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The Gradual Wean: How to Stop Breastfeeding

Updated on February 1, 2011
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Lela Davidson is a mother and writer, passionate about healthcare and education for women and children.


Forget what everybody tells you, you're really the only one who knows when to stop breastfeeding. Stopping breastfeeding is a personal decision, nobody else's business but you and your baby's. If you need to stop breastfeeding, that means you have been breastfeeding for some period of time, and whatever that was - a week or a year - it was good enough. This article gives practical tips on how to stop breastfeeding. If you need more guidance about when to stop breastfeeding, read I Want to Stop Breastfeeding, Why Do I Feel So Guilty?.

The first thing you need to know about how to stop breast feeding is that there are many ways to approach it depending on your situation. It's important to note that in some cases, it's necessary to stop breast feeding due to a baby not gaining adequate weight, but this is relatively rare. Most women choose to stop breastfeeding for other reasons.

The Gradual Wean

Perhaps the easiest on you and the baby is to gradually move baby from breast to bottle. You can do this by cutting just one feeding at a time. Start with one or two feedings a week. (This is a great excuse to get out of the house and let someone else feed the baby!) The benefit of gradual cessation of breast feeding is that your milk production decreases slowly so that you don't become engorged and the baby had time to adjust to the flavor and experience of bottle feeding. You may want to consider building up a stock of breast milk to mix with formula if your baby seems averse to the flavor of formula.

Many women keep night feedings as long as possible, even when all other feedings are by bottle. Many working women find this to be a nice compromise to stopping breast feeding altogether, and for some people it works. A lot of women love that they can offer the breast once a day. Just remember that everyone's different and not all women's bodies will accommodate this schedule. Go easy on yourself, listen to your own body's cues, and do what feels right.

To relieve full breasts, pump or hand express just a little. Expressing small amounts of milk in place of a feeding will cause milk production to decrease and make you feel better. The less milk you remove, the quicker your body will adjust. One very simple way to take out just the right amount is to take a hot shower. Breasts will leak out the excess milk.

How Long Will It Take?

Interestingly, in my research I tried to find a quicker method of weaning and the advice I found was exactly the same! Therefore, you can go as slowly or as fast as is comfortable for you and your baby. If outside circumstances force you to wean faster than you'd like, that is just something you have to deal with. There really is no magic answer.

Relief For Engorged Breasts

No matter what you do, it's possible you'll suffer from a little breast engorgement. This will pass and fortunately there are some comforting actions you can take.

  • Cool cloth or cabbage leaves - anything cold and flexible!
  • Express just enough milk to relieve breast fullness, but not so much as to stimulate more production.
  • Gently massage breast lumps in a warm shower.

Some Don'ts

  • Never bind breasts. Contrary to popular myth, it does not help your milk to dry up. It can cause infections and plugged mild ducts.
  • Some women say not to eat oatmeal when you have too much milk.
  • Don't expect it to happen overnight.
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    traceybanz 6 years ago

    thanks for the info, but i am breastfeeding my daughter for almost 3 and a half years now, and she doesn't want to stop., HELP!!

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    Gemmak2002 6 years ago

    Thank you so much for an interesting and informative article. Thank you also for all the comments too, it's so reassuring to know there are other mums in exactly the same boat as yourself. I have exclusively breast fed by beautiful baby boy for six months and now feel I am ready to begin weaning him on to some formula feeds whilst also introducing solids. As a first time mum I've felt anxious over this decision, this article has helped, thanks again :)

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    Dee 6 years ago

    THankyou for this information. I hav had to put my son whos 4 1/2 months onto formula as he hasn't been putting much weight on. I was really disappointed in myself as I really wanted to breastfeed for at least 6 months. But my son is so much better on formula, a lot more happier and content. Thanks for making me feel like I didn't fail. At least he got 4 1/2 months of breastmilk. And as long as your baby is happy, thats all that matters...

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    tina 7 years ago

    what happens when i do the weaning and always get clogged ducks ouch!

