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Things to do for Your Teen's Success
Success for Your Child
Guiding Them Along the Way
Parents, do you wonder what your teen is thinking? Do you suddenly feel like you are living with a stranger? Does your teen tell you that you just don’t understand? Here are some suggestions to help you help your teen.
First and foremost, remember that YOU are the parent. The rules your teen lives by are yours. Set curfews and mean it. Set limits on phone time, computer time, video game time, and stick to them.
Secondly, make sure that school work comes first. Be sure that your teen is in school. Be sure that there is a place to do homework. If your teen is having trouble with school work, find someone to help. The National Honor Society in your teen’s high school might offer free tutoring.
Next, know when your teen is truly ready to date. Putting a thirteen year old in the car with teens who are sixteen or older might not be a wise thing. Younger teens trying to fit in will be more likely to try different things to belong. Is a beer bad if you are not driving? The answer is, YES. How about other drugs? YES!!!! Then of course, there is sex….NOT at thirteen.
If you are letting your teen date, set down rules. Make sure that if there is a problem your teen knows they can call and you will come. If you don’t supply the money for a pay phone, this would be the time to make sure your teen has a cell phone to use. Not necessarily his or her own phone, but yours for the evening.
Teach your child the etiquette for computer use, and cell phone use. Computers have become a good way for some teens to bully others. Teach your child the things that should and shouldn’t be said in and instant message, text message, or e-mail. Tell them that the cell phone is for emergencies only. You do not expect them to be calling their friends. It should not be on in movie theaters or restaurants. It should be on if for some reason your teen will miss curfew. Text messaging is the same as computer use only from your phone.
When using the internet, be sure you know the sites your child is visiting. Chat rooms are not the best places for your teen. Some of the hottest sites are the most dangerous for teens. You need to be the internet police in your home. Monitor the sites they go to and the game rooms they are in.
Routines are a must for teens. There should be a regular bed time. Take the TV out of his or her room. Encourage TV watching with the family. Things for school need to be put in the same place every night before bed so that no one is racing around trying to find homework in the morning. Mornings should start off with a good breakfast. Time needs to be built in for that. There should be a time set that homework is done. If it is right after school or right after dinner that is up to you.
Talking with your teen needs to be a two way conversation, not just you talking. You need to listen to what is being said, even if you don’t like what you are hearing. Your teen needs to be able to voice concerns, fears, and ask questions. You need to be calm when responding. Always stress honesty in your teen.