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Should Grandparents Charge a Fee for Babysitting Their Grandchildren?

Updated on September 13, 2016

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Life is tough mostly, financially, for many families.

Babysitters are charging ridiculous fees for childcare.

You choose the grandparent thinking, you don't have to pay. Believe it or not some grandparents expect payment.

  • Do you approve of grandparents expecting payment for taking care of her grandchild?

It is a time when grandparents should be enjoying their grandchildren, and charging a fee can make it less enjoyable and more of a professional basis.

The grandparent that chooses to be paid for babysitting her grandchild does not always enjoy the precious moments together.

Instead she just looks forward to the payment.

It is difficult to find a trustworthy babysitter, and a grandmother is a good choice. Daycare can be a rip off, depending on where you are living at.

You do need to know the babysitter well enough, before you decide to leave your child with them.

  • So do you think grandparents should charge a fee to babysit their grandchildren?

Grandparent time should be fun time and charging a fee does make the process as an obligation in some ways.

The grandmother babysits her grandchild and does not show love or appreciation.

Taking care of a child for a fee does make the whole situation feels different.

If the grandmother offers to take care of her child it is a polite gesture but for a fee that should not be the priority.

A family should be together no matter what and should show appreciation for each other.

Nobody wants to be taken advantage of it is time for grandparents to be with their precious little ones.

Most people would think that charging a fee for babysitting is odd it all depends on how each family chooses to live their lives.

Sometimes a couple would substitute a babysitter for grandmother care, and would offer to pay her a weekly fee.

The grandmother may be giving up all her free time to watch the child that should also be taken into consideration and clearly understood.

On an occasional day out or night out for the couple in the week the grandparent should look forward to babysitting her grandchild.

  • Do you look forward to spending time with your grandchild or grandchildren or more to getting paid for babysitting?

There are other ways to show grandmother appreciation for babysitting your child.

Take her out to lunch make sure she has everything she needs and that she is happy.

The grandparent has to show love and enjoy the time given with her grandchild.

The moment money comes in between the agreement the time spent with the child can feel slightly less-fulfilled.

In other words babysitting won't feel meaningful like it should have been.

The normal and natural way can be most fair.

Understanding each other from both parties won't always be the same from a grandparent’s point of view.

She won't like the idea of paying a fee to the grandparent and he will accept it.

That is another complicated situation in many marriages and that can cause many issues.

Show kindness and love toward grandchildren charging a fee can make it less enjoyable.

Some people feel it is rude not to offer some money to grandparents for babysitting grandchildren.

Grandparents are spending their valuable time on grandchildren.

  • What happened about having that pleasurable time with grandchildren?

I fairly understand that no grandparent should feel the responsibility in taking care of their grandchildren on a daily basis. It should be more of a pleasurable one and should not concern money.

If a grandmother is willing to take care of her grandchild it should be a good memory and a great experience to talk about.

Most grandparents live on a fixed income and choose to charge a fee for babysitting their grandchildren.

They need to cover up their own expenses.

Grandparents should love their grandchildren and make their time worthwhile or valuable.

It can be fair to pay grandparents as you would pay the babysitter. In some cases families choose to pay grandparents.

  • Do you think it is fair to pay grandparents to babysit their grandchildren?

Some grandparents accept payment and others don't want payment.

It is the choice of the individual.

You should feel at ease to ask grandparents to babysit your child without paying the fee.

I know of some families who live close to grandparents to be connected to take care of their grandchildren while at work or away.

The financial situation plays a huge role in babysitting, and the choice of babysitters is not always a good one.

If the family requires a babysitter, and is not able to afford payment, the grandparents do come to mind and that becomes their choice at heart.

  • For example:

Both husband and wife have full time jobs, and they have a three year old son. They both work daily and still don't have much money for all expenses.

The grandmother had helped tremendously in taking care of the grandchild and in the beginning had not requested payment.

After some time the grandmother requested payment, and the daughter was shocked to hear this from her mother.

The couple started paying the grandmother one hundred and twenty five dollars a month.

The whole concept of payment had caused tension between the couple and lots of frustration together with constant arguments.

Babysitting is a commitment and can be stressful.

It is not the time for grandparents to be responsible for a child. Especially, when they have become more relaxed with their lives.

Babysitting grandchildren should be the wonderful years of grandparents.

Grandparents don't need that responsibility anymore.

