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The Boy Teacher and the Father Student; Preach

Updated on November 5, 2019
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Hey now come along for a ride. I write this for all ages. We like it. How fun for us to grow together. I am a pro at this, don't attempt.

Just a Dream Away

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A Father's Curse?

Preach has so many meanings. I do preach and my children roll their eyes. I do preaching and people say amen. I do preach and am ignored. And every single day I preach to myself. Is anyone clear what it means to preach? I like the phrase “preaching to the choir” that is really good. Shoot I used to preach to a choir. How fun is that? Everyone says good things.

So I was preaching to my young son about contradictions. Tough stuff. “Everybody loves someone” or somebody does not love. Answer is not important but understanding contradictions is. Preaching is filled with contradictions. Or should I say “teaching is filled with contradictions”.

B: Dad you said it was important to have my outside playtime without you. But I know you watch me.

F: I do not interfere and I watch you because I like to.

B: But it is not my play time if you watch me.

F: I get your point but let an old man enjoy and do not judge or worry about it.

B: But that ruins it for me.

F: You know that I try not to watch you too much.

B: Ok maybe you just let me see you watching because I know you could do it without me seeing.

F: Wow, I need to go to a shrink to figure that out. I will do better. I will work at my computer with my window closed. But then I do not get to see you grow.

B: Dad just leave me alone for a little bit like your said.

F: What I say and what I do may be different. Get it that is a joke. Do you know what hypocrisy is?

B: Boring, you taught me that from the Bible.

F: Kid you worry me with your ability to remember my stupid preaching.

B: So stop preaching to me.

F: Ok we have a deal. I will just say things and you will forget them. Then we are cool right?

B: Esta muy loco papa.

F: Where did you learn that horrible Spanglish?

B: Con tu Padre.

F: See what I mean. You are a sponge. A sponge should take in water but only used with soap. You seem to have no filter.

B: I know that one. Do not just say anything that you think, think about everything you say.

F: There you go again. Play and I will not watch, I promise.

America is Not a Place, It is a Space

My Wife Born Here and Now An American

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Bring it On!

So we grow. I think growing as a parent is more important than growing as a child. Wait that makes no sense. Maybe growing together in synergism makes more sense. I used to teach and preach. But I finally looked back and my good undergraduate professors never did that. They simply guided us to seek answers.

Check this one out. I did a week-long trip on peyote known as a natural psychedelic drug only legal for Native Americans. One trip is spooky but a week of it is out there crazy. I think I was 18 at the time. Do not worry I went on to get a doctorate so know lasting horrible effects. But it changed a course.

B: I do not want to ride bikes today.

F: Why not?

B: too lazy.

F: That’s cool me too. Ten minutes extra of reading and with me.

B: Hey dad, I changed my mind, let’s go ride bikes.

F: Back to contradiction and you know the lecture coming.

B: Dad you are so weird sometimes I do not want you to pick me up at school.

F: Wow that was out of the blue. But we have talked about this. Only you know I am weird. I dress right and act right and no one else knows I am strange.

B: But I do.

F: That is a contradiction. If you think I am weird but no one else does am I weird? Does your A equal other people’s weird and why not?

B: See what I mean. That is weird. You are some kind of, I don’t know what.

F: Ok I get it. I will take it easy and lets play catch and talk about girls.

B: See what I mean. You are crazy, I do not care about girls except for my friends.

F: Raising you is like raising a hammer that only lands on my thumb.

So the eternal struggle goes on. That turning point has arrived. Oh parents be on the alert. Gabe asked me on Sunday if he was smarter than me. Well the logical answer was yes. The parental answer was “not yet”. I cannot figure with my wife and I it is genetic. But then I figure that would be nurture. And that is hard to wrap my head around. Can I have taught him to be brilliant or was he just born that way? Perhaps taking five years off to raise him will make him crazier than I am. Before his death my father warned me of this.

Do Not Mess With My Man

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My son and I just love the little kids. | Source

A Little Rough But Tough

Learn With Someone - Anyone

B: Dad my Lego wall hanging stuff is not sticking and it does not work.

F: Son you bought at the dollar store with your recycling money. Did you think it would work?

B: Yes.

F: You do not need what I say next.

B: I know.

F: Move on you only have 60 billion other toys.

B: ya but I wasted a dollar. And it makes me mad.

F: No but you got a thousand dollar lesson and I need not say what it was.

B: I hate you.

F: I love it when you say that. Just like when I beat you in soccer or chess. It is a bad four letter word but fun the way we use it. Kind of like our other bad word -- ?

B: Two, shut up and stupid. You remind me of that too often. Never say them, I know.

F: Well you ain’t as stupid as you look now shut up and listen to the music.

B: Dad that is funny but I know the rule. Don’t tell mom unless she specifically asks. Lying don’t work.

F: Son there is a song and part goes like this; “You can’t please everyone but you got to please yourself” and with your good heart that will work out just fine. I think it was Rick Martin, Garden Party but maybe not. I am getting old and the music don’t look the same.

B: I will look it up. I fact check you.

F: Be true but you don’t need to hurt anyone with all the details.

B: I think I get that dad but let me do like you say and “think on that”.

F: That is what I am talking about. Give the love boy and not what hurts.

You just cannot keep up. So I cannot do well. I have to run like a hobo and catch that train. I do not even know where that engine is taking us to. I just got to hold on and let the ride take me. I am not the conductor I am only a passenger, I did not pay the fare to be on. (Yes that is a Biblical reference) A child in your care is not only a gift but a holy obligation. As love makes us the keeper of our brother it is tenfold with a child. I must be careful not to focus on failures but rather on the child.

