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How Many IVF Processes Will Push You to Adoption?
What is Infertility
Infertility is a global disease nowadays that affects between 60 million to 168 million people worldwide. It affects 13% to 15% of couple’s in world scenario. It places a huge psychological burden on the infertile couple, especially on the female partner, and it may lead to depression, suicidal tendencies, and other pathological psychological conditions. According to medical definition of infertility is the failure to conceive after a year of unprotected sex, with no previous conceptions.
Secondary infertility occurs when couples who have previously conceived children but are now unable to conceive. According to a retrospective analysis of 70 patients attending a gynecological clinic and seen by a consultant 58.6% of infertile patients complained of primary infertility, whereas 41.4% complained of secondary infertility.
Social Issues of infertility
Infertility is surrounded by many mistaken beliefs about its causes, such as witchcraft and possession by evil spirits, and these beliefs negatively affect its outcome. Evil forces and supernatural powers were widely held as causes of infertility. In some countries, most educated participants blamed infertility on nutritional, marital, and psychosexual factors, but who were not literate blamed their infertility on supernatural causes, such as evil spirits, witchcraft, and God’s retribution.
American women are having babies a lot later in life than they used to: In 1980, the average age of a new mom was about 22. Now, the average age of a new mom is closer to 26, according to the CDC (PDF).
Root Cause Analysis of Infertility
From the records in the past, we thought having a baby need nothing, just male and female partners. It does not need money, luxury, education or any other sophistication. But things have changed a lot. Well what went wrong? Today we have all the powerful gadgets in our life, all the fancy iPhone, fancy televisions, and fancy games. Then why it’s becoming increasingly difficult to have a baby. It’s a kind of irony.
According to CDC (center for disease control and prevention) “About 6% of married women aged 15 to 44 years in the United States are unable to get pregnant after one year of trying (infertility). Also, about 12% of women aged 15 to 44 years in the United States have difficulty getting pregnant or carrying a pregnancy to term, regardless of marital status (impaired fecundity)”.
So it’s true and you are not the only one who is suffering from infertility. Millions of people around the world is suffering from it. Some medical problem may be obstructing you or your partner from conceiving. Sometimes especially for men, causes are easily detectable, but for women it is more complicated and severe.
But no need to be disappointed if you want to become parent you can become a parent either by Vitro Fertilization (IVF) or by Adoption. Of course they are totally different process, but at the end of the day you have the same result. You will be a parent.
Now before going ahead with this debate, let us look carefully the root cause of INFERTILITY.
There are two way to delineate this cause. One is the factors that can expose you to risk of infertility and other is real medical cause.
- Age of Women
- Eating disorders
- Being vegan
- Not exercising
- Sexually transmitted
- Exposure to some chemicals
Now medical cause
- Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS
- Diminished ovarian reserve
- Functional hypothalamic amenorrhea
- Improper function of the hypothalamus and pituitary glands
- Premature ovarian insufficiency
- Fallopian tube obstruction
Abnormal uterine contour
Is IVF a Mirage or Real Oasis?
To overcome the pain and sadness of infertility, science, medicine and technology have collaborated to develop an array of Artificial Reproductive Technologies (ARTs). The first IVf was discovered in India by less known doctor Subash Mukhopadyay and them most common and effective ART is In-vitro Fertilization (IVF), developed by Patrick Steptoe and Robert Edwards in 1976 in the UK.
Simply speaking, this procedure happen when a doctor collect eggs from a woman and mixes them with sperm in a petri dish to generate embryos. The selected embryos are then transferred to the woman’s womb in hopes that at least one will implant in the uterine lining, resulting in a pregnancy and birth of a baby. While we celebrate all children generated through IVF, just like every child conceived in a womb, we must consider some serious potential concerns with IVF.
IVF often refer as “IVF cycle” not a single process. It is absolutely true. First you require to find a really good team of doctor and embryologist. They will counsel you and understand your body and other history. It is very important that patient and doctor has clear and open communications. Sometimes they tell you that they use your own egg, but eventually after failure suggest you to get donor egg. So they fertilize outside of the womb with your partner’s sperm – or donor sperm. Once the egg is fertilized, it is placed into the uterus. Potential expenditure, health condition of women and mental anxiety is really immeasurable in repeated failure attempts.
Is Adoption a Shortcut to Success?
Child adoption is another option for infertile couples. Many couples with incurable infertility in many countries are willing to adopt babies. To adopt a child is a great art work of love. When it is done, much is definitely given, but much is also received. It is a true exchange of gifts of love. Adopting a child, regarding and treating them as if their one’s own children, means accolade that the relationship between parents and children is not measured only by biological standards. Creating love o for another child a great procreation. This form of ‘procreation’ which occurs only through acceptance, concern, and dedication. The resulting fruit is so sweet, intimate and persisting that it is in no question of biological connection. It assures the child with peaceful atmosphere and that love of a family which he needs for his full development.”
When you apply for adoption, of course it is a lengthy process that you must go through. The time frame for adopting a child varies from state-to-state, and country-to-country. Regardless of where you live, the adoption process will take a while due to screenings and pertinent paperwork. Social workers also helps to verify that you are capable of providing a stable home for the child.
Let us Face the Fact and Take a Decession
Turning from infertility and toward adoption
Longitudinal studies suggest that heterosexual couples who went through fertility treatments tend to experience worsening symptoms like depression, marital distress as treatment progresses without any success Research also suggests that infertile heterosexual couples experience difficulties in setting limits about how much time and money to invest in treatment, leading some couples to engage in years of unsuccessful pregnancy. As time went on and each treatment option failed, couples found themselves considering, and sometimes pursuing, options they had initially deemed unacceptable like adopting child. Whether or not to continue treatment was sometimes a source of contention between couples. But eventually they realized that their infertility was likely permanent. For some, it was being told that their chances of conceiving were very poor that pushed them to terminate treatment; for others, it was the knowledge that they had tried every possible option. This is the time when couple tend to cease conception efforts and to move toward adoption.
Now there is no simple Yes or No answer for adoption or Ivf. But if you look overall for a couple who have lots of complication it is better for them to go ahead and adopt a child. With IVF, you are not guaranteed to get pregnant and a deliver a healthy live baby. It’s worth trying once but not for several times. Although you can do IVF for several times, but it’s not at all advised for mom to undergo such treatment infinite number of times
Well IVF and adoption are both procedures that can help you to reach your goal to become a parent, but one is guaranteed and other is not. It takes a few intense moments to come to decision to adopt or go ahead with IVF for ‘n” number of times. On the other hand one cannot have a biological child and but desire the completeness and satisfaction, feelings in raising children, like to hear the word MOM or Dad, by somebody, adoption is the best option and you will never regret.