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    Beccy 7 years ago

    I hae looked and looked for advice like this, and this was the first useful article I have found. It is just what I need. C is 10 months old now and hasn't been sleeping at night for 6 months now, choosing to feed up to 15 times at night. Last night my husnband gave her a bottle and she slept write through!!! She's been on a bottle in the day since 6 weeks but I have never been able to give her one as she smells me and wants to feed from me. So it looks like night wake ups are now his job!!!!!!

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    Cal 7 years ago

    I fed every 2 hours for 1 1/2 hrs, it's so hard at first and I can truly understand and appreciate how it feels to decide to bottle feed. I've been breastfeeding for 8 months after a very challengning initial 4 months, which led to an occasional bottle of formula/expressed, and now dread giving it up. Its so easy to just let her decide when to feed I won't know when to offer a bottle (as daft as that sounds). Its also great in the middle of the night as don't have to makeup / warm a bottle, i can just put her on and go back to sleep if needed!

    I have no problem with her taking a bottle from hubbie, but she thinks its odd from me, so how do i introduce it regularly and when - we are also babyled weaning.

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    Ravs 7 years ago

    Thanks a lot.

    i was doing it all wrong by expressing out as much as i could from engorged breasts when i happened to be away two nights & it was very painful. now i got to know i was actually making place for more milk production.

    i would express only a little but the engorged breasts pain a lot. how to get relieve of them till the time whole milk gets out on its own.

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    wei 7 years ago

    Breastfeeding for every 2 hours is not easy for a start but the hours between feed will increase gradually and it won't be that hard over the next few months.I finds breastfeed my dd on the bed is a relief to my tiredness and sleepless night. I am still bf her and she is 6 months old now.

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    Nicky 7 years ago

    Why does everyone assume that mothers are uneducated and need the "Breast is best" message rammed into them at every opportunity? I don't think there is a mum out there who doesn't realise that breast milk is the best option. Unfortunately many of us have had to deal with the fact that breast feeding does not always run according to plan and whether the drive to stop is for physical and/or psychological reasons we don't need to be reminded that we are giving our babies something that is less than the ideal if we opt for formula. The push for mothers to breast feed should not be adding pressure to mothers and contributing to post natal depression. In my opinion it needs to be toned down so that mothers' and babies' happiness and bonding can be moved to the fore.

    A wise person once said to me "Put two adults next to each other, one breast fed as a baby, the other not and see how many people can tell them apart."

    My first two kids were breast fed with tongue ties for three months. My 6 week old son has been fed expressed breast milk supplemented with formula pretty much since birth after continual problems with nipple thrush, cracked nipples and mastitis. Had his tongue tie cut but my nipples still broke down. Despite putting up with this for 6 weeks while expressing I still feel guilty about choosing to wean now. Ridiculous really. I think it is the immune and allergy theory that gets at me the most, though truth be told genetics probably play a much greater role in both.

    My lactation consultant said even given colostrum is a great start and any amount of breast feeding is to be congratulated!

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    sarah 7 years ago

    I think it is very important to realize that breastfeeding is not all or nothing. Mothers can get so stressed out about breastfeeding for various reasons. Supplementing with formula should normally be tried first before complete weaning. Often times just cutting back breastfeeding can free up enough time to allow it to continue in part.

    NOTE to breastfeeding moms. You don't have to pump all the time. It is ok to supplement!

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    Mommyof5u 7 years ago

    I'm glad I found this site I've decided. To stop breastfeeding my son is 4 1/2 months and I have been pumpin n bottle feeding because we were having problems with latching on n I am about to go back to work I'm glad I breastfed as long as I did I love hi. I am pumping every 3 hrs then the engorgement is painful. I'm tired I have 4 other children to take care of it gets exhausting. HATS OFF TO ALL MOTHERS. WHO BREASTFED NO. MATTER HOW LONG:)

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    Liza 7 years ago

    OMG this article was a big helo for me. I am stoping today and I felt guilty so I researched on Internet and I found this. My baby is nine months and she is taking it well.. of course my busband is helping me a lot..brest feed is the best for the baby... I was lucky I was able to do it..:)

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    Diana 7 years ago

    Great article! And also thanks for that tip on which bottles to use bella.. My daughter is turnin one in a week and im still breastfeeding her, I have to stop because i recently started school and she wont eat at all until i come home! We have formula for her but shes being so stubborn. Im stressing out, not enjoying school and i find myself skipping classes a lot because i feel bad that she wont eat. Im going to try the NUK bottles hopefully she will take that! Thanks everyone for the great tips!

