Parents Should Be Good Examples!
Be An Example Children Can Follow!
I am a true believer that what you do, your children will do. Now just what does this mean? We are the first people our children are around from birth until the time they enter daycare or school. Our habits, attitudes, and ways are what they learn. Have you ever thought about what your children see when they are looking at you? I do not mean the physical body, I am talking about what values are being instilled in our children as a result of our actions. What possible attributes are they learning at home can they take to school or where ever they go in life that people can look at and tell that they were taught well. If your children left your house and used the same type of manners that they see in you elsewhere would those manners be a result of being taught good morals.
Our children love us so much that at times we could be making the wrong decisions but to them we are their heroes so with that in mind, they will follow us. This reminds me of the time I decided to do something simple as clean my room and the next thing I knew, all of my children were cleaning their room. In the eyes of children it is hard for them to view their parents as being wrong especially when we are supposed to be teaching them the right things.
Here are examples of a parent being a good example:
A Hard Worker
Children should know the value of being a hard worker. They should learn that not everything if life is free. I do not believe in paying children to do chores, but I think it would be a good idea to reward them every now and then especially if they are doing an exceptionally good job with keeping up with their chores. Also are you a couch potato and someone that never seems to get anything around the house done? Children pattern themselves by what they see. Teaching them the values of not being a lazy slowful person, someone that gets jobs done is a great value to instill in children.
Hope and Faith
When times are rough and you've had enough do you give up or do you show your children that life can sometimes get hard but there is still hope? Allowing children to understand in the higher source above, that is God will allow them to believe when times are rough that with faith and perseverance that in time all things bring about change. Do you give up easily and get frustrated quickly when things aren't going the way you feel it should? Remember, your children are watching you.
A Good Attitude
Are you someone with a beautiful attitude or do you walk around the house as if the world owes you something? Do you walk around with a frown on your face all the time and when people approach you or ask you a question, you are grumpy, frustrated and just don't seem to be bothered with people? This is something no child should be exposed to. Children should be taught to be good likable people. Not that they should be taken advantage of by being too nice but to just be great people.
A Clean Person
Is your house clean and not cluttered with junk? Are you a person that cleans your house regularly and teaches your children to do the same? Teaching children to have a clean home and to take regular baths will teach them the importance of being neat people and how to help combat germs. Besides no one wants to live with an unclean person.
A Drug Free Person
Being a person clean from drugs and teaching your children to be the same way will save your children a lot of hardship in the future. Your child will benefit from being taught to be drug-free in many ways. 1. They will be much healthier 2. They will be able to think clearer using their full mind. 3. They are most likely to stay out of trouble.
A Respectful Person
When you discipline your children do you use curse words? Just as we parents expect respect, we should give our children respect. To belittle children, curse at them, or call them names, lowers their self esteem. Not to mention that they lose respect for parents. If they learn that it us alright to talk to children like this, then one day they might have children and the same pattern will be repeated.
A Non-Violent Person
Are you someone that blows off the handle when things aren't the way you feel they should be? When you get mad do you throw things, throw a temper, or even worse get violent and abusive. Hurt people, grow up and hurt others. This is an awful thing to instill in children. This type of behavior is like a cancer that grows and grows. The child that was abused or witnessed abuse and violence in the home can grow up and abuse his/her spouse, girlfriend, or potentially your grandchildren. Please think about this, if this is you.
A Responsible Person
Being a person that pays the bills on time, is on time at work, and takes good care of business is definitely something that children should be a witness of. Children need to know the result of what will happen if they are not responsible just as well as being taught how to be responsible. If they do not keep up with their chores maybe they could be put on punishment to show them the other side of not taking care of responsibilities.
A Person Slow to Anger
There are times in all of our life when we get angry, but do yo get angry at little things, or at just about everything. When you get angry how do you react? Do you blow up and scare the heck out of your children or do you remain as calm as you possibly can. Teaching your children how to react in certain situations, will teach them how to become better individuals and how to handle challenging situations in the best way possible.
Parenting is not an easy job, but the entire future is in our hands when it comes to what kind of children we are producing. When raising children we must ask our self what do our children see in us. Then really think about what we see and act upon what we see. If we are not instilling the best values in our children, then it is not too late. As a child day care provider, I can remember times where I felt that because parents were not teaching their children the right things, that I had to step in and deal with the affects of that. One of the worse things I have ever heard when I would correct or discipline a child and ask them where they got this or that behavior from and they would tell me that they hear their mom or day say it all the time. This really is mind boggling to me. We as a generation in a time such as this where our children are falling by the way side must wake up and do everything we can to make the next generations better.
copyright by Victoria Sheffield