They have long passed those years of raising children and running around for toddlers.

Keeping up with a toddler is much more work at their ages.

The expenses can increase and a reasonable pay should be in mind but only if that is a choice.

  • What if the child is not toilet-trained won't that be more work and commitment?

The cost of living has risen and all accounts need to be taken into consideration.

  • Another example:

She would be offended if her in-laws asked for money to sit her kids.

It is a choice of the grandparents and is also a must in some families, only if thought that way.

Asking for money is not the way.

She feels grandparents should play their part in their grandchild’s lives and not ask for money.

As a parent you choose to be there for your children, to love and educate them. To do as much as you can to make your child's life easy. Once they leave the nest your job is over.

If you think being a parent is connected to a contract then you would have to abide by that contract.

She does not expect her mother or his mother to ask for payment. It is either a yes or no answer. That is if they can sit for the kids or if they are not able to do so.

It can be most frustrating.

A subject that affects both the husband, the wife and the grandparents.

Taking care of kids is costly and not every family can afford daycare.

  • It is time for parents to raise their own children leaving with grandma on odd times should be happy times what do you think?

Grandparents are not there to raise your children but to be connected to their grandchildren. To love and cherish them.

Nobody said it would be easy.

A simple understanding and discussions family lives can be less stressful with loved ones.

The love and care from grandparents are very important.

When in daycare centers your child is taken care of but not so much with love. The centers expect payment and hope you are happy with their arrangement. A daycare is just an option for working parents.

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    • billybuc profile image

      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      What an interesting question. I can't imagine a grandparent charging a fee, but is it fair? It is neither fair or unfair. It just is or is not the reality of the situation.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi billybuc neither can I. Great to read another comment from you. ''It just is or is not the reality of the situation.''Thank you.

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      SandCastles 3 years ago

      Hi, I think it depends on the situation. If the grandparent is taking care of the child everyday, giving the grandparent money to help pay for food and such is reasonable and the decent thing to do (especially if the grandparents need the money-if they are not rich). But the grandparents shouldn't have to ask for money; the parents should offer and insist. Or they should bring food to the home or groceries. To just expect free services is taking advantage of the grandparents in my opinion. People have to pay for other things whether they like it or not but many think they can cheap out with certain people like family members. There wouldn't be a fight or tension if the parents offered the money and stopped acting entitled, petty, and resentful and instead, honoured the grandparents for helping out.

      If babysitting is just once in a while, for a grandparent to charge a fee is an insult. It sounds mercenary to me, like they don't want to be with the child and it is just business.

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      ologsinquito 3 years ago from USA

      I don't know of any grandparents doing this and I've never heard of anyone charging to spend time with their grandchildren. I suppose if the grandparents are poor, and the parents are wealthy, they could give them a nice gift or something they needed.

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      FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

      Although my mother did not charge a fee, we respected her time and the amount of money that she expended buying lunch items, for instance. We paid her in kind by purchasing large ticket gift items such as a computer and printer and an all-expenses paid trip for her and my dad to take (with us) to Scotland and England. Daycare is extremely expensive and they don't do the type of job a loved one can do. She kept my daughter during some summers, after school when my child got older before she could stay on her own, and when she was too ill to go to daycare. My dad is cheap and wouldn't have bought her the computer and other big ticket items so it was a mutual benefit.

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      ARUN KANTI CHATTERJEE 3 years ago from KOLKATA

      In India it is unthinkable that grandparents will charge for babysitting their grandchildren. The families generally include the grandparents and even if they reside separately in the vicinity it is a common practice that the grandparents lend sufficient time for the kids particularly when their parents are away.

      Grandparents are always there to offer their care and protection to the next generation. It seems that they have all the love, affection and warmth in the world stored within them. The unconditional love and infinite affection create a special bond among the three generations. More than the parents, grandparents feel the pain when the child gets hurt or starts crying. In fact grandparents look like the happiest individuals when they spend time with their grandchildren who are in general more attached to them. Thanks for the good hub.

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      Cecile Portilla 3 years ago from West Orange, New Jersey

      Great Hub DDE. I don't think that most grandparents expect monetary compensation. However, I think that parents who expect grandparents to baby sit should be generous and do as much as possible for grandparents who have needs.

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      Author Victoria Sheffield 3 years ago from Georgia

      wow! This is an interesting question. I thing that it just depends on the situation.