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    bellagirls 7 years ago

    If you ladies are trying to switch your babies to the bottle...I had always believed that Playtex with bottle liners were the best solution...however I have discover NUK air flow bottles specially designed for nursing Mothers... they are more expensive then the others...personally they have been a god send! My daughter loves them and took to them so much easier then the other,, i found they most resembled the mothers breast...Just an idea..I love them give it a try

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    bellagirls 7 years ago

    If you ladies are trying to switch your babies to the bottle...I had always believed that Playtex with bottle liners were the best solution...however I have discover NUK air flow bottles specially designed for nursing Mothers... they are more expensive then the others...personally they have been a god send! My daughter loves them and took to them so much easier then the other,, i found they most resembled the mothers breast...Just an idea..I love them give it a try

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    Rachel 7 years ago

    My son is 6months old now, I have been topping him up with formula at night since he was 14weeks old as he has such a huge appetite, I gradually increased his formula to 2 feeds per day and we were doing just fine with that,he then dropped all breast feeds apart from the morning feed himself, I guess he could get more out of the bottle faster than he could off my breast. A week ago he just refused to take the breast at all, I was gutted, I would have continued to feed him as long as he wanted it (within reason), I have very sore, swollen breasts, and was just wondering how long I could expect this to last?

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    Lynsey 7 years ago

    Good Luck to all those women who are trying to wean their babies. If you can try dropping just one feed at a time, I dropped the 2nd feed of the day first, this was the easiest after 6 months because she was eating breakfast at this time (obviously supplement this for bottle if the baby is younger). My problem lies in the fact I have allowed to develop a feed to sleep pattern, I can not stress enough how much you want to avoid this, and feed your baby when she is not ready for a nap!:) Good luck.

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    maria 7 years ago

    I am happy that I'm not alone. I have a 10 month old I only breastfeed him at night 2 feedings only. During the day I feed him food, water and juice in his sippy cup. I want to stop breastfeeding thru the night! I need help please help. He won't let go those 2 feedings to go to sleep and around 4am. Please answer question. Thank you!

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    bellagirls 7 years ago

    By the way...THANK YOU LADIES! It is so nice to know that I am not alone in easy to be judged!

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    bellagirls 7 years ago

    This Website is fantastic! I have two girls, bottle fed the first one (6 years) and breast fed my second(7 months). I am personally struggling with weaning her. We have been gradual the past month. I always thought I would be a horrible mother if I couldn't make it to 6 months( outside pressures i guess). She really only nurses at night and in the morning, during the day she takes the bottle fine. At night and first thing however she absolutely refuses. What do I do? I feel so guilty that I am taking her personal comfort away. She doesn't have a blanket or soother etc. Its me. This page has been GREAT I just wish I didn't feel so bad...any ideas? How do I take the final step? ( I try to explain I too enjoy our time's just time u know what I mean?)

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    ashley 7 years ago

    i stopped nursing my son at 4.5 months it has now been about 7 months later and my breasts are still producing drops of milk is that normal?

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    Kate 7 years ago

    I stopped yesterday after 8 months - the reason I stopped was when I was bitten! (and it really hurts!!!!) so now I am scared to breastfeed and have decided the time has come to stop.

    My boobs are killing me today so I looked up some advice (or lack of it!) for stopping. Thank you for your useful article I am going to go and express just a little to take the pressure off!!! my son has moved onto a bottle of formula and quite happy with a bottle so just have to sort my swollen boobs out and can close the door to the breastfeeding.


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    Marilyn 7 years ago

    I am feeling so depressed because my daughter does not latch on. I have been pumping, but it is so stressful.... I am tired and disappointed at myself. I have decided to stop breastfeeding but feel so guilty. I feel a little better knowing someone out there has gone through this.

