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The Boy Teacher and the Father Student# 75 “Discipline”

Updated on October 24, 2019
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Eric started working with children when he was still one himself. He taught first aid through Scouting. All the way to preaching to youth.

My Ocean and My Son

They call it the peaceful ocean. Pacific
They call it the peaceful ocean. Pacific | Source

Give It Your Best Shot

If you know just how and when to discipline you are smarter than I am. I have trouble disciplining myself. How am I supposed to discipline my son? What the heck is discipline anyway? You have two major meanings of discipline. To discipline yourself and to discipline another. This escapes me.

Spitting. What an interesting concept. Probably good to spit right. Get excess out of your mouth. Spitting on sidewalks is still outlawed in most places. I figure that had to do with chaw. (chewing tobacco) But while your teethe are still developing you have the drooling. Young ones have a bunch of drool. Where to spit is essential in life. Probably you never thought of that. Good for you. Don’t spit where ladies walk. Simple as that.

F: You did it again. What should I do to get you to not do that? Hmm. Oh I have got it. Write it down 15 times!

B: Bummer. But better than you taking away my screen time. Besides it might work. I don’t like pissing you off.

F: Sounds kind of lame but I think it works. We would have to stay “after class” and do it on a chalk board. And as I think about it, heck it worked. Crazy how our minds work. I should make you write expectorate. That is the technical term for spitting up. Forget that.

B: Dad if strange had a capital letter you would be that.

F: Fine now get to writing you strange little elf. Remember if there is one line with bad penmanship you owe me five more.

B: Done! Look it is perfect.

F: Never say perfect son – hihihi. Let me see. Now that is what I am talkin bout. Won’t it be weird if you do it again? But maybe we caught it before it became a habit, I hope.

B: Dad you have a habit.

F: Really? What is that?

B: You talk too much!

And at this the lad scurries away like a bad mouse being chased by a cat. I reckon he got the last word in. But I laughed under my breath for an hour. I am still learning this mystical cavalcade of discipline. How the heck do you discipline someone when you ain’t got none to give? The boy did the writing perfect with no real objection. Maybe on this day I learned a bit about discipline.

Goofy World

My Buddy

Look at the kids.
Look at the kids. | Source

Just Some Thoughts

Now this is “freelance”. The boy must write 15 sentences. I will not edit. You will get a look into a young person’s mind that I cannot properly translate or interpret, that is your call.

Once upon a time I liked to rhyme

Then I got hungry so I looked in the pantry

After I watched a movie with my friend yoovie

Then I had my pizza while watching a cheetah

Then I went to bed cause my momma said

Then I had dream about making an evil scheme

Then I woke up wishing my alarm would just shut up!

Then I had my breakfast while a playing video game called bloodfest

In this game you have to… wait, wait, wait why am I making this poem about me again???!!

F: Son I like it. Don’t explain it. I am a reader and not a commentator. I observe. A beetle is as important as the butterfly.

B: But did you like it? Did the end make you laugh?

F: Every bit of it touched my heart. But that is like mom saying your bad art is beautiful. I cannot judge the notions of my children. You know that but shoot that ball wrong and I can judge.

B: Tell me again about “free will”. Am I really free to mess up?

F: Dude, a two week break from school is scary when you hang out with me. I need a course in normal.

B: In school they teach us that diversity is normal. Why are your eyes squintier than mine if I am Asian?

F: Heck if I get it and your moms Vietnamese eyes are rounder too. I guess we need to look into another’s eyes and not at them. Too heavy buddy. Let’s go throw the football and talk about spirals.

B: You act mad but I never think you are. Are you always just pretending to be mad?

F: Cool.

B: Why is that cool? Everyone else gets mad. I think you are strange.

F: Can we just say that when I get angry and mad things work out all wrong. So I try not to and I can do that with you. But I still make mistakes and do stuff in anger and mad. Funny mad and madness are the same concept – never mind.

B: No dad I already figured that out between you and mom. When you get mad at each other it is crazy.

F: Let me sit down.

Walked Up It, It Did Not End

Line of sight
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Sorry, A Bit Sad


Poor kid. Some are poor of spirit and some are poor of money. But how poor is a child with a crazy parent? I suppose just being there is the best this old boy can do from time to time. I suppose just being away is the best this old boy can do from time to time. It cuts into our “productive” time but I still insist on 30 minutes per day of imaginary outside play time. It occurs to me that it is important to be comfortable with just yourself. Probably just lame.

B: I need a dog.

F: Yes you do.

B: So why don’t we have one?

F: Let us not judge but mom has issues with it. It goes back to her childhood. But we just might have to override that fear. And she is not afraid of dogs, more complicated.

B: I don’t understand.

F: Sorry but neither do I. Sometimes I just settle for peace in our home. Maybe I go too far that way. There is a saying that must be taking lightly, “If you do not stand for something you will fall for anything”.

B: That means you have to stand up to bullies.