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      Elizabeth Parker 3 years ago from Las Vegas, NV

      I don't have children, so it's hard for me to say, but...I would say if the grandparents watch the children full time, then they should probably get paid. If it is once in a while, then no, I don't think they should.

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      savvydating 3 years ago

      Interesting question. I think it depends upon whether the grandparents are with the children most of the day, at least five days a week. Then by all means, the grandparents should be compensated in some way. For example, the parents could pay for groceries and a water or electricity bill--something like that. After all, the grandparents have already paid their dues. On the other hand, if the grandparents only take care of the child now and again, that's a different matter. That would be a joy! However, I do not have grandchildren, so I honestly don't know. I think it depends upon the financial situation of the grandparents.

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      jtrader 3 years ago

      I have never heard of grandparents doing that. I guess in families like that they know why they have that expectation. I don't think grandparents should charge a fee but at the same time, they shouldn't be expected or feel obligated to babysit. It should be a choice.

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      Linda Crampton 3 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      Your hub discusses an interesting question that I've never thought of before, Devika. I certainly don't think that grandparents should be paid for occasional babysitting. If a grandparent babysits frequently, such as every weekday, an occasional gift would be a nice gesture, or perhaps some way of helping with the financial cost of food and snacks for the child if the cost is a hardship for the grandparent.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      SandCastles, ''If babysitting is just once in a while, for a grandparent to charge a fee is an insult. It sounds mercenary to me, like they don't want to be with the child and it is just business.'' So true as the rest of your comment so glad you came by thank you.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ologsinquito greatly mentioned, ''I suppose if the grandparents are poor, and the parents are wealthy, they could give them a nice gift or something they needed.'' Thank you.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      FlourishAnyway, in certain cases gifts do work out nicely. Thank you for sharing your comment here.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello ARUN KANTI it is understood about how grandparents should take care of grandchildren and doing this with love instead of charging a fee does make a difference it is no business deal and should not be treated that way thank you for stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      cecileportilla, thnak you for sharing your direct thoughts here I appreciate you stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      VictoriaSheffield thank you

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      epbooks the once in a while should not be charged for though sadly that happens and I don't approve of the once in a while visits for a fee. Thank you

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      savvydating it does depend on the financial situation also the once in a while care should not be charged for and it is time for grandparents to enjoy their grandchildren thank you.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      jtrader great line, '' they shouldn't be expected or feel obligated to babysit. It should be a choice.'' Well mentioned and so true. Thank you for commenting.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      AliciaC such situations depends on the financial situation and should also be a pleasurable time for grandparents. Thank you

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      Mel Carriere 3 years ago from San Diego California

      I think sometimes we think grandpa and grandma have nothing better to do because they are "old," and so we unfairly take advantage of them. If someone wants to leave the kids with them once in a while to go on a date or something then yes, that's okay but if it's a permanent day care situation it is fair that they be paid something. Great hub!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Mel Carrier a once in a while sitting in to take care of the child is a idea no fees is a way to go but for an ongoing care then something can be arranged due to payment well said thank you for sharing your comment.

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      Nikolic Predrag 3 years ago from Serbia, Belgrade

      Paying a fee to grandparents for babysitting depends on many factors: culturological, social and also depends on interpersonal relations. But basically it is a pleasure. Something like that can only enrich their lives. Very interesting topic, I never thought about that. Excellent hub Devika, voted up as interesting!

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      Dave 3 years ago from Lancashire north west England

      Devika you have produced once again a wonderful topic which was always going to draw different opinions on the subject. { as is confirmed by the comments above} I think I am with SandCastles on this one.If you are taking care of your grandchildren on a daily basis while their parents are at work it can become a large expenditure. However, if it is only now and again I know of no one who would charge to spend time with their grandchildren Voted up,useful,interesting.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      dis-cover, thank you for the vote up and interesting. I feel grandparents should have pleasurable moments with grandchildren your comment says it all thank you for stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi D.A.L. thank you for the vote up, useful and interesting. A topic of different opinions indeed and I feel the same way your presence at my hubs is always appreciated .

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      Dianna Mendez 3 years ago

      I can't imagine charging a fee to watch my grandchildren. It is such a pleasure to be with them at any cost. However, I understand some people may have other reasons for charging a fee and that is between the family.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      teacher12345 I so agree with you it is such a pleasure to take care of grand kids but not the same for every family thank you.

