- Family and Parenting
Of love, adultery, pedophelia and murder: a teen's horror
The dangers of youthful exuberance
We were all young at one point or another, maybe some of us still are, if even by virtue of how we feel or what we believe. With that said, as part of our growing up and coming of age, an important aspect is that of falling in love. Many of us are fortunate enough to find the boy/girl of our dreams; few of us marry him/her. At that age however, no one can tell us it wouldn't last. The problem usually starts when some of us start looking outside of our age group or start to be preyed upon, sexually groomed and otherwise molested or seduced into inappropriate relationships. Many times these seducers come baring gifts and are usually otherwise emotionally involved and even married. Herein lies some of the dangers of youthful exuberance.
Adulterer Versus Paedophile
As to who is worse is not up for debate. While everyone hates being cheated on, you simply cannot compare an adulterer to someone who preys upon young, impressionable children for the sake of sexual gratification. Notwithstanding, should the paedophile be married, this is a double-negative and potentially explosive situation as it is usually found that especially married men are willing to go to unexpected depths to cover their tracks. Actually, the covering of tracks is usually less thought out than they realize and once uncovered, the only way usually seems to be a totality one; fatal. Herein lies the other potential problems.
Adultery versus paedophilia
I loved a paedophile
For the sake of the marriage, assets and saving face
I will never pretend to know what goes on in sex offenders' minds, but a common thread usually reverberates around the need to save one's relationship/marriage, whether for the sake of not having to split assets or because of love, whatever that means. There are those who will stop at nothing to save face from the embarrassment of others finding out, the shame of being dragged through a court or even that of facing their loved ones. Whatever their considerations, murder usually seems to be a viable solution...until the act is committed.
Hurt on the menu!
It is indeed a strange phenomenon to consider when one sees a person who professed their love suddenly turn to resort to hurting and even torture that can prove fatal. Over the years, there have been many cases of especially men trying to cover their tracks by devious acts. A child who warrants a prison term for the offender if 'discovered' by authorities is usually at even greater risk of being hurt. It is only then that teenaged girls usually discover that the sweet nothings were all lies and there will be no happily ever after.
The menu or the deception?
Pregnancy as a catalyst
Another catalyst found to push paedophiles to commit murder is the discovery that the children with whom they were having affairs have conceived. Even worse is a rebellion to have an abortion upon the instruction of the married paedophile lover. This seems to be a sure way to drive these types of men over the edge. If only these (usually) teenagers knew beforehand, the dangers they were getting themselves into. Sometimes there are factors which push juveniles to these relationships, especially in poor communities. Argument is that sometimes other adults and even the parents know of these relationships, but do nothing because of monetary or other gains to be derived from same. Fear is also cited as a reason.
Talk to your children
Talk to your children, or at least get someone their age to talk to them about matters such as this. The fact is, it is too prevalent in certain parts and offenders seem shameless and relentless in their bid to destroy young lives in more ways than one.