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A Father's Wisdom

Updated on August 28, 2016
Dad Couchara and baby mar (1962)
Dad Couchara and baby mar (1962) | Source

November Notings...

"I wanted you to be a happy, carefree little girl with no worries beyond being sure that your teddy bear was in your bed at night. I wanted you to be exposed to any learning experience, since you always had so much curiosity and needed to know 'why', your favorite word." (Miss Sammie's journal, May, 2002)

Both of my parents saw to it within their power to give me and my siblings this happy and carefree childhood. Looking back, I really was as comfortable and safe as this little baby in her Daddy's arms through my formative years.

Mom (Sammie) and Dad (Henry) both had modest childhoods and were used to doing without in the way of material possessions. Mom was the middle of five daughters, growing up in Washington, GA. Dad was the youngest of 10, raised in Norristown, PA, by Sicilian parents, who had died before I was born.

Dad met Mom in Charleston, SC in 1943. Mom was working during the war at Western Union taking messages on the switchboard. Dad stopped by the U.S.O. when Mom was volunteering with her girlfriends, at the Naval Base in Charleston. Two years later they would be married, on July 7th, 1945.

I was born way later in November, 1961 in Norristown PA. Before me, my brothers and sister were born in 1946, 1951 and 1954.

Dad worked as far back as I can remember as an engineer for Reading Railroad. While Mom ran a firm but loving household, Dad was a solid bread winner and a decent man in the grand scheme of things. Family and spirituality were equally important to Dad.

He believed in respect, loyalty and honor in the family. I admit he was old fashioned in his views of women, which may be understandable considering his generation and our strong Italian - American heritage on my paternal side.

I grin as I recall his conviction that any woman who smoked cigarettes 'was a tramp'. And, you know, for those few years I smoked (sorry, Daddy)... I always felt a bit trampish...!

I instantly smile now when an Italian meal is served without bread. I can remember the 'stink' (a Miss Sammie word...) my Daddy raised when we were invited to my brother Johnny's home and bread was not on the table. Suffice to say, there was always bread on the table after that incident.

I seemed to have Dad figured out early on. I clearly had an advantage, as I saw my siblings get a verbal smack down when not in immediate compliance with his request. It was always the same. "Show your Father some respect." Mom urged us along if there was the slightest hesitation. She was a peace keeper at all costs.

I have always respected my elders, whether family, colleagues or patients. I believe this is due to my Dad's expectations. I believe they were worthy expectations in the grand scheme of things.

I got my Dad talking and smiling every once in a while. He was generally so serious. As I look back, I am convinced both of my parents carried such worries in keeping our family happy, healthy and never in want for anything of true necessity.

In this month of gratitude and thanksgiving, I am especially indebted to both of my parents.Their children were the center of their worlds and today, we are all well adjusted, happy and productive members of society. My siblings and I are as different as family can be. Yet all four of us share the common love and respect of family and faith.

Ave Maria: Sinatra and Pavarotti

Dad and mar (Holy Communion, 1968)
Dad and mar (Holy Communion, 1968) | Source

Hail Mary...

Dad loved his Frank Sinatra music, so naturally did I as well...from the time I was a little girl.

My name, however, I was not so keen on as a kid. My only sister, ten years my senior, selected my name after Saint Maria Goretti.

Dad loved my name and the symbolism of the Blessed Mother that Maria represents. The song, Ave Maria, has been performed at more Church services that I can even remember. It was only at Dad's funeral in January, 1995 that I fell in love with the song. I have long since really come to love my name as well...!

 Excellent Posture - First Place (mar, 1969)
Excellent Posture - First Place (mar, 1969) | Source

Dust Yourself Off...

I am determined and I feel as though I always have been... I am hard working, motivated to see things through and demand much perfectionism from myself.

I have worked long and hard in my professional and personal life not to have the same high standards of others. Some days are easier than others quite frankly. And I believe I have my Daddy to thank for my mindset.

Dad expected our best and he decided his two girls were capable of only the best academically. I am ever grateful for this drive. At the time, I was frustrated at many a 'high 90' grade that did not meet the standards of a 'perfect 100'. Realistically, today, my drive has a perspective factor built in...which I am mostly OK with!

I'll Be Seeing You: Frank Sinatra

From my Dad...

I was moved to find one letter from Dad in Mom's treasure box. This was a rare gift. It was written when my Nanny (Mom's Mother, Estelle) died in 1982. Dad had written a sympathy note to Mom's four sisters...I think the contents give a true picture into Dad's soul.