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    Nikky 8 years ago

    Thank you thank you thank you!! This has been such a helpful website. I have had to pump since day one with my 5 week old daughter due to latching issues. I have tried everything under the sun to get her to breastfeed, including 2 lactation consultants, with no luck. I am a bartender/server so it's not realistic that I pump at work. This article has made me feel so much better about my situation and showed me that there are numerous women out there in my shoes. I am not alone... THANK YOU!! Finally a helpful website!

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    Sophie 8 years ago

    i just want to say well done to all you ladies who have given breast feeding a try! i've been feeding my son for 13 months and now feel the time has come to stop....i've decided to go "cold turkey" as he will not take expressed milk. it's day two today and it's going well so far he does get upset but i just try to entertain him to take his mind off of it!! good luck what ever you decide.

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    ellypuss 8 years ago

    My son had a tongue tie which stopped him from latching on either side so he was causing cracks and excruciating pain for me, and it was a fight to try and feed him leaving me in floods of tears and him frustrated and tired, we started pumping but that was just as tiring. he had the skin under his tongue cut but he still can't latch on to one side and he still fights so we have made the decision to formula feed, I feel as though i've let him down but I know he's going to be happier because there is no fight and I'm calmer which will give us all chance to bond properly, thank you for making me feel less guilty and to the other mum's who have had similar problems I feel your pain.

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    Desiree 8 years ago

    Thank you so much for this information it made me feel so much better i have been wanting to stop for a while. Me and my fiancé have been trying to buy a house and its been hell and ive been stressed out. I have felt so guilty about stopping even crying at times...she is 1 month old now and i don't feel so bad anymore...thank you soooo much

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    TONI 8 years ago

    I am so happy i found this site. My daughter is a month old and i am feeling really guilty about wanting to stop breastfeeding. I am mainly pumping and giving it to her in a bottle dt her getting tired/bored? when she is on the breast, I will think she is done after 20ish minutes just for her to cry 15 minutes later bc she is still hungryso i have to go make her a bottle . I just feel like i am doing double work and i am WORN OUT!! I don't want to get to the point where i don't enjoy her bc i am so frustrated. I have sat and cried all day about it bc i feel like a bad mom or like many of you have said "letting her down". I am going to try my hardest to not let what my family and friends will say to make me feel bad.

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    Mommyof3 8 years ago

    I Have 3 Girls 7, 4, and 5.5 months. I Could not breastfeed my first 2 due to poor latching and poor support system. BUT with my 3rd my husband now was very supportive, i tried dilagently for 1 month to get her to latch but finally gave up and started pumping since i was going back to work anyway when she was 2 months old. Since then i have pumped 4 times a day and making 12 oz a 12 oz bottle that olds her off until i pump again. But the past few days she had a stomach bug and threw all of it up and i was stuck not having enough milk to satisfy her needs. So since this has happened and she refuses anything but breastmilk i am mixing half and half as of today, so far she does ok. I feel so horrible for doing this but i don't have a choice. For one i am working full time and have 2 older children as well. As "New mommy" has said carrying a pump around SUCKS! especially when u have to go to work and during ur lunch time u have to pump then rush to eat. I know i have done my best but i just feel so horrible, she hates formula, and i feel lk i am depriving her of her way to a better immune system. Although the article above makes me feel better, i still feel really bad... when does the guilt go away?

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    julie 8 years ago

    i have been brest feeding my little boy from birth,and he is now 7 months.trying to wean but he refuses bottle.he want to eat what mummy is eating,am stressed as i now have back pain.i need help

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    josephine 8 years ago

    thanks for the article. it helped me feel a little less horrible about my situation. my baby never latched on. 2 lactation consultants and still no latch. i pumped for a month and was frustrated with my milk supply. i wouldn't get enough to fill her up. i started supplementing with formula at night. now im strait formula only. i realized i wasn't enjoying my baby because i always had to pump and it was just becoming a stress for me. congrats to all the women that are able to breastfeed. i give you all a lot of credit.

