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From Boys to Good Men...A Mother's Pride

Updated on March 5, 2013
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When Will There Be A National "Adult Son's Day"?

There should be a national, no international, “Adult Son’s & Daughter’s Day”. There are Mothers and Fathers Day and Grandparents Day and all kinds of other title days. Why not a day set aside so parents can proclaim to the world how wonderful their offspring have turned out, despite the lack of a user’s manual and shortcomings of the parents.

These two sons, I am so glad to be in my life, are now approaching middle age. Son 1 turned 40 this past January and Son 2 just turned 39. That’s hard to believe since I certainly don’t seem to be old enough to have offspring with graying hair. Son 1 has been on his own since he was 18 years old and married for almost eighteen years now. Son 2 has been married for eight years (engaged seven) and is the daddy to my only Grandson. Both guys did something right when choosing their spouses, for my Daughters-In-Love are amazing women. They each…complete my sons!

Because of life situations going on in my family over the last year or so, I’ve become acutely aware of how very blessed I am to witness the men my sons have grown into. They each are loving guys and don’t care who knows it. It makes this momma very full of pride to think that I must have done something right in rearing two pretty amazing men. My little contribution, at making the world just a little better … one person at a time.

I believe a couple of examples to prove I have the right to boost are warranted just about now.

Last year about this time, Son 1 and his wife, took it upon themselves to make the last few months of a favorite aunt more pleasant by moving her from a nursing facility into their own home. The family knew she did not have much more time. When they decided to do this huge undertaking, at first I was not so sure it was a good idea since Son 1 was just recovering from a serious health issue. But, they proved me so very wrong and I’m glad they did! I asked Son 1 "What made you decide to do this for Aunt P?" His reply "I promised her she would not die in a nursing home and Mom you always taught me to not make a promise if I could not keep it." They took this monumental task and with the help and support of their circle, had everything under control. Aunt P was able to pass from this world in peace surrounded by warmth and love rather than in a place where she would just have been the patient in bed two.

For well over a year, wife of Son 2 has been experiencing some unusual problems with her health. Being a fairly new, and I might add, a great mom as well as a devoted nurse, she has always taken on her roles with zest and sincerity. I don’t know how she does it but she fulfills these responsibilities enduring much pain and discomfort. It goes without saying that Son 2 is heavily concerned. But it must be said, his handling of the situation with the care and love as he has and will continue to do, is something in which many men would not do. From running errands, caring for their 2½ year old son, washing dishes or doing laundry, the yard, his job and whatever else is needed, he is there for her. His words to me recently where “Mom, she would do it for me, she’s my wife, we’re a team.”

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The Prayers of a Mother are Honored

My mother used to say “God honors the prayers of a faithful, praying mother even when she’s no longer around.” I believe this to be true and proven, by how my sons have turned out. The prayers of this mother have changed throughout their lives, just as the needs have. But, a couple of petitions have remained the same. I have always prayed that God would guide my sons to make wise decisions in all they do, especially in their relationships and that they would be loving, supportive and care-giving to the people that are placed in their paths.

Even though this mom has not been involved in the day to day lives of my sons for twenty years, I can and always will claim, with pride, “those are my sons”. I’m not one of those moms who thinks I need to be in constant contact with my adult kids nor do I expect a daily report. They are after all, adults. They know I’m available, whenever and whatever the need might be. And they don’t “owe me” anything. They did not ask to be born. God has a plan for them and they are on their personal quest in this thing we call life.

God continues to honor this momma’s prayers every day. As well as, those of my mother and her mother before her. For I believe it’s every praying mother’s heart to know her children are…on the ready for friends in need and…doing all they can to insure their family’s are taken care of with a fullness of love beyond measure. Yes, God honors my prayers. The proof is displayed daily in the way my sons live their lives. They both are “Good Men” and the people in their lives will attest to that fact!

Something Else To Be Thankful For

It’s so good to know that all divorced mothers do not always raise children that continue the vicious, heart wrenching way of life, divorce brings to a family. I am the product of divorced parents as well as my three younger siblings. Each of us have experienced divorce, some more than once. I was divorced from my sons’ dad when they where just beginning grade school. Their wives also come from divorced homes. Sadly, most people in our world today, know how this does not just affect the couple that is dissolving a union, but the family as a whole has to work through the loss, especially the children. It’s something you never really outgrow. You struggle continuously, adapt more and learn to make a home again. You do all you can as a single mother to instill into your kids that a home can be a good place with just one parent and at the same time surround them with families that function as dual parent homes. (That's a whole other article I will do some day). Unfortunately and too many times the lifestyle is often passed from one generation to the next. Not intentionally of course, but somehow, all too often, it happens. Sometimes it's even expected that divorce breeds divorce. Fortunately and thankfully it is not always the case…as with my sons and their wives, who seem determined to make their marriages last! Did I say I was a happy momma!?!

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      Pat Materna 

      5 years ago from Memphis, Tennessee, USA

      Christy ... I just wish we lived closer so I could spend more time with yall. Lovyamadly

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      Christy 

      5 years ago

      I am blessed to have John as my husband. And what makes it double the blessing is he come with this wonderful family :) Great story momm2 love you

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      Pat Materna 

      5 years ago from Memphis, Tennessee, USA

      Lauren, Thanks for checking my story out ... hope you will read the other articles too .. lovya AP

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      Lauren Cunningham 

      5 years ago

      Great story! Loved reading it! Keep them coming

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      Pat Materna 

      5 years ago from Memphis, Tennessee, USA

      Thanks Charlotte, so glad you finally got around to reading it!! Hope you get a chance to ready the others soon. LYM

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      Charlotte 

      5 years ago

      Wonderful article!

    • PaisleeGal profile imageAUTHOR

      Pat Materna 

      5 years ago from Memphis, Tennessee, USA

      Nancy, thanks for the sweet thots... please check out my other articles.. just click on my picture and it will take you to my listings.... or just type in PaisleeGal at the top of the page .. there's a lot of good stuff to read and learn on HubPages.com

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      Nancy Miller 

      5 years ago

      Hi Pat! I really enjoyed your story and was wishing I could express myself in writing as well as you do. I know how you feel about your boys and they have turned out to be such good men. I too am proud of my son and daughter. Keep up the good work. This is my first visit to HubPages and I will tr to learn more about it. Love you dear friend.

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      Pat Materna 

      5 years ago from Memphis, Tennessee, USA

      Thank you so much Polly. This particular one I know you can relate to also. I'm beginning to think maybe Story telling is what I'm supposed to to. Have you read all of the ones I've posted? I will have to say I'm a little disappointed that more of my circle of folks haven't been supportive. Don't even know if they are reading them. Love you LilSis! :)

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      Pollybird 

      5 years ago

      I am going to try and write this comment through flowing tears. God has given you a wonderful gift, Sis.....the gift of Story Telling. I feel deep in my soul that This is what you were meant to do. Keep them coming cause I look forward to each and every "Story".

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