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Mom,This Hub's For You

Updated on September 12, 2010

The first father’s day after my Dad died I wrote a guest column for the local newspaper that was quite good, if I do say so myself. People who did not even know my father cried. My Mom was proud of it but has told me more that once she wants me to write one about her. She is not exactly shy.

So Mom, this hub’s for you:

The sun was shining in my eyes yesterday when Mom and the lady from church walked into the Chick-fil-et. From where I sat I could not see her clearly. But the way she was dressed, the thinning gray hair that is a side effect of the chemo, the way she held her head to compensate for her poor eyesight and the way she sort of shuffled toward the counter were enough for me to recognize her. Then, the sun was blocked by a car in the parking lot and I realized that the lady was not my Mom after all.

This realization should have made the preceding paragraph worthless. But it has had the opposite effect on me. Mom is in her early seventies and was diagnosed with stage four cancer for the second time about five years ago. They gave her six months to a year and yet she is still very much with us and fighting.

What I realized this afternoon was that one of these days this exact same thing will happen to me again -- with one major difference, Mom. You won’t be here.

So I hereby officially forgive you for not letting me go to the beach when I graduated from high school. It has been worth it to give you grief since 1969!

And, I was the one who accidentally set the chicken house on fire.

Also, I once put a dead bird into the pocket of a suit coat at Belk’s Department store. The explanation for that involves a bb gun, tremendous guilt and a sign on Arch Street coming into town that declared Lancaster a bird sanctuary.

Oh, by the way, I love you.


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    • resspenser profile imageAUTHOR

      Ronnie Sowell 

      9 years ago from South Carolina

      Thanks, Sara. Haven't heard from her ......yet. Appreciate you stopping by!

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      Sara Tonyn 

      9 years ago from Ohio, the Buckeye State

      Beautiful writing! Congrats on getting your hub published in the local paper; you're gonna make your mom proud. And you're gonna make her cry too. (But in a good way!)

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      Ronnie Sowell 

      9 years ago from South Carolina

      Thanks, Petra! I Just found out that the local paper is printing this hub in tomorrow's edition. It will be interesting to see how she takes it. Thanks for following me. I will check out your hubs too!

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      Petra Vlah 

      9 years ago from Los Angeles

      What a great tribut to your mother.

      Confessing your "sins" must also feel good, because you know she already forgave you no matter what you did; most mothers do that after they give the speech that is expected of them.

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      9 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks for share about your mom. I think she is the best mom in the world. And you are a good don. and you are good son who still remembering your mom.

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      Ronnie Sowell 

      9 years ago from South Carolina

      Thank you so much, sunflower. I sent a version to the local paper and the editor said she will print it. Mom know nothing about it so shhhhh!

      I enjoyed several of your hubs and am looking forward to some more "O" bashing!

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      9 years ago from Small Town, USA

      As soon as I swallow the lump in my throat I will think of some brilliant comment that is worthy of this hub! So proud to have you as a follower!

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      Ronnie Sowell 

      9 years ago from South Carolina

      Thanks for reading, Maita. She is doing the best she can. It is never easy.

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      9 years ago from US

      oh respenser, this is so touching, you made me stop for a bit and yes nearly cried, you are a good son and yes you can always go to the beach, smile, your mom is a survivor, I am sure she is proud fo you too, maita

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      Audrey Kirchner 

      9 years ago from Washington

      TOO MUCH - I was thinking when I read that 'why didn't my son Jonathan think of that one?' but now I'm thinking to ask him if he did! Yikes. Some days I think I'm better off not knowing about some of the things my kids did but then again, sometimes it is good for a laugh. Also good wishes for your mom with her health battles. Wish we spent more money on curing cancer than making bombs....Audrey

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      Ronnie Sowell 

      9 years ago from South Carolina

      Thanks for reading and your comments. She only just now found out about the bird.... I put it in a new coat that was for sale!

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      Audrey Kirchner 

      9 years ago from Washington

      Too funny and too charming....that is so true too. Sometimes if I'm playing the piano and I can't quite 'get' something I think of my mom and how many times she corrected something or told me how to do something and what happens when they aren't there anymore? On the other side of that - good sons are hard to come by - so I bet she forgives you for the dead uncle put a dead mouse in my grandmother's coat pocket, which she proceeded to pull out on the bus in the middle of the crowded morning trek to work...priceless! I'm thanking my lucky stars right this minute that my boys did about everything ELSE but they did not put any dead animals in MY pockets. Great hub. Audrey

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      Ronnie Sowell 

      9 years ago from South Carolina


      Thanks for reading and being first to comment.


      I appreciate your opinion, as always, and I'll send you some Puffs!

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      Tammy Lochmann 

      9 years ago

      First thing I read this morning and it was short and sweet. I really enjoyed it too. You need to stop making me get the tissues out though LOL.

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      Pamela Oglesby 

      9 years ago from Sunny Florida

      Your Mom is proud I'm sure. I guess you could also say a little confession in good for the soul.


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