Parental Guidance Old Ways Versus New Ways

Children can sometimes cause their parents to shake their heads in disbelief, the things that they say, they do, they feel, the questions that they ask, or even their feeling of sensitivity towards sad situations can cause us to say wow. When a child begins to go through puberty and test the limits of their parent’s patience, it can be very trying on a parent’s nerves.

Back in the old days parents use to get out the belt strap, and tan some hides. But in today’s society spanking can get a parent into major trouble with the law, the school district, the social services agencies and even the children’s protective services. After a great deal of careful research, I have found that one of the best ways to discipline an adolescent is not to tell them what to do, but to ensure that they feel as though it is an important suggestion that the child themselves thought of.

As we know children and grownups alike, despise being told what to do by figures of authority, to the point where children rebel, and sometimes talk back, and can even become quite sassy with their parents, and as we also know one action by a child can cause a non positive reaction by the parent. One option to the problem of handling discipline would be to speak to your child in the same way that you would like to be spoken to. Instead of demanding that they do as they’re told, simply ask them and offer a reward system to motivate them into doing what was asked of them.

Explain the importance of the task that was assigned and its relevance to the specific situation at hand, this allows the child to make his or her own choices, it also allow them to understand the bartering system and how they can use it as a means to getting what they want out of life.

Children realize that by doing a specific task, they can benefit and gain rewards and everyone involved is much happier. However not all children can be enticed by incentives some children would prefer to have a pat on the back and to be told that it was a job well done, in those cases the motivation and standards will have to be adjusted for that particular child’s behavior and expectations.

So my question to you is, do you spare the rod and spoil the child? Or do you reward the child for completing the desired task, and spare the rod? Or do you believe that a spanking will get your desired point across and the results you as a parent seek? Please place your comments below.

Ultimately spanking the child says to the child that it is okay to spank and hit, when it’s really not okay. Child abusers create child abusers, don’t you agree"? break the vicious cycle of abuse.