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How to develop self-confidence in children
Children are very sensitive to the learning and encouragement process. They need constant guidance and support from the adults to develop their personality. It is therefore necessary for you to remember that the adults or parents play an important role in developing self-confidence in children. Self-confidence helps children and adults to be more successful individual. A self- confident person is likely to achieve more. So, teaching your children to be self-confident is an important parental responsibility. However, it takes an effort to make your children something of themselves. If you lead an exemplary life, fill their minds with goals and allow them to be courageous in following their own dreams, ultimately your children will be able to spread their wings and totally fly on their own. Here are some ways you can do to develop self-confidence in your children.
Help them built a positive image
Adults and parents can help building self-confidence in their children by bringing out the confidence in their kids. It is very important that a child develops a positive image of their own. A child or adult with a positive image shows that they are self confident. They know their own limits and believe in their own capability. A person with a positive image will have more fun in life and can handle themselves in tough situations. You can enhance your child's confidence by exposing them to different activities. This is probably one of the best ways to boost your child's positive image. The more your child does new things with positive experiences, the more they are likely to feel secure in doing new things. The main characteristics of a successful person is taking the risk and trying something new.
Accept them the way they are
Everyone makes mistakes and you should make your children understand that it is okay to make mistakes. Encourage and compliment them whenever they have done something good. In fact this will encourage them to continue their good deeds and achievements. You must always remember that the fastest way to reduce a child's self-confidence is to make them afraid of making a mistake. Whenever they makes a mistake, do not simply yell at them, instead advice them with right manners. You must make them understand that they are in the process of learning and that mistakes are also a part of learning. One of the best ways to develop self-confidence in your children is by criticizing less and finding right ways to discipline and construct them. If you are a control freak and over protective, chances are, your children will start developing a sense of insecurity.
Help your children express their feelings
We live in a society that doesn't show “bad” emotions. This also reflects on your children. You may not notice it, but they may keep bad feelings to themselves. As a parent you need to help them express those feelings. You must be able to listen to them and you have to give them a feeling of comfort in which they can tell you what's bothering them. You need to help them learn when they can express those feelings and what to do with them. If children keep their feelings too much to themselves it will lower their self-confidence. Perhaps they will put up a show of self-confidence, but inside they feel insecure and that will eat on them in time. This will cause them to shut down and become isolated.
Give your child a sense of responsibility and independence
Self-confidence comes from a feeling of independence and a feeling of responsibility. Implying it on them is probably one of the best ways to develop their personality. By implying to your child that you think he is smart or clever enough to handle responsibility will help your child develop their level of self-confidence.
Back when I was little I had a lot of problems with my self-confidence. Actually I've had problems with my self-confidence for quiet a while, this was duo to one of my foster families. Every day I got hateful comments and everything I did seemed to be wrong. That held me back for a long time. I never had enough courage to do anything and was afraid to be looked down upon. I never expressed any feelings and when I came to my new family I played feelings I actually didn't feel. After a long time all is well, but what I wanted to tell with this is to never be hateful to your children and to be really careful with what you say to them. You may forget it, but they don't.