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The Boy Teacher and the Father Student # 55 Why? Why Not?

Updated on May 22, 2019
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Eric started working with children when he was still one himself. He taught first aid through Scouting. All the way to preaching to youth.

Riding Since 2.5

Getting back in the game.
Getting back in the game. | Source

Setting Me Up!

“I want to take this robot apart.” “Why?” “Because why not?”

Sometimes the reason for doing something is because there is no reason not to do it. I find myself doing things for the wrong reason. Better if I just did it for no reason maybe. Many would call me a hedonist. That is OK by me. I just happen to get pleasure and joy out of most everything I do. In between writing and stuff today I am going after my stove top and kitchen floor. They are starting to sparkle. Maybe I do it to make my wife happy which makes me happy. Seeing yourself in a reflection from your stove is way cool.

But I admit I like to do it because clean is cool to the rule. (Remember that is coming from a guy who camps in the dirt weeks out of the year ;-) I even think taking a bath/shower every day is irresponsible to nature. Washing off with a washcloth is just fine. Watering the garden will work and of course we love to lather up in the rain.

F: Son how did you do on those State Standardized Tests?

B: They do not tell us for a few weeks.

F: Really? Why?

B: Our teachers do not get to grade them, they might cheat to get more money or something.

F: Wow, and the folks who grade them will not cheat so they get more money or something?

B: I didn’t think of that. Hey could they make my score not so good so someone else’s could be better?

F: Why not?

B: Because that would suck! Like raw eggs.

F: Better we think everyone is honest and get disappointed sometimes than to start out thinking folks are bad.

B: I love it when you do bad. I get to laugh at you and rub it in your nose.

F: Maybe rub it in my face I think is what we say but why not nose, I like it.

B: How come you do that? You know something is the right way. But the wrong way is OK sometimes? Doing wrong is bad.

F: I like that but the answer is easy. Just because people say that one way is the right way doesn’t mean it is. And the same with the wrong way. Now I am going to tell you how to play with your stick.

B: Dad I play with my stick however I want to. Oh! You just tricked me. Go cook dinner.

F: Cool but then a cool short story about two guys that you have studied already.

Being A Dad Is Full On Glory

Now That Thar Is Glorious

Better than any home run!
Better than any home run! | Source

Not My Call

Always question authority. From teacher to the cop to the President. Certainly parents. No good answer and do not trust them. In this little hamlet of fun and love we always ask “Why not?”.

The notion is this; a fool sir is still a fool. The fact you gather them by the multitudes only aggravates the situation. Of course we recognize and respect our democracy but we always question who we have appointed or elected to leadership.

This was a founding notion of George Washington and Benjamin Franklin. Like the fathers of our country. These dudes were super duper baddass.

B: Oh I get it. Just because someone says it is true does not mean it is. And if a bunch of people say it is still does not mean it is true. That is so cool. So if they grade my test wrong it does not mean I am wrong.

F: Close but take it easy there Sherlock.

B: But why don’t you argue with mom when stuff like she tells you to do and you know it is totally wrong?

F: Simple rule is that if something is harmful then I listen to her and then do it my way. For instance she would not know what a “trap” is and for sure not how it works.

B: Like a mouse trap?

F: Same word but this is the “U” shaped thing under the sink. Or you can call it a P trap. Check it out, one of the guys who helped it was name “Crapper”. But it is so the pipes do not fart on the house.

B: OK dad, like I believe any of that. Google later.

F: Fine.

B: You act like you know it all. Brooks says you are full of it sometimes. I know what he means.

F: It is so nice when your sons conspire against you and talk behind your back.

B: You don’t want us to talk about you and what you say?

F: You are such a smartass.

B: That sounds like a cuss word.

F: Fine, smarty pants.

Just Love It

A gift from my Vietnamese Brother. Look at the little kids - inspires me.
A gift from my Vietnamese Brother. Look at the little kids - inspires me. | Source

Closer To The End of the Line, They Tell Me?

Why Not!?

There comes a time where and when you have to do things you do not want to do. Now some would suggest that would mean something like going to school or cleaning up after yourself. I exclude that type of notion here. Not the concept of being told to do something. That is too easy. The time when you have to just do what you are fearful of doing.

