- Family and Parenting
Children Sharing Bedrooms: 3 In A Room?
Outgrowing Your House
When we found out we were expecting our 5th child, someone asked me, “Are you guys moving?” I didn’t understand the question. I asked them why they might think this way and they responded, “Your house is full!” We have a 4 bedroom house and 8 people live in it. My husband and I have the master. At the time, my 18 year old step daughter had the next largest bedroom with a walk in closet. This made since as when we moved in, she was the only child. I don’t think, unless truly necessary, an 18 year old needs to share a room with a child. They need some privacy. So we have 2 bedrooms left and 5 kids. My oldest set of twins was already in the 3rd room. My youngest set, was happily residing in room number 4. So, where was this baby going? We were secretly hoping for a girl so that this might help with the bedroom issue. In our minds, my daughter sharing the room with her baby sister made more sense.
Bunk Beds Anyone?
At the annual neighborhood pig roast and a friend of mine mentioned getting rid of a set of bunk beds. My ears perked up. I mentioned we might be in the market for a set. At this point, no one knew I was expecting. She asked why we’re looking for bunk beds. I admitted, “We were making room for more.” Not sure we talked the bunk beds after that, but we ended up getting them.
3 in a Room?
We find out we are having our 4th son. We implemented our original plan anyhow. The 18 year old stayed put with the knowledge that when she went to college, she might end up sharing her room. We could not keep a shrine to her when she was in college. She laughed and understood. Our youngest daughter was going to end up in the room with the new baby and the 3 boys were going to be bunking up.
We put a set of bunk beds and a single bed into the boys’ room. My daughter had the day bed and a crib in her room, waiting for the baby. Some might question, 3 kids in a small room. Why?
Growing Up Sharing Bedrooms
I grew up as the youngest of 9 children. The first 7 mostly grew up in another house. I am told it was 3 bedrooms. I have never been inside but I can only imagine the number of bunk beds. With the impending 8th child, they moved to the house in which I grew up. Apparently it was huge compared to the first. There was an unfinished area over the garage that my Dad turned into 2 more bedrooms. When I arrived, it was a 6 bedroom house, 2 downstairs and 4 up.
I don’t remember much of anything regarding where I slept until I was in one of the back rooms, over the garage with 2 of my sisters. I think at this point the oldest 3 had moved out. So now we had 6 bedrooms and only 9 people. Why was I sleeping with 2 other people? My grandma had moved in. She lived with us until she passed away when I was in 5th grade.
So my parents and my grandma owned the downstairs rooms. Upstairs were a bunch of teenage girls with their own rooms and the youngest 3 shared. To my knowledge, this was never questioned. It made sense to me. They were older.
I lived with these 2 sisters at least into grade school. I know this for sure because I remember sleeping in my uniform. I went to Catholic schools and we wore uniforms. Did I mention above the garage was unfinished and then my Dad turned it into 2 rooms? I was not born yet, but I am not sure the insulation is sufficient. When it was cold outside, our room was freezing! When it was hot out, our room was a scorcher.
I shared my room with sisters 1 year older and 7 years older. 2 of us had the same bedtime and one could stay up later. The oldest of the 3 would come up when she was going to bed and tell us, “Time for school!” Uniform on to avoid getting dressed in the Artic temperatures, we scurried downstairs to find my parents watching the news. We were returned to our room and a laughing sister. I recall her also saying low, deep words over and over and never responding when we said her name while starting to freak out! We would beg the voice to stop and then eventually she would start laughing. She was not mean. I think this was just part of the joys of sharing rooms.
A Ghost Is Released!
Eventually our older sister was promoted and got her own room. Someone must have gotten an apartment. Now I only shared a room one sister who was about my age. We shared a room thru most of grade school.
Time to Celebrate!
Getting Your Own Bedroom
Finally, 2 sisters got married in a double wedding and bam, just like that, 2 spots opened. We were going to the big leagues. We were now living in the original part of the house. This was the land were hot summer days and frigid temperatures were an outside, not an inside thing. We were living large. We finally had our own rooms!
Missing Your Roommate
Having my own room stunk. There was no one to talk to! When you grow up with a roommate, you talk when you go to bed. You talk in whispers to avoid getting in trouble, but you talk until someone passes out. You keep talking until you realize, the other is no longer answering the question, “Are you still awake? Are you still awake?” So my sister and I started sleeping over. Not on school nights but on the weekends. My room had 2 twin beds we told our parents where we were and spent the night talking like we used to.
At Home On College Break
While I was in college, somehow I was upgraded to a double bed. My twin beds were gone. When my sister and I were home on college breaks, we had some serious catching up to do. With the twin beds gone, our sleepovers continued. Just like old times, we would go to bed and pick a room. I remember my Mom calling up, “Are you 2 in the same room again?” We laughed and said, “Yes!”
My sister and I took a mini vacation together last summer and shared a hotel. We had not been together in a room for years. 2 beds this time so no need to share, but we chatted until someone could no longer answer the question, “Are you still awake?”
I Grew Up With Roommates. My Kids Will, Too!
This is why I am all for kids bunking up and having roommates. Yes, we could figure out this sleeping situation better. We have a bonus room and this could easily be converted into more sleeping space, but why? My kids love each other. They are best friends. While they enjoy playing with other kids, we don’t hunt down play dates. They have play dates every day with their best friends, their siblings.
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Saving A Room For Child At College?
I mentioned the shrine to the 18 year old not being erected. Over Christmas break, she spent every night in our bonus room bed watching TV before she fell asleep. Her schedule was messed up being home from college and this was fine. What was not fine was the large closet she had, also known as her empty bedroom. My daughter was sleeping with a toddler. My daughter is the only girl left and she was going to end up with her own room eventually. We moved my daughter into the largest room and she shares the closet space with her big sister. My step daughter still has the bonus room bed. My 2 year old has his own room, too.
Siblings As Best Friends
I kept the 3 boys together. They love being roommates. I know they whisper (or talk loudly) when they go to bed. I let it go some and then I tell them to be quieter. I get what is going on up there. It is more than talking after bedtime. They are further becoming best friends.
I totally get it. I did the same thing.
© 2012 Karen Lackey