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Negative, Soul Destroying/Devouring, and Otherwise DEMONIC Moms
Motherhood is an institution that is highly cherished in many societies. After all, mothers are the ones who are givers of precious new life. In fact, most cultures view mothers as the most important parent, even more so than the father. It is the mother who teaches the children and otherwise nurture the child physically, emotionally, mentally, and psychologically. Mothers are so important that songs and odes are made in dedication to mothers.
Mothers in American society especially are viewed and considered to be nearly divine, if not so. Many opportunities are made to honor mothers whether through churches, associations, and/or in our neighborhoods and/or communities. Motherhood and mothers are held in high regard as without mothers, there would be no humanity. Motherhood is deified in American society, in fact, in most societies. There are religions that advocate that the most important vocation a woman can be is a mother. Many further proclaim that the duty of a woman is to be a mother.
Motherhood is oftentimes viewed as the idea state of womanhood. In fact, it is believed that it is the lifestyle that all women should aspire to. Mothers are often seen as the most evolved of humankind. They are often perceived as utterly altruistic, putting their children's needs before their own. They are furthermore seen as the most loving and forgiving of people. They are known as the go to and fixer up person. They are the people that one can to go for anything and tell the darkest secrets for they will not judge. For some, mothers are God incarnates. There is a saying that since God cannot be everywhere, HE/SHE invented mothers.
Motherhood is considered to be the most feminine state. To many, there is no more feminine woman than a mother. After all, she is fertile and is able to bear children. Motherhood has been glorified as the epitome of femininity from primordial times. This is evident in the cult of the Great Mother where women as mothers were worshipped, even deified. The Blessed Virgin Mary is seen by many to be the representation of the Great Mother. Feminine symbols of fertility have always been emulated, worshipped, or deified in one way or another.
The Good...........and THE BAD
There are enlightened mothers who put the best interest of their children at heart physically, emotionally, mentally, psychologically, and/or socially. They believe in building up their children. They are very careful in what they say to their children. They are furthermore prudent as to how to discipline their children. They realize that words can either have a positive or negative impact on children. They know that children believe about themselves what they have been taught by parents. They contend that children should never be treated in a less than life affirming way. To them, children are God entities deserving of the utmost respectful treatment to ensure their human dignity.
Then there are mothers who believe that as parents, they have the right to speak and treat their children as lesser and inferior beings. They contend that because they are the adults in the relationship, they are superior to the child. They are of the school that what they do and/or say to their children really do not matter. They further contend that their children will not be affected by the aforementioned after all the latter are resilient. They also maintain that no matter what they do to their children, the latter will love them anyway. There are still others who feel that NO MATTER how they TREAT their children, the latter HAVE to love them regardless.
Some mothers view parenthood as a power-play.They do not view their children as individuals to encourage and nurture. They simply see their children as malleable subjects to bend to their will. There are mothers who feel as if their children are enemies and/or competitors, not just merely children. A few mothers are jealous and/or threatened by their children because they have more opportunities. They also are jealous and/or threatened by their children's personality, intelligence, and/or talents. They can be envious that their children are in better circumstances than they were as children. As a result of these components, these mothers feel quite insufficient and/or insignificant in comparison to their children so they verbally lash out, reducing the latter's level of self worth. There are mothers who do not want their children to be better than them so they will use any means and methods necessary to diminish their child emotionally and psychologically.
Some mothers are definitely not a child's best friend. One can aptly say that there are mothers who make one's worst enemy seem saintlike. There are mothers who are clearly non-nurturing mothers. They habitually play havoc on their children emotional, mental, psychic, and/or psychological health. They think nothing of doing things that negatively impact on their children. They possess little or no inkling as to how to be a positive mother. That is neither in their purview of consciousness nor in their vocabulary. It is much easier for them to exist in varying levels of negativity.
To these mothers, it is nothing to utter a harsh word or say mean and/or hurtful things to children. They maintain that what they say to their children as just par for the course of being a parent. They further insist that using harsh words are no big deal. They assert that using harsh words is part of being in the real world. They explain that people are not going to be mild in their speak, they are going to be quite blunt. Some will even go as far to state that being considerate of a child's feelings is analogous to mollycoddling, spoiling, and/or otherwise infantilizing them. After all, they aver that children are mentally and emotionally tougher than credited. They feel that using harsh words will teach their children associative lessons as what is permitted/acceptable and what is prohibited/unacceptable.
There are mothers to whom nothing is even good enough. Such mothers never see what is positive in their children, only what is negative. These are the mothers who believe that children should never be praised for positive acts as they are expected. They believe that by their often harsh and destructive reinforcement, their children will learn and improve, hopefully never to repeat the mistake. They also believe that some belittling and other forms of personal attacks will be more of a positive reinforcement to the child than more constructive and positive reinforcement. They are of the school that vinegar is a much better medicine than honey.
There are mothers who can be described as soul destroying. These mothers can wreath psychic havoc on their children. They are negaholics. They love to spew negativity and/or other forms of venomous and vituperative attacks on their children. Whatever their children aspire, wish, and/or desire to do, they are routinely told that they CAN'T for whatever reason the mother deems logical. This is the mother who will psychically destroy her child/children in one form or another. This mother is really dangerous to her children both emotionally, mentally, psychically, and/or psychologically. Anything that this child does positively is routinely diminished to the lowest common denominator of utter and/or abject negativity. This is the mother who will prevent, even destroy any chances of success and/or positivity in her child's/children's lives.
There are mothers who are completely soul devouring. It is nothing for such mother to denigrate and demoralize their children to making the latter think that they are personae non gratae or less. These mothers are not happy and/or unsuccessful in their lives and apparently, they do not wish for their children to be so either. They want their children to be as miserable and discontented as they are. If their children show any type of promise or potential, they would routinely employ psychic verbal abuse or other forms of verbal harassment of the darkest, most demonic kind. No type of verbal abuse or other forms of verbal haranguement is too harsh, brutal, and/or destructive to the fragile self-esteem of their children. They want to demoralize their children so much as to remove every vestige of their basic humanity, reducing them to non-persons.
There are mothers who do not believe in positive reinforcement. To put it more succinctly, these mothers believe in negative, even destructive reinforcement. They are of the school that they can speak to their children any way they deem possible, even if such speech is devoid of encouragement, kindness, and/or respect. Some of these mothers believe that it is totally unnecessary to afford their children consideration in terms of speech and/or other verbal interaction. They believe that whatever way they speak to their children, it will not negatively impact on them.
What these mothers fail to realize that words and speech can hurt their children emotionally, mentally, psychically, and psychologically. Negative words can be just as abusive as a slap. Saying negative words to children can destroy what vestiges of positive self-image they have. The purpose of motherhood is to encourage and offer constructive reinforcement. Children live and become what they are told by their parents, especially their mothers.