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How do I deal with my child's tantrums

Updated on April 28, 2012

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How do I deal with my child tantrums?
Temper tantrums are sudden and fierce display of anger by toddlers. I know this is a quite common scene for those of us with 1 to 3 years old. Sometimes it can go beyond 3-year old depending on your child’s personality. Temper tantrums can sometimes be annoying especially if they keep recurring.

As a loving parent, you can really get concerned about your child’s behavior. It is good to learn that tantrums are a normal way of development. All you need to know is understand your child’s needs and learn how to respond to them.
Why do children have tantrums?
Just like adults, our children also get angry . However, they may lack the right words to communicate making tantrums the easiest option. When you learn about the triggers that are likely to result into tantrums ,it becomes easier to help your child overcome them and reduce the occurrences.
Causes of tantrums in children

Children are likely to develop tantrums when they undergo situations that make them uncomfortable. When a child's emotional ,physical and psychological needs are not adequately met he or she will find ways of letting he worries know. Some of the situations that are likely to make your child become cranky is when they are

Tired - when you child has not had enough rest ,he is likely to develop a tantrum. A tired child is likely to become cranky because their body will be crying out for a rest. When you child has not had enough sleep, if they play for long durations without resting or have just arrived from a journey, becoming showing sign of tiredness is expected.For example a long day in the park may cause tantrums
Sleepy – Sleep is very important for children. A toddler should sleep for at least 10 hours at night and have a nap that is at least 2 hours during the day. Lack of sleep destabilizes their emotions and can cause painful eyes.
Hungry – Kids should eat snacks in between their meals to keep their small tummies full. An empty stomach ,can really make your child uncomfortable . When you r child is hungry, he or she will continuously cry until he is well fed. It is advisable to keep your child on a full stomach because one the tantrums set in feeding them well may be a problem.
Frustrated- disappointments like breaking his or her favorite toy can cause real drama from our little ones. You may find that one minute ,your child is playing so calmly and suddenly burst into fits . Frustrations cause children to behave in an angry manner.
Seeking your attention – Sometimes as parents ,we are often very busy to even hear what our kids are telling us. When your child notices that you are this type of a parent , he or she will find a way of having you listen to them. One of the most effective way will be yelling on top of their voices!
Uncomfortable – Kids are very sensitive to any unnatural conditions. When exposed to bad weather, wet clothes or unfriendly environment , they will show their discomfort by screaming for their worry to be addressed.
How do I deal with tantrums when they occur?
Here are some practicable tips on how to tame tantrums
As a loving parent or caregiver, there is lot you can do to tame your child’s tantrums.
Give your child enough attention – when you lovingly attend to your child, he or she will be at peace. Positive attention is more effective than negative one.
For example, your child comes to you and says “Mum, may I have some?” .Quickly take notice of the courtesy and comment him or her.
Take care of the triggers – the best way to deal with tantrums is by preventing them. Make sure that your child is well fed and has had enough sleep. If you are kin, you will take note of what triggers tantrums.
For example, before I head to the shopping mall with my two daughters aged 2 and 3. I have to make sure that they have had enough rest and are well fed. I have seen this work perfectly for me.
Give your child some control- this makes them feel responsible and trusted. For example you can ask your daughter or son which pajama they would like to wear for the night. It gives them a sense of pride and wouldn’t like to let you down by throwing tantrums.
Take your kid to a safe place- during tantrums; some kids’ may hurt themselves. Ensure your child’s safety by moving him or her to a safe room. You should keep a close eye on them.
Control your temper- Remember you can only calm your child if you are relaxed. Screaming can really be destructive both to you and your child. Incase you feel so aggrieved, step back for a while. Then calmly get to your child’s level and comfort him or her. You can then ask them how you can help.
Set a good example- your child will imitate the way you do things. So always behave well before your child. If you do this, you can use this as strength to stop their tantrums. For example you can ask them, “Do you ever see mummy behave this way?”. Remember we have the most powerful influence on our kid’s behavior.

When our children develop tantrums, it requires our patience and love to handle them. Remember this is a passing phase. Soon your child will be al grown up giving a break. Learn your child’s personality and always respond to their needs on time. Parenting is a gift, so enjoy every moment with your child.


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    • Emmanuel Kariuki profile image

      Emmanuel Kariuki 

      5 years ago from Nairobi, Kenya

      Children can be a 'handful' especially between ages 2 and 3. This hub is a great help to those parents suffering in silence from 'tantrums.' Now tell us just how to make them put food in their mouths, chew and then swallow each spoonful in less than fifteen minutes! Great hub and shared.


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