Now around here we have two such matters. Riding a bike and playing team sports. For sure the boy can play them and was taught to ride a bike by 5 years old. But he just did not want to.

Here is a bottom line. His grandfather was killed riding a bike. And my middle son/nephew was somewhat crippled playing soccer. Now my wife the glorious woman she is, runs a whole bunch on fear. Certainly her fear of both of those activities goes right into the boy.

Transitions and change are very often very hard.

F: I saw you riding the bike in the back yard. Good for you putting on the helmet. What is up with that?

B: Everyone says I should ride my bike. You know, my buddies and Brooks and Hay and Khanh.

F: Sometimes we do stuff like that.

B: I guess I am starting to grow up.

F: Me too son me too. I mean I am growing up with you. I am glad I did not pressure you. My dad would not let us have bikes because he was a doctor and saw too many hurt people from them. No helmets back then. And then all your three aunties’ road bikes all through Europe and dad road from Tijuana to Seattle. Us boys could not play football until we were 14 or so. And we all 3 ended up captains of our teams.

B: So when I am ready? I am getting ready.

F: What do you mean you were just riding?

B: I mean to play on the Basketball team.

F: I ever tell you about my basketball days?

B: But Uncle Brian did. You were all City and then Allstate and State Champion.

F: It was just what us Dierkers did back then. Morning noon and night we played sports. But if we got “C” grades we couldn’t play. Until we got at least “B’s.

B: Were you ever afraid you wouldn’t do good?

F: Every single day I was afraid. But I am more afraid now of being a bad dad. Knucklehead.

B: I think I want to be more normal than you. You think and work too much.

I thought those old glory days were the best. I guess I never thought about having my own champions. These are my glory days. Win lose or draw they are my heroes.

Why? And Why Not?

Don't Let That Love Hide

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    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      No problem at all I will sleep on the "mall" and protest protesters who are protesting people who are protesting protests. I hear that right to speech allows such things. And then cruise to your place for Kambucha and wall murals.

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      2 weeks ago from Washington DC

      My whole one room has only 488 Sq. Ft. of floor space, that want work, I would not b e a bee to get in and out. LOLAL

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      Eric Dierker 

      2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Nithya,

      I must confess that I just edit but the words are just me reporting.

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      Nithya Venkat 

      2 weeks ago from Dubai

      Enjoyed reading the conversations with your son, learned a lot here. Great wisdom in your words. Thank you for sharing.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Sean you lift me up constantly. I cogitated on this. The why not and the how not. Gabriel is going to smile and giggle.

      "Gabe don't do that. "Why not?"

      Gabe don't do that. "How not?"

      But in line with your thought "How could I live without best friends like you?"

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      No Elijah I meant to camp on your kitchen floor. LoL

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      3 weeks ago from Washington DC

      No camping in DC so I will have two pass on that one.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      3 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Elijah. Air fare and a spot for my camping stuff -- no need for food or stove I got all that, showers are over rated / your choice on that/ And I will clean all hell in your house - ;-) I love being a vagabond. Or do they still say Gypsy??

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      Ioannis Arvanitis 

      3 weeks ago from Greece, Almyros

      My dear brother Eric, to the question "Why do I Love and admire you?" the answer is not "Why not?", is "How not?".

      You are the best "food" for mind and Soul!

      Sean

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill I am taking an exhaustion day off. Well OK turning soil picking up chicken poop - meaning a bag for fertilizer. I envy Billybuc. turning soil and cleaning windows and turning more dirt.

      I will be so happy to spread chicken shit instead of BS.

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      3 weeks ago from Washington DC

      And Eric, I hate cleaning stoves so can I hire you for that task? LOL

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      William Kovacic 

      3 weeks ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      I just have one question, Eric. When can you come and clean my stove and kitchen floors? I'll wait until you get here. No hurry!

      And the Bellamy Brothers - now that takes me back a few years/ thanks for another informative, entertaining article.

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Manatita I have reckoned that wisdom with dealing with and loving children won't be known for at least 20 years.

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Leila. We are truly blessed and have a new person like you comment is a big blessing.