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    katburd3 8 years ago

    I am SO happy to have found this site! As of today I am stopping breastfeeding/pumping. My son is 6 weeks old today and I was exclusively pumping due to latch on issues. I just can't take the pumping schedule anymore and feeling helpless when I was in the middle of pumping and he would start to cry. He also has a milk allergy, so I had to eliminate dairy from my diet, and wow, milk is in EVERYTHING!!! So my husband and I made the decision to go to formula, which is stressful thinking of how to pay for it. Because of his milk allergy the pediatrician told us to use Similac Alimentum which is so expensive. I know it's the best for all of us, but I am totally feeling the guilt and up until finding this site, I had felt totally alone in my feelings! I am so super engorged right now and can't wait for a few days away when I feel better!

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    Merriweather 8 years ago

    You're so right about this being a personal decision. No matter how long you breastfeed, someone is going to have something (unsolicited) to say about it. I weaned my oldest at about 23 months because I was 3 months pregnant and thought I "had" to. I nursed the next 2 while pregnant and had lots of well-meaning folks tell me I should not have been. Whether and how long to breastfeed should be up to individuals. I believe the AAP recommends to a year and then beyond as long as it is mutually agreeable for mother and child.

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    zandile nyawose 8 years ago

    i am vey tired of breastfeeding my child is almost 2years now and im triying to stop breastfeeding her but she refuse to so she loves breastmilk more than anything smetimes she most of the time she is lacking appitite she does not want to eat she only want to be breastfed please help!!!!!

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    zandile nyawose 8 years ago

    i am vey tired of breastfeeding my child is almost 2years now and im triying to stop breastfeeding her but she refuse to so she loves breastmilk more than anything smetimes she most of the time she is lacking appitite she does not want to eat she only want to be breastfed please help!!!!!

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    Tracy Behr 8 years ago from Port Elizabeth

    Great hub! Good info… 5 *

    My hub is on which a good diet for breastfeeding, which foods to avoid etc.

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    Amy 8 years ago

    I, too, am happy to find this page. I have had to pump feedings for my 7wk old due to poor latching on and extreme nipple soreness since she was born. I completely sympathize with "New Mommy" about only getting 2 hours away before I have to rush home and pump. Either that or suffer miserably. My husband I had a dinner & movie date night (our first in months) and the entire time I was watching the clock knowing I'd be in total misery if I didn't get home in time to pump. Some date! I have literally felt like a miserable milk machine...and guilty for it. Now they think she may also have a milk allergy! I have been on the verge of mental breakdown from the pumping schedule and have to return to work next week. I really don't think I can handle any more stress. I want what's best for her, but having to work and take care of my other kids makes me feel even MORE inadequate because I am so emotionally fragile. I don't want to snap. I'm proud that I breastfed for 7 weeks and gave her a good start. I breastfed my other 2 girls for about the same amount of time. I just don't think I'm cut out for the long haul when it comes to breastfeeding. I'm going to hold my head high and opt for a good, pediatrician recommended formula. Best of luck to the rest of you, too!

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    Dawn 8 years ago

    Talk about GUILT! Everyone pushes breastfeeding so much and if you don't they make you feel horrible! I have tried so hard and just decided to stop today due to my daughter having a milk protein allergy (blood in stool for the last month). I feel like I am letting her down and taking away a HUGE comfort for her-I know it will just take time and that it's probably harder on me than it is on her! And it's not good for her to continue to have blood. I could have tried a super-strict diet, but decided enough was enough and wanted to get her better asap. It's nice to know there are other woman who feel the same as I...

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    Franciska de Klerk 9 years ago

    I have been breastfeeding for 15 months. Been trying to get her off her comfort drink for 3 months now. Two days ago I stopped. I explained to her that she had all the milk and that it is finished now. She cries a bit and then get over it. I give her lots of hugs and kisses. I honestly believe that if you are on a demand-feed programme there is only one way and that is to stop. I believe (and this is my opinion) that denying one feed at a time only cause confusion. My little princess is coping well as I am sticking to one of the greatest ground rules : to be consistent.