Dear Mary Ruth, Kitty, Jeanne and Shirley,

Tonight I'm thinking of Nanny. I'm generally working this time of nite and I can't sleep. Nanny's home resting now, after 79 years of hard work, a little play, a little romance, a lot of worrying and never knowing how it was going to end. Everything was so quick. I got home about 3AM Tuesday and Maria was up and she told me nanny died. I felt so bad.

All I could do was think about Nanny. She really worked hard and didn't have too much help. She didn't have many comforts of this life so I am sure God will reward her in heaven. I'd always compared her to when I was growing up. No heat, no hot water, patched up clothes, not too much to eat but we all did OK. God took care of us. Just like all you girls. We all have so much now. We all have a lot to be thankful for.

Nanny helped all of you and she worried about all of you. She was really glad for all of you, to see you all do so good. When you come right down to it life is so short. We're only here for a little while, so we should all make the best of it. It's not right for any of us to fight or be angry with any of our loved ones.

I know Nanny is very happy tonight, knowing her five girls are together again. I have a good wife, four wonderful children and four grandchildren, all healthy and all doing good. I have a good job. I am happiest when I am working in the yard. I love pretty things. I love all of you and you are all welcome here any time. I have less than two years to work and would love to drive down to see you all when I retire.

Take care and may God bless you all. Excuse the spelling.

All my love,


On this Veterans' Day

Today, I wanted to share some wisdom from my Dad with you. This week I remember my Dad twice, on Veterans' Day for his service to our country and on November 16th, which would have been his 90th birthday.

Dad hated gifts by the way. He had a way of scolding us with every material possession he ever received, preferring instead 'prayers'.

I do believe he would be proud of my writing. Please check out my blog and ever growing collection of work at marcoujor's desk.


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      Maria Jordan 

      6 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Your comment is sweet, Tim and I thank you so very much for taking the time to stop by.

      Hope you have a peaceful and blessed Easter season, Maria

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      Tim Mitchell 

      6 years ago from Escondido, CA

      A most wonderful hub. I am very touched with the letter wrote regarding 'Nanny.' Truly a discovered treasure shared with jewels of your Dad's treasure. I am thankful you discovered it :) Thank you for sharing offering a moment of reflection and memories. Truly worth reading offering value and values.


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      Maria Jordan 

      6 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Dear Audrey,

      So lovely to meet you. Thanks for your sweet comment and for sharing.

      LOL, you caught me being silly in my caption. Thankfully I did not have a shot of me strutting around in my blanket cape with "pretend roses" at the end of each Miss USA show.

      Have a peaceful Sunday. Your writing is awesome and hoping my pals have a chance to check you out -- online not imaginary! Hugs, Maria

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      Audrey Selig 

      6 years ago from Oklahoma City, Oklahoma

      Hi Maria This hub is filled with family love and lovely pics I like the stories of your family and your love for your Dad He raised you like my parents did me, strict but caring Did you really win a posture contest? I sure needed to stand erect like you I stand sway back Thanks for sharing and so glad I found you Blessings Audrey Sharing

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      Maria Jordan 

      6 years ago from Jeffersonville PA


      I am sorry to hear about the death of your dad, and I' m so glad you got some comfort from stopping by. Time does pass so quickly and it would be so wonderful to have some of that time back with our loved ones.

      Take care and be gentle with yourself. Hugs, Maria

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      7 years ago from Indiana

      Thank you for sharing such wonderful memories and insights of your dad. I lost my dad a year ago and can't believe the void. I've spent the year thinking about all he did for his family and how he influenced those around him...things I did not take the time to appreciate enough when he was here. What a lucky daughter you are to have been raised by the parents you write so lovingly about :)

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      Maria Jordan 

      7 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      So good to see you, Audrey. I do understand and hope you are well these days. Hugs, Maria

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      Audrey Howitt 

      7 years ago from California

      This was wonderful to read--I still miss my father--

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      Maria Jordan 

      7 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Thanks, eddy, always good to see you.

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      7 years ago from Wales

      A brilliant hub Mar and thank you for sharing. Voted up and shared for sure.


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      Maria Jordan 

      7 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Dear Nancy,

      How lovely to see you. Thank you for leaving such a wise and gracious comment. Hoping you and yours have a beautiful Thanksgiving.

      Love, Maria

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      Nancy Collier 

      7 years ago


      This is such a beautiful message of love, warmth and deep appreciation of having the good fortune to be raised by caring and devoted parents who wanted nothing but happiness, contentment and success for their children. No greater treasure could we ever wish proud they must be..

