ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

Homegrown children

Updated on April 18, 2012

What is a homegrown child?

I think I am a homegrown child (thank you Mom and Dad!) and I'm trying, I think, to make my own two sons homegrown children too.

To me the word Homegrown conjures up images of:

  • Sitting on top of my dad's shoulder's while he, my mom and I go window shopping in town on warm evenings
  • Playing on rocks or sand at the ocean's edge while my mom and dad do some fishing, or trying to catch some tiny fish myself in the little rock pools
  • Lying next to my mom on her bed and giggling about nothing
  • Being afraid of Dad taking his belt to me
  • Hanging around Dad and his friend while they worked on fixing a car in our yard
  • Going camping and not worrying about tv, but playing cards instead
  • All sitting together eating cockles collected on the rocks while camping (after dipping them in vinegar)
  • Going with my dad to auctions or yard sales
  • Playing in a tree in the parking lot while my mom waited for my dad to come out of his workplace
  • The different dogs we had
  • Going shopping with my mom and not remembering where we had parked when we came out
  • My dad bringing my cat to me for the night after he finished watching late night tv
  • My mom pulling at the bottom ends of my pajama pants when she tucked me in (I hated them riding up my calves)
  • My mom babying me when I was ill or had bumped my toe three times in one day
  • Enjoying eating the flops my mom made when she tried her hand at making fudge - more than when she got it right
  • Running around barefoot and climbing trees and being allowed to stay dirty all day
  • Getting lost in Nancy Drew or The Hardy Boys books
  • Listening to radio programs with my parents
  • Listening to my dad's country and western music
  • Always having my parents close by

 

My children and I live with my parents

At the moment, and for the past 3 years, my children and I are living with my parents. My boys are now 11 and 12, and in my opinion, are homegrown children. I'm proud of them. So proud.


My boys in their Granny and Grandpa's room 2010

My boys hanging upside down like bats on a pole in my parent's room. The pole extends over my parents' bed and has one or two other items hanging down from it (besides my children) that my father uses to excercise.
My boys hanging upside down like bats on a pole in my parent's room. The pole extends over my parents' bed and has one or two other items hanging down from it (besides my children) that my father uses to excercise.

My boys

My boys jumping around on a sand dune at Igoda beach near East London, South Africa, in June 2010
My boys jumping around on a sand dune at Igoda beach near East London, South Africa, in June 2010

My eldest son and I

That's me on the left having just landed a little jump down a sand dune, and my eldest son (12) having already landed and watching me - even though we ran to jump at the same time - he's quick! (June 2010)
That's me on the left having just landed a little jump down a sand dune, and my eldest son (12) having already landed and watching me - even though we ran to jump at the same time - he's quick! (June 2010)

I don't let them roam the streets, or sleep out often, and they don't yet mind. I hope it stays that way for a long time to come still!

Although they do spend some time playing computer games on their computer (no Internet allowed yet though!), my boyfriend Tony and I do make time for them. We have enjoyed a wonderful day trip to Hogsback in the Eastern Cape in South Africa, and more recently took them to Igoda beach, near East London, South Africa, which I had not visited in years!

Although I do not yet allow my boys Internet, Tony and I encouraged them to start their own Blogger blogs. They prepare the content on their own computer, and then we upload it for them.

Tony and I enjoy taking the boys to movies from time to time, and we support them in all of their school activities.

It's back to school on Tuesday after a five week holiday, and even though they will be gone just during the day, I will miss them. I miss them within an hour of them leaving the house, when they go to their father for the night - even if they've been driving Tony and I mad all day!

Being close to your children is important

 I drive my boys dilly with all my lectures - mostly related to safety and health - but there's always a quick hug from them during the day, every day, or a quick and unexpected "Love you, mom!"

Tell your children you love them.  Often.  More than often.

Hug them and chat with them. Ask them about their day at school. Listen when they reply, and chat more.

My eldest, although still just 12, is almost as tall as I am now (I am almost 6 foot tall), and he will still sometimes come sit on my lap while I'm working at the computer.

My youngest is 11 and will grip me round the neck from behind, and I sit dead still, in case he kills me.  He loves it.

I love them.

Which children are NOT homegrown children?

It is my opinion that children who are hardly ever touched or spoken to, or who are sent to boarding school at an early age, or who have nannies taking care of them most of the time, are not homegrown children. 

Comments

    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    • Teresa Schultz profile imageAUTHOR

      Teresa Schultz 

      8 years ago from East London, in South Africa

      @ Polly - thanks for the comment, and to say you're glad I'm here - I am too! - I just emailed you about the comment moderation thing now.

    • Pollyannalana profile image

      Pollyannalana 

      8 years ago from US

      I noticed my comment to you just disappeared and you chose to put out ones you want which of course you can delete or deny this one but please email me when you get a chance show me how you do that, I prefer that and just can't see how? Just whenever, thanks, Polly

    • Pollyannalana profile image

      Pollyannalana 

      8 years ago from US

      Well I am homegrown and so are my children. Very interesting hub, I feared my dad's belt too but never remember actually getting it. Sounds like you have a wonderful family. Have you read Putz Ballard here? I bet you would like him and some of his stories. Glad we have you here now and will read more as soon as I can, Polly

    working

    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, hubpages.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: https://hubpages.com/privacy-policy#gdpr

    Show Details
    Necessary
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Features
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Marketing
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Statistics
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)