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Parents guide for children: How to motivate children to do homework?

Updated on July 14, 2013
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Parents guide: How to motivate my child do homework?

How can parents motivate their child to study is a common question in present times. More parents are searching for the right solution and what is the answer?

When I talk to my relatives and friends, I receive feedback that parenting is a challenge today. Mostly, kids are just not interested in studying or doing their homework. We need to bang our heads to get the homework done. They are just too slow. After work, we need to spend time with the kids for their studies and they just don't seem to be interested.

I saw few cases where parents started shouting and even using physical abuse to make their children do homework. However, they got no results and the child was emotionally and physically scarred for life.

Here is a simple guide with easy steps to motivate your kid to study.

1. Create an environment of study and peace at home. When the child returns from school, if he watches her parents watching soap opera or latest movie, he or she will be interested to follow the same. So, mothers or fathers need to be good examples before children. When children are present, we can take a short break from other activities and read some good books. When we read books, they will like to copy us too. In the end, the situation will be very peaceful and everybody will be reading books. However, if the pattern of the family is different for long time, it might take some time for children to adapt to change. They might continue to watch television for sometime to test us. We need to resist repeatedly asking them to do their homework and continue reading our books. Soon, they will follow us and even ask for some guidance and help. When true motivation comes from their heart, it will continue even without your presence in future.

2. Let the children enjoy extra curricular activities. When children play and interact with others, they are emotionally and physically sound. Their mind is in better condition for studies. As the saying goes, "All work and no play, makes Jack a dull boy". It is very true and practical. Most parents complain that when my child cannot finish his or her homework, how can I let him or her play. Parents need to realize that playing is very essential for children's health. When they play, they can study too. We need to let the children be children. We need to be patient and can participate in some outdoor games with them too. The more time we spend with time, the more they can be open to us about their problems in studies or anything.

3. Take the pressure off. If there is some major examination, parents tend to tense up and feel stressed. This tend to send negative vibrations to children and create a negative environment at home. The children find home too stressful to study and whenever they talk, they find its always about studies and how they need to improve their grades. Parents need to relax and take the big picture. They need to understand that getting good grades is not the end of the world. They need to be emotionally stable and happy. When atmosphere at home is good, children find it easy to study. They can start to enjoy studies instead of taking it as a big burden.

In summary, children can be self motivated towards study if we can just make a small effort to let them enjoy their lives and provide a positive atmosphere at home. Physical or emotional abuse of children is very harmful and a step towards decreasing child self esteem and interest towards studies. So, enjoy parenting and create a positive atmosphere of peace and happiness at home. You might be surprised to see the children naturally change without much effort.

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      Ruchi Urvashi 5 years ago from Singapore

      Thanks Sivklemets. You are in the right direction. As a parent, you are looking at creative ways to deal with the problem of homework and how to motivate your kids. Do apply the strategies from this article and let me know if it helped. Thanks a lot for reading and providing your feedback.

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      sivklemets 5 years ago from Los Angeles

      I read this hub twice, my youngest doesn't want to do her homework at all, she will go to almost any length to avoid it, I am trying to find the right way to deal with it.

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      Ruchi Urvashi 5 years ago from Singapore

      Thanks Adi Setia for your feedback. Home environment plays a key role and letting the children enjoy each moment can light up the whole process. When we light up, it becomes easier for children to study in flow and do homework too.

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      Adi Setia 5 years ago

      Excellent suggestions and tips. It's not often easy to get your child to do their homework. Up and useful.

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      Ruchi Urvashi 5 years ago from Singapore

      Yes, Missy Mac, thanks for your input. When the environment is good, children can be motivated easily to study and finish their homework.

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      Missy Mac 5 years ago from Illinois

      Great points for studying. I agree, no matter the age of the student a quiet and clean location is crucial for studying. Thanks

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      Ruchi Urvashi 5 years ago from Singapore

      Hi TeachableMoments, it is great and innovative way of helping kids do homework. When we are creative, children enjoy it and they learn more.

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      TeachableMoments 5 years ago from California

      Great hub. My daughter just started kindergarten, and with that, homework. Today she did not want to practice her letter writing. I made it fun and took the pressure off. Eventually my daughter completed her assignment and I gave her lots of praise. We even made a homework chart with stickers and magnets to help motivate her to do her homework in the future. Your tips are very useful. Thank you.

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      Ruchi Urvashi 5 years ago from Singapore

      Thanks Locknloaded for your insight. When parents encourage children to express their opinion and express themselves, life is better for both children and parents. It motivates them to be true to themselves and even do their homework on their own.

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      locknloaded81 5 years ago

      Hello there! You did a good article about your hub Ruchi, keep up!

      For me... it would be very helpful also if the parent will encourage her child to express the child's opinion, talk about her/his feelings, and make choices...

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      Ruchi Urvashi 5 years ago from Singapore

      Thanks Cygnetbrown. I like your inputs. Its true most of the parents tend to have same types of concerns.

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      Cygnet Brown 5 years ago from Springfield, Missouri

      It looks like many of us have the same thoughts. It was a well written article.

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      Ruchi Urvashi 5 years ago from Singapore

      Hi Cygnetbrown, thanks for your insight. I can understand that parents deep desire for children to finish their school work independently and chores at home. It is good that your daughter now attends a school with no homework style of teaching.

