kind comments.

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    Sima Ballinger 6 years ago from Michigan

    You are welcome Truckstop Sally! Thanks for your comment. God and family, very important.

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    MeditationIsEasy 6 years ago from NJ

    Good advice. :)

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    Marcella Glenn 6 years ago from PA

    Great hub!

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    Niki Hampton 6 years ago from Oregon

    Thanks for the beautiful hub. Mine are a little different as I am still working on my spirituality and am not currently associating the name God or anything to it, but I thoroughly believe in putting your marriage before your children. I think the relationship with yourself goes at the top too. It often goes against our instinct and even our actions, but our love for ourselves affects every other relationship we have.

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    penlady 6 years ago from Sacramento, CA

    God bless you for this hub. I truly believe that if people acknowledged God more, the world wouldn't be as troubled as it is today. Hopefully this hub can help them see their way home to our beautiful Creator.

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    ClickrNet 6 years ago from Bergen County, NJ

    This, in my opinoin is just a warm, wonderful, and simply amazing hub. Keep up the good work and GOD bless!

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    Truckstop Sally 6 years ago

    Your 5 tips are practical and wise. Thanks for reminding us about the importance of God and our families.

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    Sima Ballinger 6 years ago from Michigan

    Thanks sofs, you have come in strong and bold today - I like that! Appreciate your wisdom about relationship priorities! (hug back 2 you)

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    sofs 6 years ago

    I love this, put God first, preeminence, Spouse next, children, parents, extended family and the family of God, lastly the world. Get your priorities right ... you say it well!! ((hugs))