Overcome Personal Insecurities After Giving Birth
Identifying your Dillema.
Being a mother is the most celebrated experience in a woman's life. To hold that little bundle of joy in your arms is simply overwhelming. However, no matter how beautiful the perception is, there are also times that negativity hit us.
Our body has undergone different changes during the pregnancy as such insecurities kicked in. Insecurity is an internal feeling of uncertainty or anxiety about oneself. A lot of moms feel this one way or another in their life particularly after giving birth.
The feeling engulf me as I looked myself in the bathroom mirror and see the added lines, the stretched marks, the dark spots and dry skin, etc. In addition, having those extra baby fats totally lost my self-confidence but, I know I have to disregard this reaction and eventually have to face my worries. And these are what I found out in my search to overcome personal insecurities after giving birth from psychologist Dr. Vilhauer
1. You are not alone in your journey.
There are a lot of moms out there who are struggling but, they are determined to work things out for the better. Talk to the people who are close to you or someone you trust. It will help a lot to unburden what you feel, and they can also help you find a solution to your insecurities that you have never thought. Knowing that someone is there to support you can bring back your lost self-reliance as stated by T. Borchard.
You may also connect with mommy communities in social media who have been undergoing the same circumstances that you're in. In this way, you'll know that what you are feeling is common and all these things will come to pass.
Visit a counselor if you are suffering from severe insecurity to prevent serious mental health issues.
It will also help a lot if you will communicate what you feel to your spouse. They may not relate to what you fell but it will lessen the burden.
2. Pamper yourself.
Leave your baby to your husband, a relative or nanny and give yourself some time to enjoy a relaxing day in a salon or spa. Have a massage, a pedicure or manicure and a facial. I bet it will surely make you feel confident afterward. And will restore and rejuvenate your body.
If you have the luxury to take a vacation a couple of months after pregnancy, do so. Remember to find time for yourself and live the life you love, savor the moment and spend it with your precious little one or with the whole family.
3. Boost your self-esteem.
3. Boost your self-esteem.
It starts with loving yourself. Focus on the features of yourself that you like and do not over criticize yourself. God has given each individual certain qualities that make each of us unique, so we have to learn to love our imperfect self.
You can also read uplifting books or listen to motivational speakers that can increase your self-confidence. You will wake up feeling inspired, and motivated and you will feel that you have a renewed purpose in your life.
4. Exercise regularly.
Exercise can greatly improve your weight because of the extra pound you have gained during pregnancy. Although don't push yourself too hard and remember that you can only exercise three to five months after you deliver your baby so instead of thinking on your weight, concentrate on health and fitness, which will be beneficial for both you and your baby.
Bottomline is you have to accept the new you or you can change perspective by doing the abovementioned suggestions. Stop thinking negative views about yourself and start believing in your imperfect features, your charming personality, and your remarkable body. To end this let me quote from Karen Civil "Don't let the insecurities of others dull your sparkle. Shine like the star you are born to be."
I believe that each of us has our own share of personal insecurities after giving birth. Tell me about it in the comments section and what did you do about it.
4 Ways to Stop Feeling Insecure in Your Relationships, Pychology Today, Jennice Vilhauer Ph.D., Sept. 30, 2016
5 Things To Do When You Feel Insecure, Personal Take, Therese Borchard. May 6, 2013