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    vicky 9 years ago

    i want to stop breastfeedin but i'm feelin guilty about due to the fact dat i'm a full time mommy to my 4 mth old and to three lil boys-5yr-3yrs-1yr old. i don't know how to relieve this engorgement. i don't remember wat i did last time

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    Momof2 9 years ago


    I am in the exact same boat as you. It is so nice to share similar experiences. My first born would not latch on correctly because of flat nipples, so my lactation consultant had me use nipple shields. They worked ok, but were so annoying to constantly wash and have at all times. He would not latch on without them. In addition to that issue, my supply was not abundant and he did not gain weight the first few weeks. My doctor recommended supplementing with formula and he began to thrive. I stopped berastfeeding at 1 month with him and am happy to say he is an incredibly bright and extremely healthy 3 1/2 year old now. I just gave birth to my daughter three weeks ago and have the same issues. This time, I am pumping (she was too frustrated with the nipple shield and didn't get enough milk that way) and feeding by bottle and supplementing with formula. I am in the process of weaning and am increasing time between pumping about an hour every few days (I'm currently pumping anywhere from 1-2 oz every 5 hours). I'm in pain and it's incredibly difficult to pump several times a day with a newborn and toddler in my lap, so I know it's time to stop. It does make me feel guilty that I'm going to stop, but I look at my son and how well he has done and know I am making the right decision for me and my family. Best of luck to everyone and congratulations for giving breastfeeding a shot!!! Every little bit helps!

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    New Mommy 9 years ago

    THANK YOU SO MUCH for this article. It put me to ease... I've had my mom, my mother in law, and friends all give me guilt trips about wanting to stop! My husband is even adament that I not continue. But it has been grueling hell, I resorting to pumping because there is no way my daughter can latch on... and I spoke with a certified lactation consultant. My anatomy doesn't reach far enough into her mouth (to touch the roof) to signal to her to suckle, she hates nipple shields (they gave her something to actual latch onto) so I resorted to pumping and supplementing with formula. That meant lugging a pump everywhere I went or if I left it at home being in pain and rushing home for relief. It got to the point to where I don't even go out because within 2 hours the pain and fullness returns, I continue to try latching on but with the bleeding and cracking that results.... it has been an absolute nightmare. Your article was exactly what I needed to hear (so to speak) it is my body and it is my choice. Ladies we have to stand up for ourselves and not let others make our choices for us whether by guilt or any other form.

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    rocco's mom 9 years ago

    Thanks for the insight- I'm planning on going to one feeding a day (at night before bedtime) but am worried that I won't be producing enough for him. He's almost 4 months and he eats 6-7 ounces when we bottle feed him. It's worth a try!Thanks again! We should post this website for all moms-to-be to see because I think I stressed the whole 9 months about how long I would be able to breastfeed since I was going back to work at 6 weeks. It would've saved me a ton of stress!

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    Lela Davidson 9 years ago from Bentonville, Arkansas

    kay4, I'm glad this helped! We all need to be a little more realistic. Every woman is different and it doesn't support a mother to undermine her judgment. Good for you for sticking it out this long and good luck on the weaning!

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    kay4 9 years ago

    Blessings to you! I can't express the relief that I felt after reading this. I, like so many other women, have those guilty feelings when YOU decide to stop nursing. My mother, whom I love, called me daily with a new "tip" on nursing. I started pumping at 2 weeks and am slowly stopping. My child is 6 weeks old. I suffered from latch issues and infections; pumping was the only relief I got. All this to say I am calling it quits. Although those around you mean well, they are not you and not in your shoes. A baby does thrive on mom's milk, but they also need love and a stress-free environment. Do what is best for you and just think, in a couple years you will watch your healthy child and wonder why you beat yourself up about stopping.

    Remember "If mom's not happy, no one else is either"

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    Jaime 9 years ago

    My "baby" is 2 years old and don't want to give up nursing. I've tried Aloe.. it only worked for 2 days, but after that, she must've gotten used to it and now is back to her norm. This is my 3rd baby and i have been breasfeeding non-stop for 7 years, 1 mo. 3 babies, one after the other. It is time to call it quits, but my baby doesn't seem to want to work with me.. I need help!!

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    Sandra 9 years ago

    My baby is 10 months old and Im ready to stop breastfeeding her. Not only does she nurse to eat but also for comfort especially when sleeping. The most difficult time is at night. We tried bottles but at night she fights to nurse.

