ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

Pick Your Toys Up!

Updated on May 9, 2012
Source

At Your Wits End

Have you ever found yourself at your wits end constantly telling your child to pick their toys up and put them away? It happens to the best of us. Unfortunately, parents have to teach their children to be tidy it doesn't come by nature. If not addressed when they are young it leads to "Clean Your Room Up!" which is really a hardship. So if you are one of those parents who has to tell your child to pick their toys up not once, but twice and sometimes even a third time. This article is for you.

I will present several suggestions to help you teach your toddler to be tidy. I remember my Dad telling me, "You know kids make messes.". I think he forgets what he was like as a parent. It was Armageddon if we made a mess. My Father ran his children like we were all in boot camp. Sadly, I had nine years of it and will never go back. So I am the opposite and rather reluctant to fight over making the house tidy. Here are a few pointers on how to get your child to pick up after themselves without a power struggle.


Bringing Back the Sanity to Parenting

Ideally you will address cleaning up with your child at a young age. I like visual schedules for toddlers because they can identify what they are supposed to be doing during the day without having to read. And on my visual schedule I always put a pick up time. Now mind you a visual schedule is a very easy thing to make. You can take Google images and cut and print them out on a schedule so your child knows what to do. For instance an example might be...

· 12:00 pm Lunch (Place a picture of a child eating lunch.)

· 1:00pm Play Soccer (Place picture of a child playing soccer)

· 2:00 Nap (Place picture of a child taking a nap.)

· 3:00 Play Independently (Place a picture of a child playing with toys).

· 3:30 Clean up time (Place a picture of a child cleaning up their toys and putting them away. Clean up time should be schedule as a transition time from one activity to another.)

· 4:00 Reading Time (Place a picture of a child listening to a story.)

Post Schedule on the refrigerator in your home where the child can easily access it and see it. And if your child falls off the schedule which children often do reorient them to their routine. In the beginning your child will need help following their schedule and cleaning up but in no time at all they will know what they need to do. The trick is not to get to the story until the toys are picked up. It will happen if you stick to the schedule and assist your child in the beginning. Google has made visual schedules readily available and it is a tremendous help for parents of young children.

Always in still a sense of pride in cleanliness in your children so they will always feel good when things are in order.


What About My Teenager?

The teenager cleaning the room is a whole other animal. They have very busy schedules now days and the homework they give is tremendous. I remember in the 1980(s) we learned just as well without so many home work problems. So with puberty and adolescents as a factor boundaries are always good to set. As a parent it is your last chance to place limits on your child before they run off to college without structure.

Being a good natured assistant to a teenager will usually get them to comply. The greatest fear of any teenager is to liked by an adult especially one who gave birth to them. They prefer to think themselves as hatched. So I just go around the room and starting cleaning and cite how horrible they must feel to live in such filth and how much better and clearer minded they will be when the room is clean. Usually, teenagers rooms are messy because they are exceptionally busy, overwhelmed with college boards and trying to figure out what they are going to do with the rest of their lives. They just need a little help and encouragement. I find this to be true with my son. If I start going through his things he cleans just to maintain his privacy.

In Conclusion

Whether your children are young or teenagers they constantly need the guidance of the well meaning parents. It is the approach, consistency and modeling the desired behavior which will yield the highest results. So if you want your child to have a clean room make certain you have a clean house. Set time aside to clean even if the house is not dirty. Make cleaning a routine behavior so you have time to enjoy living instead of waiting until your home is unmanageable and you are cleaning up everything yourself leaving no time to enjoy our family. After all we all should only have families to grow with and thoroughly enjoy.

I have included some pictures which you can make a visual schedule. This is just to give you an idea. All you would have to do is print out the pictures. Cut them out and paste them onto a piece of paper and post it on the regrigerator. You would have to post the times and go over the schedule with your child in the morning and before each activity but eventually the child will learn the schedule without the need of the visual reminder. There are more advanced ways to do visual schedules but it is not necessary when raising typically developing children.

Clip Art From Google For A Visual Schedule

Eat Lunch
Eat Lunch | Source
Play Soccer
Play Soccer | Source
Nap
Nap | Source
Play Independently
Play Independently | Source
Clean Up Time
Clean Up Time | Source
Reading Time
Reading Time | Source

Comments

    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    No comments yet.

    working

    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, hubpages.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: https://hubpages.com/privacy-policy#gdpr

    Show Details
    Necessary
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Features
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Marketing
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Statistics
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)