F: Good enough and we can bully in many, many ways as I am sure you know. But don’t mistake standing up for bullying. No real formula there.

B: Sometimes I think that kids who get great grades bully other kids.

F: Excellence is not bullying. It is the light in the lamp.

B: Jesus stuff huh. But the other kids feel bad.

F: Once again we are getting to heavy. Let’s take a chill pill and hit golf balls. My head is spinning.

B: Yeah, I need some ice cream.

F: Me too, but we have to exercise to burn it off. Balance.

B: I have better balance than you. I can hop rocks better than you. You even use those sticks. Your old and fat.

F: That is why you and mom call me “elephant” and it hurts my feelings. Not! I think it is funny because I can hold both of you up in my arms at the same time. You guys are tiny. Like mice.


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    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      17 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Manatita, my role as preacher to a Vietnamese missionary church here was to Sunday School children and preach the English Sermon. My father in law - a best friend was killed there. Not by war but by accident though he served with Rangers.

      We ask why but maybe do not deserve to know.

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      17 months ago from london

      It is sometimes like reading a conversation between two adults. The boy is smart! Seems like Vietnam was bad for many. Charming music.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      17 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thanks Bill. I surely do count it as a blessing that God put you in my life.

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      William Kovacic 

      17 months ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      Mad? - crazy ?- normal? I'm never sure with you. But I so enjoy you. I enjoy your writing, too, but I just enjoy you.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      17 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      We learned two concepts or maybe three today. 1st is that if your body does not tell you to eat, don't. Guys picking up garbage on the side of the road are prisoners. And that education is what we make of it.

      Thanks Sean -- he also just adjusted my phone.

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      Ioannis Arvanitis 

      17 months ago from Greece, Almyros

      Teaching is an art, my brother, and it seems to me that you are a great artist! My Love to the boy!

      Simplicity frees a lot of space for Love!


    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      17 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Linda, years and years, made me realize to love from the simple plant to complex children. I have learned that we sometimes must deal with our thorns (somewhere around 2 Cor 12 Paul insists that he can boast of others but not himself. A thorn in his side keeps him in humility) I have thorns which remind me to love.

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      Linda Lum 

      17 months ago from Washington State, USA

      That little man is such a charmer, and I know who he gets it from. I don't hear an crazy in any of this--just big doses of love.

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      Eric Dierker 

      17 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Very true Cynthia. He seems to really like just plain being good.

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      Cynthia Zirkwitz 

      17 months ago from Vancouver Island, Canada


      This was a fun dialogue between you and your son. Sounds to me like you don't have to inflict much discipline, just keep the love going.

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      Eric Dierker 

      17 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Mary, we do read some together. He likes to do a "And then I said" game.Somehow we remember things similarly. Perhaps too much time together ;-) Today is one of those days too hot here in So. Cal..So it stay calm and hardly talk weather. Gabe says it is too hot to talk. hihihi

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      Eric Dierker 

      17 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Pamela a few years back I found myself tired mentally. I took a good look and found out I was just pooped from having to work my brain so hard to keep up with Gabe. It is like going to mental gymnastics every day. Not to mention the soccer....

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      17 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Ruby it is scary. He finishes sentences for me from something I said 2 years ago. Heck I cannot remember where I put my car keys and it is the same place for years.

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      Mary Norton 

      17 months ago from Ontario, Canada

      I hope you're enjoying this as much as I do. It's a great conversation. I laugh and I learn. I wonder if Gabe reads what you write here.

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      Pamela Oglesby 

      17 months ago from Sunny Florida

      It is always afun to read the conversations between you and Gabe. He is so quick to amswer any question you ask in a very clever way. Raising a sharp witted bot takes a lot of energy I think.

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      17 months ago from Southern Illinois

      There's nothing like a kid to keep us on our toes. I wonder if Gabe will remember all the good teaching you've given him? I hope so and I know he will. Take care and keep teaching, that's what you do so well.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      17 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Dora I hear you. Little guys have immature boundaries. And so do I. If Momma heard half of these chats she would gladly beat us with an ugly stick. Maybe not even dinner! I understand that men are often absent. Yikes.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      17 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      John I am struggling with heat here. But still got some winter soil tilled for our garden. I can't imagine not planting. Maybe someday I grow old. Not today.

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      Dora Weithers 

      17 months ago from The Caribbean

      Even in some parts which may be a little sensitive, I giggled. This is such good reading. I'd like to be in the next room listening and covering my mouth to keep in the laughter. You two have all the fun, Eric.

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      John Hansen 

      17 months ago from Queensland Australia

      Eric, I doubt very much that I could keep up with Gabe’s wit and innocent wisdom. I am voting for it keeping you young however.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      17 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      These editions are getting hard to write Bill. I find myself not getting the wisdom of the child. If this don't keep me young it will kill me.

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      Bill Holland 

      17 months ago from Olympia, WA

      The mysteries of life unfold before us, and a tiny child has the answers. How cool is that, buddy?


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