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      Maria Jordan 

      7 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      JPSO138 I am very sorry for your loss. I am glad this piece gave you some wonderful memories. Peace to you and thanks for stopping by.

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      7 years ago from Cebu, Philippines, International

      My dad pass away about a year ago. Up until now, I still miss him so much. Your hub reminded me of how great a father he was.

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      Maria Jordan 

      7 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Thank you, Sunshine, is it possible to be in love with YOU...!!

      Happy 90th birthday to Henry Francis Couchara, hoping you had a relaxing day in the clouds appreciating your four kids, each remembering you in their own unique, yet loving ways. Love ya, Dad!

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      7 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Is it possible to be in love with a tribute? Cause I am. Told from the heart and I felt the emotions you poured into your story. Your dad was an amazing man. Thank you for sharing him with us. Xo

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      Maria Jordan 

      7 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Good morning to all,

      Alicia, So good to see you between our two sites! Thank you for your beautiful comments.

      Leslie, You are so sentimental and sweet, my friend. Those 15 years between my bro and I get shorter by the day (LOL).

      femme, What a stellar comment. Actually the Mass is tomorrow AM after my class this evening and I will say a prayer that you are feeling world's better as you have had a rough week. Be gentle with yourself, my friend.

      And, Mary, so happy to hear you have had a needed recharge. I am not surprised to hear our similarities in upbringing. Thank you for sharing your precious memories and sending you bunches of hugs.

      Lizzy, I am smiling at you and your lovely remarks. Hoping all is well in your world within.

      May you all have a lovely and peaceful day. Hugs, Maria

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      7 years ago from From a World Within, USA

      Dear Mar, I am glad this showed up on my feed..... What a beautiful picture of your parents you have painted with your words. Your father Reminds me of my father, hard working yet very loving. This is a wonderful hub and really makes it personal the way you added the notes and letters from your parents. Enjoyed reading it, voting up and everything! Take care friend, Hugs!

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      Mary Craig 

      7 years ago from New York

      I have to admit I join in the tears while reading this. We had similar upbringings in that my Dad, like yours, was a loving man and gentle reminder of the good things in life.

      I have to admit when I was a little girl Maria Goretti was one of my favorite saints. (I know, too many years of Catholic School.) I cannot listen to the Ave Maria without crying, no matter who is singing it AND I love you my dear friend!

      I have to admit, my Dad expected our best and nudged us along with his love and example.

      Perfect hub to end the day of our return home from a two day re-charge. How could you know this would do the trick?

      Voted everything but funny!

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      7 years ago


      Just when I think you've hit the top, you push the ladder higher. :)

      I feel as if I've been sitting in Miss Sammie's living room, getting acquainted with her and your papa and I've loved the visit!

      I hope the Mass in your father's honor went well, and hope they played Ave Maria. When I first became an associate funeral director, prepping for mortuary college, I heard Ave Maria for the very first time on an old reel-to-reel sound system and I immediately loved it.

      It's a song that causes my soul to be still and listen ...

      Thank you for this generous sharing of your family. It's a beautiful tribute to your parents and gives those of us who have come to love and admire you, yet another facet to view of the many wonderful things that make our mar the magnificent woman she is.


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      Karen Silverman 

      7 years ago

      I have no idea why i am misty-eyed at reading this, Maria. Your parents...are what dreams are made of. MY dreams, at least. You are just unbelievably lucky to have such a strong and stable support system growing up - and now, even if your Dad has passed! He raised you to survive, and wow - have you ever! i'm so impressed with the 15 year age difference between the siblings - makes me adore your parents even more!

      this was humorous, uplifting, moving, AND - an amazing tribute!

      i can't say enough..


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      Linda Crampton 

      7 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      This is a very touching hub that is full of love and respect, Maria. It's wonderful that you have such a lovely family life to look back on. You've written a great tribute to your dad.

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      Maria Jordan 

      7 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Good evening, all,

      Four stars from TFP is awesome, thank you, dear Jim.

      Linda, Thank you for such a sharing and beautiful comment. Indeed we have much in common. Yes, Dad served in WWII. Loved hearing about how your Mom and Dad met.

      Paula, Sorry to make you cry but your comments make me misty eyed as well. Your visits are a true delight, my friend.

      drbj, You are so kind in your remarks. Indeed two of my favorite things are Sinatra and chocolate...oh, and you would make three!