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Ruby I am cautious about his pictures. I figure two years ago is OK but current worry me. But he looks quite the man now ;-) Even my writing is growing with him. And our friends that we meet we love.

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      leila beard 

      3 weeks ago

      so cute

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      manatita44 

      3 weeks ago from london

      Comfort and solace on both sides, I suppose and some wisdom chucked in for good measure. Cool!

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      3 weeks ago from Southern Illinois

      Gabe is growing up right before our eye's. I do enjoy your conversations with him. and your love shines.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      3 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Linda, I do worry. But prayer always heals that infirmity. The best thing about our relationship is that I can error. And then we can both learn. It was Edison who said that he tried 2,000 times on the light bulb, and learned 2,000 ways how not to do it. I taught Gabe that at about 7. A cornerstone. (Listening to "Battle Hymn of the Republic" which we will learn today)

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      John, when our fathers teach to question they open themselves up to being questioned. Our fathers were the best. I thank your father for you.

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      Linda Lum 

      3 weeks ago from Washington State, USA

      Eric, how did I miss this one yesterday. I've been working too hard and not stopping to smell the roses (or in this case read the proses. Ooh, that was awful, wasn't it?)

      I love these conversations between you and Gabe. He has grown up so much since you started sharing these with us. It's wonderful that he is so comfortable with you--that's trust. I don't think you have to worry about being a bad dad. You're the best!

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      John Hansen 

      3 weeks ago from Queensland Australia

      Yes, we need to question everything within reason. My dad always said, "I always question everything I'm told, and only believe half of what I see." A great conversation as always.

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Funny Bill I was thinking of you pitching when I was writing this. Especially that famous photo.

      I had a hen to come in, the dogs accepted her!

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Jason, I like your sentiment and appreciate you coming by. There is a great song about a man learning to love (romantically) called; "learning to live again". It so hard some times.

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      Bill Holland 

      3 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      We let one of the hens into the house last night. She seemed lonely out there, and she's a friendly sort. Why? Why not!

      I'm getting the hang of this, buddy!

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      Jason M Quinapondan 

      3 weeks ago from Cebu, Philippines

      I enjoyed the conversation.It was cool yet enriching to one's wisdom and values.

      I agree that when you have a kid around in the house you've got to grow with them, unlearn all your learning and relearn again.

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Elijah I just took off my shoes. We are going to "skip" loose rocks getting ready for more hiking. Sometimes I hate "why not". Be back unless I break my back.

      OK that was not so good. Thank goodness old men get their walking stick :-)

      Why not be younger as time is really not real. Tomorrow I will be younger than yesterday.

      You are a great friend. Thanks.

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Choices. Pamela we had a first tough man to man talk tonight. Choices. Out next episode will be about what he can get away with verses what he should. What a trip.

      I am so in love with growing up with this nearly young man.

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      3 weeks ago from Washington DC

      Now that's my kind of thinking, Eric, there's not a right nor wrong only a, as in the case of "doing because there is no reason not to do it." there's always reasons for either not doing or to do it. Let's say I have an object I don't know anything about the internal working of it the reason to do it to see how it works while at the same time the reason not to do it is so you will still have a functioning objet but then if I don't know how it functions I will have to pay somebody to make it function if it stops but then I may not have the means to pay for making it function and on and on it goes until one do and the other doesn't wins. With me being the idiot that I am I could keep that up for a while just to have the argument with myself since there is me, myself, Elijah, NatureBoy and I whit each of the five having to have our says. That's why writing prose is so difficult for us, we want to argue how to word it.

      Enjoyed it "my" friend.

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      Pamela Oglesby 

      3 weeks ago from Sunny Florida

      I love your conversations with your son as he learns and you learn too. Go figure! They are fun to read, and I like that your son is comfortable being completely open with you. That says he trusts you as far as I am concerned.

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Clive, an "eddy" is where on the side of the flow of large water it circles due to rocks blocking the flow on the side. My life is one.

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      Clive Williams 

      3 weeks ago from Jamaica

      And the learning and passing of wisdom continues.

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Just a little note to my loved ones here. ///Ericdierker: You just hit your 7-Year Anniversary on the HubPages Network/////

      This boy was just a bit over two years old. It has been such a pleasure to have all you help raise my boy and especially me.

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