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    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      20 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      At this point Manatita we are blessed. And see no end to the blessings.

    • manatita44 profile image

      manatita44 

      20 months ago from london

      True preaching is an act of Love, following the instruction of the Christ to go forth and disciple. Fortunately some see this. Others mean well but they still need to look inside … to work responsibly. Hope this helps.

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      Denise McGill 

      20 months ago from Fresno CA

      My kids also quoted me back to me all the time. They remember everything I ever said. In some ways that is a good thing and a bad thing. Your son makes me laugh.

      Blessings,

      Denise

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      20 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Life is Good Devika

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      Devika Primić 

      20 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Parent and child bonding during great conversations. This builds great memories.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      20 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Nikki we are growing to where he is having a say in what I write. He is learning to make his point properly. Tough stuff. Not always what we say but how we say it.

      Love to you and yours.

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      Nikki Khan 

      20 months ago from London

      Great Dad-Son argue, just loved it. Growing a child is like, parents are growing with him. It’s harder than anything, I would say. Answering so many questions, and there is no stopping.

      You’re master in writing all these conversations very well Eric. Impressive!

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      20 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Hari. I got him in a program to go see the Symphony today. So who knows.

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      Hari Prasad S 

      20 months ago from Bangalore

      Eric, You have a great conversation recalling skill. Loved the hub.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      20 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Hari, my biggest problem here is not taking notes. And I have to clean up some man on man language. I assure you this is not "made up". Also I do not include, correction of language logic. (maybe in one I will, thanks) I push on matters of diction. A participle must work and an adjective is not a noun - unless it is. But so boring.

      However perhaps I should include them. Thanks.

    • shprd74 profile image

      Hari Prasad S 

      20 months ago from Bangalore

      Great conversation. is it all real? Gabe is a smart kid.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      20 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Hi Sean, it is good to hear from you. I trust all is well. Yes it is a great adventure.

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      Ioannis Arvanitis 

      20 months ago from Greece, Almyros

      Yes, my brother, growing as a parent is an amazing adventure! And you are such a helpful guide!

      Blessings and gratitude for the company!

      Sean

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      20 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Ruby we are "crossing boundaries". On his trajectory this will get real hairy real fast. Bring it on!

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      20 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Dora it is fun. I keep him on his toes and he keeps me on mine. We are starting to talk about business. More will be revealed. Foundations are on the menu. And we start with Bible about building a foundation on sand. So cool.

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      20 months ago from Southern Illinois

      I dig your rules, now to keep them is the difficult part. Gabe is growing smarter daily.

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      Dora Weithers 

      20 months ago from The Caribbean

      Great parent-child dialogue! No fear of boredom or slowing faculties for you. Awesome pair!

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      20 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Linda you hit the nail on the head. So we do not want the child to have the burden of the parent. Way wrong. I think around 12 they do it anyway. Gabe is far too above the curve. My only burdens come out in pursuit of thought and faith and love.So we may just do dandy like candy.

      As to your song. This will be interesting in coming years as he learns my faults. How can we both learn from them?

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      20 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill, Gabe and I have a deal now. When it gets just too heavy we shake our heads and put up our hands and move on. Baseball catch clears the headache.

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      Linda Lum 

      20 months ago from Washington State, USA

      Eric, first it was Ricky Nelson (of Ozzie and Harriet) who sang "Garden Party." You got the lyrics right.

      We are hearing Gabe grow up and I'm almost a little bit sad. Isn't it funny how we want our kids to grow and learn and become independent...and then we're sad when they do just that?

      "You, who are on the road, must have a code that you can live by.

      And so become yourself because the past is just a goodbye.

      Teach your children well, their father's hell did slowly go by,

      and feed them on your dreams, the one they picks, the one you'll know by. Don't you ever ask them why, if they told you, you would cry, so just look at them and sigh and know they love you." (Cosby, Stills, Nash, and Young).

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      Bill Holland 

      20 months ago from Olympia, WA

      There are too many truths in this. I now have a headache from overload, but there's no pain involved. How can that be????

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      20 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Pamela. In this series I do not know what happened. I think we started about 4 years ago, so he was 5. I have been so blessed to be with him as primary parental service. And now we have hiked 14 miles in the Grand Canyon together.

      So now he is 9.5 about. We set up "honesty" before learning. I once asked God to let me "know" nothing. God just did it God's way. Learn from the child.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      20 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Flourish contemplating that and just prayed in thanks. Funny maybe that I used obligation instead of duty. I will have a piece out on "Custody" soon. Thanks for your constant support, that is all I get.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      20 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      John it is into a marvelous phase. Like old married couples we finish each other's sentences. We are now truly learning together. Your contradictions will do well on that.

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      Pamela Oglesby 

      20 months ago from Sunny Florida

      The conversation is changing a bit over time. I think Gabe keeps you on your toes as he is clearly telling what he likes and what he doesn't. I think the talks you have together are great. He seems to never forget a word you have said in the past. Smart kid!

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      FlourishAnyway 

      20 months ago from USA

      I like that he is your holy obligation. What a lovely thought.

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      John Hansen 

      20 months ago from Gondwana Land

      I can always handle your "preaching" Eric. It seems like Gabe is starting to try and set boundaries as to what you should and shouldn't do. You mentioned you are trying to teach him about contradictions, well, I wrote a poem called contradictions. It may be helpful, it may be not, but you are welcome to check it out. The hub is called "Contradictions and Other Poetry."

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