ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

How to assert yourself

Updated on June 12, 2018
how we draw our reality
how we draw our reality | Source

Knowing who you are

There is a fundamental truth about human beings and the way we relate to each other, and no matter the conditioning the reality of our belief is always manifest, we live in a universe that serves truth, that searches for truth within ourselves and brings that into reality, that which we see and feel.

People around you

A conversation about personal relationships also has such truth in its practicality, who we get along with, love and share our lives with is manifest in the most natural and simple ways, we love to be around people that bring out peace and happiness in us, the people that care about us, the people that concern themselves with our wellbeing. There is a story to be told and learnt from people who come from families who do not understand the meaning of family, this is a universal lesson that alludes many that ask themselves questions, I am troubled about writing this as I know the fate of many who face difficulties within families, the places where they are supposed to feel safe, needed and loved turns to be horror for most, yet as I said this is the universes treasure, this is where we learn that through conscious choice we can build a heaven of love and find a form of family outside bloodlines, where we by conscious choice form new relationships that we are willing to defend with our own blood.

Where you come from

We are born into tribes, villages families, a group of people that shape our understanding of the world, this is the space that we come into in a vulnerable state, where the foolishness of our hearts is exposed, our fears are defined and understanding of love written down, this construct of who we are comes from the identities we generate from groups, and group thought is passed down, in an unfortunate yet lesson-filled experience we inherit the fears of our tribes, our families. The state of consciousness that they are in is the state of consciousness we inherit. This makes us part of the group, this makes us the group.

How we expand

It is after some time that we begin to form identities outside of this tribe, we meet other people, in schools or work who also come from other tribes that we expose our thoughts to the reconditioning that there is an identity outside of what we know, what we believe in is not all there to life, we know this better when we meet those that do not believe what we believe and learn from their joy and their confidence that indeed there is more, there is no brighter light that we experience than the light of someone’s smile reflected to us, and the possibility that we too can inherit that smile if we open ourselves to learning, with that we grow, and begin the process of opening our minds to more.

While it all seems good, this can be a scary images for our more absolute members of our tribe, the ones who are more set and concrete in the ways of the tribe, lead it and pray for its legacy, lean on its legacy, have a purpose solid on its legacy, it can be a wound to them to encounter the possibilities of migration, the possibilities of group though disintegration, and no matter how small or big the tribe is, you will see them cry and fight for initial and base thought. In this war we either grow a spine full of self-belief or bend to the will of the group, nonetheless, we meet war, with its alluring kindness that makes us betray ourselves or its wrath that forces us out of the group. At this point there is no win, we cannot transform from the inside out, well at least not at this point.

The defining stages

When our journey is expanded and when we can have that seemingly impossible spine to brave out the storm that comes from the war, we meet a new reality, that love can be found universally, that we can find similar identities in so many others, that we share a pain with other people that we begin to identify ourselves with other that we might find and have previously have thought to be strangers that we learn that with certainty that our existence is supported and appreciated more in its true form outside the walls that we come into when we enter this planet. Knowing this consoles and uplifts us. We cling on to this more than we realize, it brings us a lot closer to who we are so hanging on, especially knowing the horrors that we have left behind.

Moving on the universe exposes us further into this truth enabling us to fall in love with its people, the truth is some tribes offer a lot more consciousness than other some are stronger a lot more loving than others, and build the world where some people would want to forever live in them, we might envy and want to be more part of those tribes, because there is an identity held within ourselves that finds comfort in group thought. For some reason, we group thought is so comforting and assuming of truth.


No matter the cracks in new found relations none is as worth clinging into as the self-identification in others. We love the mirrored reflections of ourselves in other people knowing that we have this identity makes us more liberal to live; it reflects what we are into spaces that console and reconcile ourselves. Braver and a lot more afraid we forge with life, or better yet life forges on with us.

anyone can identify with trying to understand what life they have been living, even in moments where we try to make sense of things, we think about how it all began

a deep look into the journey
a deep look into the journey | Source


    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    No comments yet.


    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

    Show Details
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)