- Family and Parenting
Parents Who Have Megafamilies Are Putting Their Children At A Severe Disadvantage
PARENTS GONE TOTALLY AMOK.......THEY JUST DON'T CARE ..................
VERY LITTLE MONEY, EVEN FOR THE NECESSITIES
HIGHER INCIDENCE OF NEGLECT IN MEGAFAMILIES
SUFFER THE POOR, POOR CHILDREN-SUFFER INDEED!
Despite the authenticated studies of psychologists, social scientists, and sociologists stating that there are myriad disadvantages of large families from being socioeconomically disadvantaged to having low academic achievement, there are parents who insist on having megafamilies. These parents want a large number of children because it is their dream to do so regardless of the negative ramifications on their children. These parents usually do not economically plan for their children's futures economically, educationally, and culturally.
What is in the minds of such parents you may wonder? Apparently, something must be seriously amiss with them. These parents adamantly believe in having child after child without giving much thought as to the ramifications to their particular family dynamic. They purport to "love" children when in reality they do not. They, in all actuality, view their children as mere appendages, not individualized human beings.
There are countless stories of parents who have megafamilies that do not have the monies to provide for their children's rudimentary needs such as food, clothing, and shelter. They often shop at thrift and second hand stores, purchasing inferior clothing and nonnutritious food. Studies substantiate that children in megafamilies often do not eat proper, healthy, and nutritious food because such foods are often pricey. Many children in megafamilies have to settle for scraps and oftentimes depend upon outside donations to stay afloat. Parents who elect to produce megafamilies appear to be unconcerned with the physical welfare of their children.
Children in megafamilies often do not have medical and/or dental care as their parents do ot have the socioeconomic means to afford such care for their children. As a result, children in megafamilies are oftentimes unhealthier and have poorer dental hygiene than children from small families. Parents of megafamilies fail to realize that children need the proper care in terms of nutrition, clothing, and medical care. All they are concerned about is just producing children en masse.
It is quite obvious that parents who have megafamilies are neither nurturing nor plan regarding the outcome of their prolific breeding. This is apparent in that children in megafamilies have higher poverty rates than children in small families. They often live at the bare socioeconomic survival level. This causes them to develop an extreme poverty consciousness.
There are hardly any megafamilies that could aptly be classified as socioeconomically affluent and/or wealthy. Affluent and/or wealthy people tend to be highly educated and highly educated people are more likely to have small families because of its myriad benefits to the family unit. The typical large family can be described as being socioeconomically poor to impoverished.
Even though the socioeconomic situation of parents of megafamilies can be classified as perilous and tight, they nevertheless insist on having more children than they can reasonably provide for. Such parents are in love with the fantasy of having lots of children without considering the actual reality of raising them. To reasonable, logical and intelligent people, one to two children are all they can raise providing both the basic and luxurious things in life.
Parents who have small families are extremely concerned with their children educationally, socioeconomically, and culturally. They realize that it takes a substantial amount of money to raise children properly. They tend to favor a qualitative approach to life whereas parents of megafamilies are only concerned with mass reproduction without being concerned with its aftereffects.
It is simply near to impossible for parents to effectively raise megafamilies. In such a family environment, one or more children are often overlooked and neglected. It is usually the oldest and/or older children who are neglected and/or overlooked while the youngest and/or younger children are doted upon. In the megafamily environment, children are never given the individualized parental attention they need as it is impossible for parents to do so. Children in megafamilies seldom, if ever, interact with their parents but with each other. It is a truism that children in megafamilies raise themselves as their parents are either unavailable, distant and/or absent.
Parents in megafamilies just let events occur in terms of having children. As a result of not planning for their children, the familial environment is extremely chaotic and haphazard. Megafamilies often live from hand to mouth, merely subsisting instead of living. Such parents are in love with the theoretical aspect of having child after child for its own sake.
Having children involves more than a physical act. There are educational, intellectual, and psychosociological aspects to raising children beyond the rudimentary level. Parents who have megafamilies fail to acknowledge this and as a consequence, their children......SUFFER!
Although parents of megafamilies are blind to this fact, their children are definitely not! Many children of megafamilies voice how unhappy and deprived they were growing up in such an environment. Chris Rock, actor/comedian, reported that he often had to eat sugar sandwiches because there was so little food in the house. Mark Wahlberg, actor/producer/businessperson, indicated that he had very little growing up and often had to sleep 4 to a bed. The late Charles Bronson, actor, asserted that as a child, he wore one of his sibling's shoes and one of his sister's clothes to school because his parents could ill afford to provide adequate clothing.
The average child in a megafamily report that there was not enough food and clothing, adding that they often wear secondhand, unfashionable clothing which made them the odd person out among their peers. The typical parent of megafamilies have a low standard of living and cannot conceive of a more affluent way of living and impart this philosophy to their children. The culture of poverty and poverty consciousness is a de rigueur fact of life among megafamilies.
Parents of megafamilies just provide their children with the mere rudiments of food, clothing, and shelter, if that. They usually cannot and/or do not provide their children beyond the rudimentary level. It is the parents' belief that if their children want more, they should work for it or simply do without because luxuries are not important. They believe that money is not important and quite inconsequential.
Parents of megafamilies view their children as part of the group. The child's individual needs and wants are unimportant to such parents. Individuality is usually derided in the megafamily system as a sign of selfishness. In this family construct, the needs of the whole override the needs of the individual. In the megafamily, either one is a member of the group construct or he/she is a total nonentity.
To summarize, parents who have megafamilies are not concerned as to how their prolific reproductive habits negatively impact on their family structure. Parents of megafamilies are often struggling, poor to impoverished. Megafamilies often do not have the money for necessities, let alone luxuries. Children in megafamilies live at the mere, basic survival level. Any level beyond the basic rudimentary level is a total anathema to them.
Children in the megafamily system develop a poverty consciousness mentality as a result of constantly having to live at a subsistent level. They grow up to believe in only purchasing the cheapest articles available whether it is food, clothing, and/or shelter. Children in megafamilies are not cherished by their parents who view them only as part of a group instead of as individual with different wants and desires.
While parents of megafamilies claim that they love children, such is not the case. They are only in love with the theory of having, not the reality of having lots of children. Oftentimes, they are so overwhelmed by the number of children they have that they assign the raising of their children to their oldest and/or older children, depriving them of their childhoods.
Parents of megafamilies do not know the deleterious effects of their lifestyle on their children. The average child resent being in a megafamily structure where they live substandardly without the proper food, clothing, dental, and medical care. Parents who have megafamilies have something truly amiss. They indeed have a huge void in their lives which would be better served by having outside hobbies and interests. For those who want lots of children in their lives, why not volunteer to help countless needy children instead!
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