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      Cygnet Brown 5 years ago from Springfield, Missouri

      I was not a big fan of homework when I was a kid, so I am not much of a fan when it comes to when my daughter comes home with homework. I can't tell you how many times I wished that my daughter was more like my middle son who would do his homework, then do his chores before going out to hang out with his friends. Fortunately now my daughter attends a school that is not big on sending homework. Now if I could just motivate her to do her chores!

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      Ruchi Urvashi 5 years ago from Singapore

      Hi Maria, yes, it can be difficult for children and parent if the pressure of study and homework is present. The best parents can do is create a good environment at home and conducive for studies. Putting pressure on kids tends to bring adverse results.

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      Teresa Martinez 5 years ago from Philippines

      Oh! The challenges parents face when confronted with study matters for children. The dilemma of when to push and when to restrain one's self from pressuring a child to study is very real. You are right however in saying that there needs to be an environment of study and peace at home.

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      Ruchi Urvashi 5 years ago from Singapore

      Thanks Dwachira. I agree with you. Good and peaceful environment at home helps a lot and encourages a child to read. thanks for voting.

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      [ Danson Wachira ] 5 years ago from Nairobi, Kenya

      Creating an environment of study and peace at home is very important as it instill a reading culture to the kid and he/she will grow used to reading and wanting to read. Great article, voted up and useful.

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      Ruchi Urvashi 5 years ago from Singapore

      Thanks Eric Mulford for your feedback. Yes, I completely agree with your view on parenting and homework.

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      Eric Mulford 5 years ago from Prattville, Alabama

      The natural curiosity of a child should make learning fun. Stacking homework on the parents and the child destroys that opportunity. Your comments on taking the pressure off and creating an environment are essential to restoring that natural desire to learn new things. The parents desire for learning should be modeled with the children. These are challenging times but we can't leave our children behind.

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      Ruchi Urvashi 5 years ago from Singapore

      Thanks Jeresteem. Enjoy your time with children and I hope these parenting tips keep on helping more families. Thanks for reading and voting up. Best wishes.

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      jeresteem99 5 years ago

      I have 2 little kids and liked the info on free things that can be done over the summer with. Thanks voted up and shared.

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      Ruchi Urvashi 5 years ago from Singapore

      Thanks Thumbiz.

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      Ruchi Urvashi 5 years ago from Singapore

      Thanks KoffeeKlatch Gal for your input.

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      Ruchi Urvashi 5 years ago from Singapore

      Thank you Sunita, Princessa, Create Hubpages for your feedback.

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      CreateHubpages 5 years ago

      Thank you very much for posting a great information about parenting.

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      Wendy Iturrizaga 5 years ago from France

      It is very true that children CAN BE self motivated towards studying if we make the effort to show them with our own example and let them enjoy their lives, letting them play and discovering the world by themselves.

      I have no trouble with my 10 year old for getting her to do her homework. Most of the time she does it by herself when she feels she is ready for it. With my 8 year old boy is different, I need to remind him to do his homework and most of the time I have to sit with him to do it toguether, but once started we usually finish in no time at all and sometimes even end up reading other books because he gets motivated enough to continue on a subject that he enjoyed.

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      Sunita-Sharma 5 years ago from Los Angeles,California,US

      Great hub Ruchi!Very well written...

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      Susan Haze 5 years ago from Sunny Florida

      Excellent suggestions and tips. It's not often easy to get your child to do their homework. Up and useful.

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      JR Krishna 5 years ago from India

      Great hub Ruchi. Useful tips and suggestions. Parents' role in moulding children's behaviour cannot be expressed more aptly.

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      Ruchi Urvashi 5 years ago from Singapore

      Thanks everybody for your valuable comments.

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      meganlsmith3 5 years ago from Texas

      Very good points. I think it is especially important to model the behavior we want our children to display. But as you said, it is equally important that they get to play. Sometimes I feel we are making our kids grow up too fast. Thank you.

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      rlaha 5 years ago from Spartanburg, SC

      These are some really good tips. Also, I think that parents should have a schedule for their children- something along the lines of school, then home, relax for a bit, then do homework/study for tests, then have some time to play either inside or out, then have dinner with family, then spend time with family then free time before bed; I think this will help structure the family's day so that they can look forward to spending time together even on busy school/work nights. Thanks for sharing! Voted up and interesting!

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      Vernon Bradley 5 years ago from Yucaipa, California

      Personally, I think we could do away with homework and have just as intelligent and educated kids. Teachers are pressured into teaching our children to pass tests which are politically motivated. Children are not really learning. There is no integration with what is taught in preparing to take the state exams each year and what goes on in real life. It is all memory work, tedious, pressured, no joy in learning. It is ALL about achieving a high score on a test once a year to make all the politicians look good.

      There are lots of way to work with children at home in educational endeavors including reading together in the evening, watching educational television programs together, and doing educational tasks or chores together. Working on the car together, working on the computer together, taking apart various appliances that need fixing, going shopping and learning about economics, and so on and so on. Planting a garden for crying out loud and learning a ton of stuff about biology including purchasing an inexpensive microscope and checking out the plants under the microscope. Homework has become everyone's worst nightmare. No, I have not completed a pole yet, so I guess I cannot say everyone, but I hear enough about it to drive me crazy and I don't even have kids in school anymore!

      THANKS FOR SOME GOOD TIPS

      vERN

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      OMGirdle 5 years ago from United States

      Those are good points Ruchi. When my daughter was little, I created a reading place in the apartment for her to read. When it was time for her to read, I sat down and read a book too.