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How to Safely Stop Whining.
Would you rather be hugged by Buddha or bit by a rattlesnake?
Whining is disgusting.
Do you just hate whining in anybody. If you whine, folks will avoid you. You may whine because you were taught to whine. Do you want some cheese with that whine? Straight up we whine. It is not pretty. Some teach children to whine. Others teach them not to.
So these are observations about the do's and don't's about whining.
Let us be fair here. Some working moms almost cherish whining in their children. It is an obvious and intimate statement of desire for some thing. It is immediate gratification for both child and parent if the parent rewards the whining. It is a recipe for disaster.
Complaining is not whining.
Complaining about something can be done with a whine and whining usually has a complaint built in. But do not confuse folks who are critical with folks who whine. That is like saying that "he has a powerful personality that scares me so he is a bully". No, complaining is pointing out something wrong. Whining is complaining in a poor me nasty tone that is bothersome simply by the sound of it. Whining is always about the whiner and not fixing something but drawing attention to the "sadness" it causes the whiner.
"This system stinks because the editors stink" "the editors always pick on me" clearly the second is a whine. The first could be if accompanied by a grating whimpering sound and near tears, but is not whining on it's face.
Whining is the gaining attention by making irritating remarks combined with irritating tone of sounds -- sometimes not even words. So can do it, but it is hard to whine by writing.
This is wrong. A child crying is not whining, end of story
Warm prods versus cold pricks.
You have an obligation to our world to prevent your child from learning to whine in order to get what they want. It is just this simple. My 4 year old whines. With me he gets a real sharp rebuke and an ugly face and a loud obnoxious voice. Sometimes he forgets that, about twice a week and he gets that hammer.
With his mother he gets what he wants. So he whines "at" her constantly. There is a caveat to that. He does not whine to her within my earshot. I am many things but not lazy. I will stop whatever I am doing and lay into him with cold pricks if he whines at anyone when I can hear it or see it or even smell or taste it in the air.
Point blank -- none of my children whine except my youngest to his mom.
Surely the point is clear.
Don't whine, be happy
Whining is all about you and the bully.
Whining is one of the easiest reflections of your attitude. Look in the mirror next time you want to whine. And then just whine. Ugly, isn't it? Yuk!
You got squat to whine about. I met a man on the street and he was doing what looked like a mock whine. He stank bad, looked like filth and was just nuts. I got up in his face and asked him what he had to whine about. He laughed too hard and grabbed my arm just to keep from falling down laughing. And he finally sputtered out that he was not whining but making fun of his friend who was whining right there next to him. He explained for a few minutes that he and his buddy had everything they needed but his friend had to whine about everything. He was mocking his friend. And he was happy.
My readers should note that there was really no friend except the delusion of a schizophrenic. But even he saw the stupidness of whining. But it illustrates wonderfully how that part of our brain can go to whining and it takes a strong other part to stop it now.
Whining shows us an insight because it is a physical manifestation of at loser mentality. Just assume you were a bully. How would you pick your victim? You would just cup your hand around your ear and listen for the whiner. Who would care if you bullied a whiner? No me.
Whining is the wilderness of Montana is allowed, if you are by yourself.
Some fun thoughts on whining that clarify.
Off he went into the closet to whine.
New book title "how to whine without anyone noticing".
He sat smiling in his own private whine.
Everyone loves a recovering whiner.
How to whine and dine alone
The engines whined but nobody heard (how about that tree that falls in the forest?)
Nobody hates a mute whiner
Only folks who whine hate whiners more than others.
He whined four times: 1) to get his way; 2) to get attention; 3) to get smacked; 4)about the smacking and he was alone for all but 2 & 3.
That book should be a best seller. I have never met a man who whined alone that I knew was a whiner.
One mom whined to her small children. They locked her up in the loony bin.
I whined to myself about having to climb that, until I reached the top.
We hope that we do not hurt anyone's sensibilities here. You will have to decide that for yourselves. Your favorite group whines about how things are today or even yesterday. Each group has for the most part a positive aspect and productive measure about them. But just like our bum on the street they have a part of them that whines. Churches are no exception as civic groups are not exception.
MADD and That "pink ribbon campaign" are two of the biggest whiners around. It is crazy. Just listen to them.
MADD brings us to anger and whining. Incompetent anger is normally whining. Follow it through. Anger is normally fear turned outward. Whining is normally "I want" turned outward. And whining is verbal normally. Get someone who is afraid of cancer, wants a cure and has a voice and you get whining. And for MADD, we are all fearful of killing machines being driven by maniacs who drink and drive, we want it to stop and we want tougher rules and enforcement and we have a voice that is really not heard very well. That is a perfect recipe for whining.
My advice on that is: Let them whine, we need to hear it.
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