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Motherhood-what I learned now about speaking

Updated on May 2, 2012

Okay, I am a talker-I love to talk, just ask my husband, parents, and friends. So why is it that my beloved 20 month old son babbles (a lot) but isn't talking? He understands us perfectly and ignores us when he doesn't want to obey-so it isn't a hearing issue.

I have such a desire to know what is on his little mind. What is he talking about early in the morning when he is lying in bed pointing at the ceiling? Is he really telling us off when he is upset and crying? And I am sorry, but pointing at the fridge first thing in the morning doesn't help me understand milk, juice, yogurt, or waffles.Wouldn't it be nice if he could ask for what he wants instead of me pulling each one out to have it thrown back at me with the use of his only clear word-NO.

My husband says that he didn't start talking till he was 3, but REALLY! I can't wait that long to figure out what he is saying. I spoke with the speech therapist several times at my last job and he agreed, it isn't uncommon for my son not to be talking at this age. He also informed me that the normal age for some sound development is as late as 5-6 years old. I have a better idea-why don't kids come with a screen on their head that shows what they are thinking? Or maybe a t-shirt like on the 80's cartoon, Shirttails? That would make me happy. And I think he would be happy too.

I have realized that throughout his life I have been in such a hurry for him to reach his next milestone-sitting, crawling, walking, picking things up, etc. then all the sudden my baby is gone and I miss when he was a totally dependent little cuddly ball of love. Now I do good to get a cuddle in at the beginning and end of each day. So, why have I not learned and continue to wish of the next milestone? Is this the ironic part of parenthood? I need to learn to just relax and enjoy where he is now, because now is pretty good.


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    • toys-everywhere profile image

      Rachael C. 

      6 years ago from That little rambunctious spot in the back of your mind :)

      Alright, edit: obviously, you should nix out the speech delay idea :)

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      Rachael C. 

      6 years ago from That little rambunctious spot in the back of your mind :)

      I've not yet got the chance to read your hub, but you might like to have him checked for autism or speech delays.

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      Debbie H 

      6 years ago

      So proud of you and love reading what is in your heart!!

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      KathyH 

      6 years ago from Waukesha, Wisconsin

      Interesting first hub! Welcome to HubPages, you'll find a wonderful community of helpful writers here! :) And if your son is anything like my two were... first you can't wait for them to talk, then later you wish for just a minute of quiet!! :) Just wait until he can really tell you what's on his mind! You might get a surprise, I know I did! :) I know you want that day to come, and it will! :)

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      Syl 

      6 years ago

      Have you had his hearring checked?? I work for an ENT and you would be surprised that sometimes speach delay can be from problems with hearing. I have seen times where we put tubes in a kid and by the time they come in for the follow-up their speach has already improved dramatically!!

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      Marissa 

      6 years ago from United States

      My son, the firstborn, began talking before his first birthday and hasn't stopped since!

      My daughter on the other hand is a babbler. At 15 months she is starting to say some words, but most of the time she babbles or points. I'm not too concerned with her though since I know she is hearing us. Plus, it's hard to get a word in edgewise with her talkative brother!

      When she points and babbles, I use all of the words possible to find out what she wants. She nods when I say the right thing. To encourage her to speak, I ask her to say the word before I give her the object. For example, if she is pointing to her bottle, I ask "Do you want a bottle?" After she nods, I say, "Say bottle." If she at least tries, I hand it to her.

      Good luck with your son! He'll talk when he's ready. Don't forget to give him a lot of practice! :)

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