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Tips and List of Chores Chart for Stay at Home Moms
Structure - Goals - Schedule
Stay at home moms are most often home by choice. They have made a conscious choice to raise their own children.
As noble as this aspiration sounds, the daily grind of being at home with the children may cause moms to loose focus and/or fall into a state boredom.
Setting up a system of organization with structure, goals and schedules will empower mom's and give them a sense of accomplishment. It will also provide their children a sense of security. Kids NEED structure!
Write It Down
LANG WOOD FRAME FOR YOUR CALENDAR in Various Colors to Match your Decor
Lang Calendars - Children Themed
You can Structure your personal errands, housework, activities, appointments and more with the help of a calendar.
You can make your own calendar or purchase a beautiful and useful Calendar for display. When you purchase or create your calendar make sure it has large boxes for the day so you have plenty of room to write.
To begin calendar planning
- write out all of the things you must do on a piece of paper.
- Take each item and place it on your calendar for the month.
- Make sure to add family birthdays and anniversaries too.
Structuring your schedule and your ‘to do’ list will de-clutter your brain and bring a sense of order and purpose to your days.
I have posted a couple of my all time favorite Calendars - the calendar I am using I purchased on line from Lang Calendars.I also purchased one of their wood calendar holders or frames which is a beautiful addition to the artwork in my home.
If the pictures displayed, at the right, are not your style - please click on one of the calendars to be taken to the very affordable Amazon site. Amazon will show you a variety of other specially designed calendars with themes ranging from elegant to folk art. The pictures are so beautiful that I have even taken some of the pictures (I purchased a children themed calendar once) and framed them for my play room after the year was over.
If you make a one time purchase of a wood calendar frame you can interchange other brands of calendars as well, but make sure you get the same size.
I have even painted my frame. It was once navy blue and matched my décor. When my décor changed I spray painted it a forest green - it looks GREAT and you can't even tell I did it myself. :-) I have posted some floral and children's calendars that will fit the Lang calendar frame.
As a stay-at-home mom you have the opportunity to set goals for your child and make it happen.
Responsibility is a character quality that will benefit your child for the rest of their life.
One important method of building personal responsibility into your child's life is to give them chores. Make them age appropriate and help them to be responsible in completing them. It is your job Mom ... no one can do it better than you.
I suggest developing a chore chart which lists the chores each child is responsible for. Getting Ready for your Chore Chart:
- The first thing to do is plan a time to sit down with your children and make a list of chores together.
- Ask for the kids input ... this will make them feel part of the process and to buy into the idea.
- Let the kids name the various tasks that need to be done each day, every other day or once a week.
- When your chart is finished, display it in a place the child can easily reach so they can check off each chore when it is completed.
The chart will be a stress reliever for you and a motivational tool for the kids. When a chart is utilized
- You won't need to nag your children.
- They will be using their own initiative as they check off one chore at a time
- They will feel a real sense of accomplishment with the completion of each task.
It's a perfect way to teach your child about personal responsibility.
Books for Homeschool Mom's and Dad's
Take Care of Yourself
As you work with and focus on your children ... don't forget to take care of yourself. When a mom's personal needs are met she is better equipped to care for, direct and nurture her family.
Make sure you take time out to spend with your friends to laugh and share your heart. Take time for special dates with your husband. Pamper yourself with things that bring you pleasure. Do the things that you have always enjoyed.
Develop your own talents and ability's. Do you have future goals? One day the children will be grown and on their own. It is important that you have an ongoing list of goals to develop your God given gifts and abilities.
Do you play piano? ... practice piano and set the example for your children. Are you a writer? squeeze out a period of time each day to develop those skills and then share your writing with your children - they will learn to appreciate their mom's unique gift's and abilities.
Learn new skills or further your education. Consider taking one class a semester from a local college. As the children watch your quest to develop yourself they will naturally catch the vision of becoming all they were meant to be.
Staying at home will bring great rewards as you take the time to map out your journey and implement your plan.
Help your Kids learn Responsibility
Suggested Items for Chore List
- making bed
- doing homework
- picking up toys
- setting the table
- taking dishes to sink
- rinse dishes
- doing dishes
- taking out garbage
- practicing piano
- practice dance
- practice taekwondo
- practice basketball
- sweeping floors
- folding clothes
- making a family meal
- caring for pets
Assign age appropriate tasks and increase responsibility as the child grows.
Kevin Lehman is a well known Christian Psychologist. His focus is on the Father Daughter relationship. Daddy your girl needs you! Learn what she needs in this excellent book.
The Role of a Father
I don't want to leave Dad's out in this writing. The role of a Father cannot be replaced by anyone. There are attributes that only you can build into your child. I have highlighted some books specifically for Dad's. If you are raising your child alone, you need all the support you can get and you need to be in tune with more of a child's needs as there is no woman in their lives to teach them.
All Parent's have the responsibility to train up a child according to their bent. "Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it." Proverbs 22:6
Study your child and plug them into developing their gifts and abilitys. Teach them to be responsible and disciplined - it is for their own good - they will be the recipients of a life that has been molded and trained up by a parent (sometimes Dad's are the sole parent responsible for their child's upbringing) who cares and was responsible with their life.
Make sure there are appropriate consequences for lack of follow through. "Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will give delight to your heart." Proverbs 29:7
As a Dad, God knows of your tendency to be too harsh. Here's a warning from your Father, the God of all creation and the one who knows you through and through. "Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord." Ephesians 6:4 Here is another: "Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged." Col. 3:21
I hope this article will motivate you to start today to be all that God intended you to be as a parent. This article was written to encourage you and motivate you. Pass these tips and habits on to your children and you will be blessed to see them living a life of character and responsibility.
Those of you who read my hubs know that I am a believer in God's pursuit of His children and of His provision of salvation through Jesus. I hope you will tune into the video below and listen to this precious couple sing about the Greatest gift a Father and Mother can give.
The Greatest Gift
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