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    Lela Davidson 9 years ago from Bentonville, Arkansas

    Sarah Songing and Ashley Joy: Thanks for the back up ladies!

    robin shaw: I would try having someone else offer the bottle. Some babies won't take a bottle from the same person who also offers the boobies!

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    Ashley Joy 9 years ago

    You are so right that is your own personal decision on when to stop breastfeeding. This is such a personal issue that each woman should decide for herself. of course the guilt is natural and you will feel it several times during your child's life for various reasons.

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    Sarah Songing 9 years ago

    Thanks for the great hub, Lela! I employed this method of ceasing breastfeeding myself with my first daughter and am employing it currently with my (almost) ten month old. It is very effective for both mother and baby.

    I love that you stressed for moms to trust themselves and not feel guilty. Way to go! Mommies have enough guilt piled on, any mother who attempts breastfeeding should be applauded. Whatever amount of time you are able to continue with both you and your baby enjoying it- give yourself a pat on the back.

    I also want to encourage those who feel overwhelmed by nursing, the schedule, or are not producing enough milk (as I was), to not feel like it's all or nothing. The method in this hub, reducing breastfeeding and supplementing with formula, can be practiced as long as you want to continue with even one feeding a day, and is a very happy medium.

    Thank you, Lela!

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    robin shaw 9 years ago

    my baby is 17mons and he still brest feeding i don't want to brst feed any more but she refuses to take a bottle what can i do

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    tadiwanashe 9 years ago

    its been great reading the article, im battling to stop breast feeding my 7month little girl. i feel really guilty and when she cries too much i just give in.

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    Beth 9 years ago

    THank you! This was the first article that didn't make me feel guilty for needing/wanting to stop breastfeeding at 2 months.

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    Kate 9 years ago

    Thank you for this article. My daughter is one month old...I've been wanting to go to formula, but feel so guilty about it. The women I know who have/are breastfeeding don't understand. I feel better that I'm not the only one that doesn't want to continue for months more.

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    Trisha 9 years ago

    Thanks for this information. I have been breastfeeding my 1 month old son but also supplementing with formula since I was having milk supply issues. I kept going back and forth about stopping breastfeeding. I felt so guilty and so I continued to try. But emotionally, it took its toll and I wasn't enjoying my baby, my husband...I was miserable. So I just decided to stop. At least he got one month of breastmilk right? Your information on weaning was useful. Thank you!

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    tryan 9 years ago

    Thanks for the helpful article. I was experiencing guilt that at 3 1/2 months working a full-time job and raising another little one, in addition to the baby I was just exhausted. I really appreciated the comment that this is a personal decision between a mother and her baby. I also found the weaning steps very helpful. It's nice to not feel so alone.

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    rubymae 9 years ago

    thank you so much. i have been needing to hear this. i was unable to breastfeed my baby. she is now 5 months old and i have been pumping. i finally decided it was time to stop. I did have a hard time finally making the decision. i felt like i was letting her down, but after reading this i have a new outlook on everything, no i pumped for five months. i did good!

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    MeMe 9 years ago

    I have been breastfeeding from birth to now and my son is now ten months. How do i get to stop, he has TEETH and its hard to get him to sleep at night.

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    N2itive 9 years ago

    I too wish I had read this article earlier. My baby is only a month old and only if she could latch on I would probably enjoy breastfeeding, but because I have to pump her feedings, (which is a job itself) I'm ready to call quits.

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    Barbara6 9 years ago from Gainesville, FL

    I wish I had read this hub ten years ago! Great information, and I especially like your perspective about how weaning is a personal decision above all else.

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    Miranda 9 years ago

    thank you.i've been breastfeeding for 6 weeks now and i'm utterly exhuasted. not having a husband around to help (he's in the army) and getting nothing done in the process of this experience has made me ready to call it quits. I do feel guilty. But, I've got to do what's best for my stress level. nursing every 1 1/2 to 2 hours for 30 minutes at the time has made me feel ilke a walking zombie.

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    Ojiugo 9 years ago from Abuja Nigeria

    Nice article have a blog at

    where I discuss this weaning issue also.

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    snrp 9 years ago

    very good and helpful information.


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