What Is The Right Way To Raise Children
There are different parenting styles, but not all of them are good strategies to raise your child. Parenting is the most important, most rewarding, and most demanding role a human being could ever undertake. All parents would like to have great kids, but they rarely ask themselves what kind of parents would their children like to have. There is no formula for best parents or raising children. Parents do what they know best and what they can accomplish in a given moment.
So, what does it mean to be a good parent or have a good parenting style? The best parent works on himself (herself), tries to correct mistakes and communicates with children, manages family conflicts and protects children from addictions and other negative situations.
There is always the possibility to improve parenting skills no matter what we are like.
To have better children, parents themselves have to be better.
The Best Parenting Styles
10 tips to be a better parent and raise emotionally healthy children
#1 Show love with words and actions
Loving children and showing them just how much you love them isn´t really the same. By showing love you create a warm family atmosphere and give your children a sense of safety. If you are a nervous person, you must work on yourself and avoid yelling and grumbling – this will make your child nervous and unsecure. The children will probably ask for more attention in all the wrong ways: by imitating you – yelling and grumbling.
Say to your children that you love them, hug them and kiss them, smile at them and always take their emotions in consideration. Showing love to your children will nourish the emotional health of your children.
#2 Be a better wife / husband
Fostering marital relationship is of key importance in the process of raising children as their skills and virtues are based on the perception of the relationship between mother and father. If a child witnesses unfriendly and cold behavior, fights, blackmailing, scorning and similar negative manners, it will become intolerant and unable to show love, work out a partnership or friendship. Being a better wife or husband also means being a better parent because children who witness support, understanding, encouragement, praise, acceptance and compromise are likely to have high emotional intelligence. Think of your marriage as a parenting style, too - it reflects on the life of your child.
#3 Communicate with your children and gain respect
Developed communication channels inside the family are the foundation for healthy communication skills with the external world. Successful communication results in your children having respect for you as a person and as parent. Children who respect their parents usually stay out of trouble and handle everyday situations better than other children.
#4 Have your children eat only healthy foods
One of the most important parenting styles is the way you feed your children. Parents sometimes neglect the fact that we are what we eat. Children may become very sensitive and nervous if you don´t feed them with healthy foods. Healthy nutrition is important for the overall balance of the body and the central nervous system – it affects mood and behavior. Have breakfast together if possible – get up earlier in the morning to eat together, plan the day and kid around. Children who have breakfast usually do better in school than those who skip breakfast.
#5 Always point to the positive side of things
If you point to the positive side of things you develop positive feelings and thoughts in your children. Do that even when bad things are happening in your life. Maybe you can´t change the situation, but you can change the attitude. Help your child to think positive, with optimism and to make the best of situations.
#6 Show humility and fairness
Admit when you are wrong and correct your mistakes. Apologize if necessary. Ask for forgiveness. Showing humility and fairness is the basis for building trust and respect. Playing the big boss in the house is not the best parenting style; you want your children to love you, respect you, and have trust in you. You don't want them to fear you.
#7 Make gratitude a habit
Practice gratitude yourself and make it habit. Pass this habit on to your children because gratitude creates positive vibrations, positive thinking and feeling. Don´t be pessimistic! Gratitude results in optimism and optimism is the key to success.
Criticize your child´s behavior and not the child. Children must keep their dignity knowing that the problem is not inside them but in the behavior which is easy to change. If you criticize the child, it may think that there is something wrong with it and it may develop complexes, the feeling of guilt and incompetence. Try to influence the change in behavior by being an example.
#9 Make approvals
If your child is very good at something or if it really tries to do something well, be thrilled with it and show your enthusiasm. making approvals is one of the best parenting styles - give support, encourage your children, show understanding, and don´t expect too much from them.
#10 Be a disciplinarian if necessary
Children sometimes need strict parents. Parents are also friends, but friends are not parents. Therefore, parents are there to introduce some rules and explain why these rules are good for them. Yet, remember not to be too tough – control your children, but leave space for possibilities of their own choice. If you control them too much, they may become dependent, insecure and distrustful when it comes to their own identity and ideas. Being too mild may also have negative impacts on their character. A mature and balanced person will become of a child with free choices who also follows a certain set of rules. Whatever the parenting style, you must be consistent when raising children; if you punish your child for something and next time you let it do the same thing because you are too tired to react, your child will be confused, it won´t understand what is allowed, and what isn´t.
Remember, your children are the reflection of your own behavior!
How to cultivate mutual respect between parents and children
Many parents won't give up punishment thinking that permissiveness is the only solution. They believe that co-operation is a "one-way street" in which children do what parents tell them to do.
Yet, permissiveness as a parenting style, brings along long-term dangers: their children are likely to become dependent and insecure. And, co-operation is a two-way process in which parents and children work together.
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Clear and non-violent communication with respect is what you need to give to a child and it will respond equally.
"The best way to change our children is to change ourselves." (Natalija and Dariusz Domin)
Parenting styles play a big role in raising a child so make sure to use the best parenting styles possible!