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Ten Reasons Why You Should Discipline Your Children.
Last week, a very sad story immerged from New Jersey, where a teenage girl is suing her parents because she claims they abandoned and kicked her out of their home. The parents defence is that she is unruly and refuses to abide by their rules and regulations. Sadly, this has become a regular way of life in especially the western world, where children have power and authority over their parents. This is not right and any child that sues their parents is foolish and it is a parent’s responsibility to teach their children discipline and why they need it, rather than caving in to social pressure. A lot of parents are struggling with raising their children today and they all seem to have forgotten the art of disciplining a child and the benefits it brings. Disciplining a child is not only for their own good but it is also to the parent’s advantage.
The writer of Proverbs in the Bible makes it very clear that “he who spares the rod hates his child.” That simply means that if you don’t discipline your child, then you don’t love them and when they grow up they will bring you more misery than the joy you thought you’d have by bringing them into the world. One of the perks of being a parent is that you have the authority over your children and not the other way round.
Disciplining your child does not entail that you beat them (although a little smack never hurt any kid) or yell at them or treat them like criminals. It means you need to assert your authority and your kids need to fear you. Just like you fear your boss that he/she will fire you if you don’t do your job, you need to implant this fear in your children so that they know who is boss. Besides, doing so will make your life so much easier and smoother. If you’re one of those parents who don’t discipline your kids for whatever reason you have, here are ten reasons why it’s important and mandatory to do so:
You Are Healthier and Will Live Longer
That’s right, disciplining your children has a huge impact on your health and well being. Studies done at the Michigan Research and Development Centre concluded that parents that are disciplinarians are healthier and live longer than parents that don’t discipline their kids. In fact disciplinarian parents are happier and more likely to have a balanced and well organized life than non disciplinarians.
Your Children are Healthier too!
Disciplined children develop and have a stronger immune system and are more likely not to catch any of the “kiddie disease” such as colds, flu, stomach bugs and body aches. Their overall health is excellent and you won’t have to make a lot of trips to the doctor. They also tend to perform a lot better in studies and school activities than their counterpart rule breakers. Disciplined children live longer too and you will most likely meet your great grandchildren before you depart earth.
Discipline Kids are Happy Campers
Have you ever noticed that some children are just happy kids no matter what environment they are in? They have good manners and don’t throw unnecessary tantrums in public places or are not all over the place screaming like chickens heading to the slaughterhouse. Chances are they have parents that have mastered the art of discipline on them. A disciplined child equals a happy child and peace for the parents.
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They Are Less Likely To Be Bullied.
Disciplined children tend to be bully repellents. In fact most bullies don’t even notice them because they are in different arenas. Unlike unruly children, disciplined kids tend to attract protection from any adults that are part of their daily interactions. If you’re child is a bully magnet then there is a discipline breakdown in your home. Children raised in disciplined homes are aware of how to handle bullies. It’s why they rarely suffer from being bullied.
Children are your life investment
We all know how investments work. When you invest in something, you expect good and positive results that you can enjoy for a long time. The same goes with kids. If you discipline them, they will not sue you for a start!! You make an investment when you discipline them so that one day when you’re old, frail and use a walking stick while eating your dinner with Uncle Sam’s dentures, they will care and look after you rather than shipping you off to some nursing home.
Discipline Spreads in Your Family Line
If you are failing to discipline your kids for whatever reason, chances are your parents where not disciplinarians to you. Discipline is like a virus. It spreads and is contagious, so if you don’t use it on your children, your next generation will be a brood of vipers that will put you, your kids and grand kids in the grave earlier than scheduled.
Less Stress Issues For you!
Now that’s something to smile about! It is indeed true that parents who discipline their children are far less stressed out and are more capable of dealing with everyday hectic situations involving their children without dreaming of blowing theirs (and their kids) brains out! Discipline increases the levels of dopamine (the happy hormone) in your body, which is a great stress buster.
Less Chance of You Suffering a Divorce
It is a sad fact that more than half of marriages today are ending in divorce. A lot of factors do lead up to divorce but did you know that if you discipline your kids, you’re actually saving your marriage? This is because you may have problems in other areas of your marriage but your shared bond of disciplining your children brings your marriage closer to make up than break up. More than 80 percent of divorced households have unruly children due to the fact that discipline flies out the window when divorce comes in.
Your Children are likely to become Leaders
This one is perhaps the best reason why you should saddle up your children on the discipline wagon. Disciplined children become leaders and pillars of their community, their city, their country and the world. They are most likely to have positions in the corporate world, the political world and they become positive influencers of world affairs. Unlike unruly children, the majority of them end up being destroyers of themselves and those that do have careers are usually the ones in destructive industries (Entertainment & Hollywood).
Your Life’s Purpose is Fulfilled
People often ask, “What is my life’s purpose?” I’ll tell you your purpose. One of the fundamental blessings of being a human is the ability to procreate and multiply. Every human has been entrusted with the duty of raising the next generation. So, if you are a parent, it is your sole purpose and responsibility to make sure that you raise children that will empower and bring a positive influence to their generation and that can only happen if you discipline them. If you don’t then you are raising monsters and destroyers of not only your family line but also the world as whole.
I hope this will help you understand why it’s important to discipline your children. Our world today is so messed up, confused and on the verge of a total meltdown and one of the reasons of this is because children are being raised in broken and undisciplined homes. You must realize that the effect of an undisciplined child is not just harming you, the parent, but it is harming your community, your city, your country and the world.