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How to Choose the Gender/ Sex of Your Baby

Updated on September 30, 2010

Many people are interested in choosing the gender of their future baby. For some people, it is because they have always dreamed specifically of having a little boy or a little girl. For other people, it is because they already have multiple kids of one gender and would like to add a child of the opposite gender to the family. In either case, there is a strong interest in gender selection.

Two Methods of Gender Selection

There are two basic methods that you can use to determine the gender of your baby. The first is to use artificial insemination which is going to be more accurate but also costly. The second is to use the timing of ovulation to try to get the baby of your preferred gender.

Gender Selection by Artificial Insemination

It is possible to choose the gender of your baby if you opt to get pregnant through fertility treatments. In most cases, people won't choose to go through this experience if they can get pregnant on their own. Instead, this is the method frequently used by people who are already using IVF to get pregnant due to difficulty conceiving naturally. There are multiple scientific methods of choosing the gender of your baby this way but they all have to do with sorting the sperm to select the gender of choice. This procedure is almost guaranteed to give you the gender you want but it costs a lot of money and isn't a comfortable procedure.

Gender Selection by Timing of Ovulation

The method more commonly used by the average person who wants to pre-determine the gender of her baby is going to be to try to time the conception of the child with the proper part of the ovulation cycle. The most common procedure used to do this is called the Shettles Method. The Shettles Method involves three different areas to attend to:

  1. Timing of Conception. The goal is to figure out when you are ovulating and to release the sperm with appropriate timing in relation to that. For a boy, you'll want to release the sperm as close to the ovulation time as possible. For a girl, you'll want to be a few days before or after this time period.
  2. Sexual Positions. People who want to have a boy should use positions that favor deeper penetration whereas those couples seeking a girl will want shallow penetration positions.
  3. Female Orgasm. Basically, you should aim for one if you want a boy and try not to have one if you're going for a girl.

Controversy About Gender Selection

There is a lot of controversy surrounding the use of gender selection. First, there is controversy about whether or not parents should use any of these methods. Some people say that parents should just let nature run its course and not try to predetermine the gender of the baby. And second, there is controversy as to whether or not these methods really work. Some people say they're just urban myths. But if you're set on trying to have a baby of a certain gender then these are your options.


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    4 years ago

    ALthough this is a seriously debated issue, for those who are looking to choose the gender of their baby accurately should use PGD combined with IVF, like that offered here: This is the only method that gives near 100% accuracy results. Most other non scientific methods will simply give a 50/50 chance, which is what you expect naturally.

  • daviddwarren22 profile image


    7 years ago

    This is great articles.. I choice baby boy.

  • katesn0w profile image


    7 years ago

    This is very interesting. Thanks for the info :)

  • ftclick profile image


    9 years ago

    I guess the experienced parent knows which one is less trouble....LOL

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    10 years ago

    i want a boy i have 3 girls and their ages are 1, 2, 3 and i want my boy so i really need tips and am really thinking about getting the sex gender done after i get my tubalagation reverse because i had my tubes tied and now i come to find out i want a boy i thought i was done but really in my heart am not finish yet there is one more goal and its to have a boy!!!!!!!!!!please help me

  • stephhicks68 profile image

    Stephanie Hicks 

    10 years ago from Bend, Oregon

    OK, just so everyone knows.... there may be truth or not. My second son was conceived right when I must have been ovulating. Yes, he is a boy. My third.... well, they are twins. A boy and a girl. So, one of each. And I cannot tell you when they were conceived, or how. We were trying in every way and position. LOL....

  • ngureco profile image


    10 years ago

    The timing of ovulation method does work!

  • ngureco profile image


    10 years ago

    Thank you, Kathryn Vercillo. You have very good information here but how I wish if you would have done it as step by step guide.

    Perhaps I would have liked to know the logic behind the timing of ovulation method:

    1. For a boy, you'll want to release the sperm as close to the ovulation time as possible. For a girl, you'll want to be a few days before or after this time period. A sperm has XY and an egg has XX. How does the timing of ovulation determine either it’s a sperm’s X or Y that will combine with the egg’s X or X to make XY for a boy or XX for a girl?

    2. Sexual Positions: What is the logic? Perhaps the Ys from the sperm are stronger than the Xs from the sperm and will travel faster.

    3. Female Orgasm means there is a fluid – does this fluid block Xs from sperm more than it does to Ys from sperm?

    I do not have any idea how this happen and I am just wondering why it should be so.

    Again, thank you Kathryn.

  • Aeman A profile image

    Aeman A 

    10 years ago from New York

    Wow, I have a girl and I always wanted a boy. Thanks for the info, when I'm ready again I will try the above info given. Thanks alot!!!


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