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      Shyron E Shenko 3 years ago from Texas

      I paid my mother, what I would have had to pay a babysitter. I was working and could not expect my mom to babysit for nothing. That is a job. I did not charge for babysitting, because the time with my grandkids was only a few hours each week and it was for me to spend time with them.

      Very interesting hub.

      Blessing my friend

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Shyron E Shenko thank you for commenting.

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      Maggie.L 3 years ago from UK

      Hi Devika, A really interesting topic and one that I've discussed with many people in the past. I am fortunate enough to have a mum who loves to look after her grandchildren and has helped to babysit all of her 9 grandchildren at some point. She is Super Gran! She would hate to be paid directly for it but I help her out by paying some of her bills for her, buying household items that she needs, etc. A great hub. Voted up and interesting.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Maggie.L, so kind of you to stop by here. I don't think grandparents should charge a feel for spending time with their loved ones. Helping them out as you do on paying their bills sounds a fair decision to me. Thank you for sharing your side of it.

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      Emunah La Paz 3 years ago from Arizona

      This is a very interesting topic DDE! I feel that grandparents have raised their children and they deserve a break. Of course grandparents love their grandchildren, and they like to see them every once in a while. However if it comes to the point in which the grandparent has to babysit frequently, then I feel that they should receive payment for their valuable time. Even though most grandparents probably would not accept payment, I believe that the gesture is noble.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      swilliams thank you for stopping by,'', I believe that the gesture is noble.'' you are entitled to an opinion.

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      Emunah La Paz 3 years ago from Arizona

      Might I add DDE, the love that you show throughout your articles which includes this one, is heartfelt. In a perfect world your view on how people should treat one another shows great strength through your writing skills. Your passion for honesty is heartfelt. Keep up the compassionate work!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      swilliams thank you for such wonderful words I am glad you came by and shared your mind here.

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      Nancy Tate Hellams 2 years ago from Pendleton, SC

      I think it depends on the each individual situation. We have kept our grandson everyday since he was an infant while our daughter worked. She is now a single parent and our grandson is 14 years old. We love him being with us and would not expect payment but she is so good to do things for us in return. We don't keep score. It just happens.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      OhMe great to hear that she does things for you in return. Thank you for sharing your interesting experience.

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      J Coffey 2 years ago

      I started watching my grandchild a day or two a week when he was born,of course no charge. As time went on they started leaving him with me more and more until now it is 55+ hours a week and they treat me like a daycare. Mon,Tue,Wed,Fri and Saturday. from 6-8am until 6-8pm. They still pay me nothing and he is almost 4 years old. They have never offered to take me out to eat or bring food over nor do they bring anything but his pull-up and wipes and sometimes they don't do that. Watching your grandchildren once or twice a week for free is great BUT any more than that is taking advantage of you,trust me I know.

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      J Coffey 2 years ago

      But you have to remember that they are only young once and imo the early years are some of the best. I love my grandson dearly and would do it all over again.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi J Coffey you do make a good point here. Such cases don't work out for every grandparent. At times it can be a weak point for some families. Thank you

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      I do agree with you thank you for sharing your side of it.

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      Rebecca Mealey 21 months ago from Northeastern Georgia, USA

      An interesting question to think about! I would never have charged, but I can see where it would be appropriate, like if the grandparent is giving up another job opportunity to be the babysitter. Great article!

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      Devika Primić 21 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi rebeccamealey thank you for sharing your comment here. It all depends on the financial situation also grandparents should enjoy their time with grandkids.

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      Working gramma 21 months ago

      My husband and I watched our grandchild since birth for free. I changed my work schedule so they would not go to daycare. My daughter and son in-law never offered to pay. They now make triple income than we do. It has been almost 2 yrs of free childcare 36-40hrs weekly. Recently we ran into financial struggle do to an unforeseen tax bill. We had to borrow $800 from my daughter. They expect to be paid back and my husband and I feel some resentment now. We drive old cars and have sacrificed so much to be there. My grandson had terrible colicky for the first few months. My daughter went back to work 3rd week after birth. We still pass on days to work because she has not found back-up.

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      Devika Primić 21 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Working gramma I don't think they should expect to be paid knowing you are parents. Some people just don't see the situation the way you do. Hope it works out well. When it comes to financial issues there is often an issue to be faced up to. Thank you for sharing your experience.

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