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Teen mom's and their babies Daddies; Part 5
What can I do
For those of you who have children who had became parents before their twentieth birthday and survived, HELP! I'm lost!
No matter how much I try to help or think I'm helping my daughter, I quickly realize I am an epic failure. My daughter hasn't actually told me this, however, her tantrums and fits of tears speak volumes.
I would like to think I am a typical grandmother, I do all the things a grandmother usually does, I've opened my cupboards and provided wooden spoons so he can pretend to cook or learn how to drum on the bottom of pans, I've showed him how to paint on paper and not on the walls, I've baked cupcakes and cookies with him and yes, I let him lick the spoon. With him I have scored huge points. With my daughter, I'm 0 & 0 !
Being the mother of a teen mother has proven extremely difficult for both of us. I try to constantly remind myself that she is still a teen. Yet a mother herself. Most mother's will battle with their teens over chores, curfews, friends and money management. Those of us with teen mom's now have to add new and unfamiliar battles like, putting their babies laundry away, picking up their toy's, washing bottles, how to discipline a toddler and keeping them entertained. Raising a teen is difficult enough, raising a teen mom feels impossible.
When she became pregnant at seventeen I was horrified by how much she was going to miss out on, her teen years were shattered! I vowed to do all that I could to make the transition as smooth as possible. Unfortunately, I have no idea how to do that! If I try to tell her how to be better organized to alleviate the stresses of looking for shoes and lunch boxes, she roles her eyes, If I show her how to include her son in her daily chores, ( they're never too young to fold laundry) she complains that I don't understand, when I stress the importance of maintaining a schedule with naps and meals, she tells me " He's fine!" When I step back and say " Do it your way," she cries that I'm not helping. I can't win!
All I can do and I promise to continue doing, is love like crazy, hold on tight to the bar on the front of this ride and pray no one gets hurt!