      Have a peaceful night. Hugs to all, Maria

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      drbj and sherry 

      7 years ago from south Florida

      What a lovely family you have, Maria, and what a wonderful Dad and Mom while growing up. It's easy to tell that you inherited their loving ways. This is a beautiful tribute to your Dad and the rest of your family and I'm proud I had the opportunity to read it.

      We share an appreciation of the finer things in life - like the voice of Sinatra. And if I recall, chocolate, too. No? Thanks for this treat, m'dear.

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      7 years ago from Carson City

      Maria.....You are so passionate...yet downright realistic. Your Dad is listening to Old Blue Eyes and swaying back & forth with his Sammie, as they beam with pride for their "baby".....Maria, the beautiful daughter of many talents.

      I want you to know it's a bitch, reading through tears. Love you, girl. UP++shared, tweeted & pinned

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      Linda Rogers 

      7 years ago from Minnesota

      Your dad is smiling down at you with this beautiful tribute to him and your mother. It sounds like your mother and father were great providers of love and shelter and everything that makes a child flourish. I was really intrigued to hear how you didn't really like your name until later in life. I have always loved all forms of the name Mary, as my father had a deep connection to Mother Mary since he was s young boy. Because of his deep devotion to her, he and mom gave all three of us girls her name. I am Linda Maureen, My twin sister is Laura Mary, and my older sister is Shelly Marie. I also have to share with you that when I was a young girl going to Catholic school, I was enthralled with the song, "Ave Maria." I felt like Mother Mary was talking right to and through me when I heard that song. One more thing we have in common Maria-I absolutely LOVE Frank Sinatra and have many of his CD's. Have a great day Maria-I know your dad is so proud of you and who you've become. Your dad was in WWll right? My dad was a bomber pilot in WWII. Dad met my mom when she was a flight attendant and he was a pilot. (the airlines they worked for, merged) I've always loved their cute love story.

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      The Frog Prince 

      7 years ago from Arlington, TX

      I gave ya 4 stars Babes and miss reading you.


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      Maria Jordan 

      7 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Good morning to all,

      These comments are heartwarming and I feel a force of pride coming from the heavens as a result.

      Nellieanna, How beautiful to see you. I always love when you share yourself and your memories...always feeling more connected to you. You are ageless and wise in the same breath and I don't know anyone like you, other than my Momma.

      Ms Lizzy, How would you know my brother Johnny's nickname is Dizzy?Now I know you are beyond cool...thank you for such kind comments.

      Oh Gail, you would love my sister. How I can picture and smile at the thought of you dancing to Maria... You are a beautiful lady, inside and out!

      I agree totally with you DreamerMeg. So happy you stopped by.

      Martin, I find with family there are typically challenges. Wonderful to see you as well.

      Peg, July of 1945 was a time of marital events for sure! I am always so happy when my writing reminds others of their own special memories, so thank you for sharing that. I believe you will love this music when you stop back...!

      Absolutely, Car51, that is a wonderful description of my Dad. As always, thank you for your understanding and support of my writing.

      Sha, You are RIGHT ON...about our "console". Poor Momma had quite the mix of music to contend with on that turntable! You are so kewl...!

      Genna, So interesting that Frank's music grew on me through the years to now a high degree of passion. Thank you for your reflective and beautiful sharing.

      Martie, You have such a handle on me that it is spooky. Have I told you how much I love spooky...and you too for that matter! You are tight in my heart and I am not letting go.

      Thank you all for your lovely comments and have a peaceful day.

      Love, Maria

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      Martie Coetser 

      7 years ago from South Africa

      Keeping in mind that America is one decade ahead of S.A. especially when it comes to matters concerning parents and their children, I can count my father, who entered the hood of fathers in 1957, in the same time-frame as yours. Those days fathers took their role as provider very serious while mothers took care of the children. Dad were more like an ikon than a mere human being with a heart. Children were seen but not heard.... But somehow they have managed to make a deep impression on us; the direct contact they have had with us were powerful; their words and actions had the impact of a bomb opposing to mom's constant showers of love and sometimes even hate due to her personal struggles between dad and the kids.... or, as we have said those days when most mothers were housewives, between floor and polish.

      Mar, your father was obviously very proud of his wife and children :)

      Beautiful, heart-touching tribute to your father :)

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      Genna East 

      7 years ago from Massachusetts, USA

      What a beautiful and loving tribute to your father – and to your mother as well. The fact that you and your siblings were the center of their world is the earmark of wonderful parents that teach and give us so much. Your Dad sounds much like mine (RIP). He would come across as serous, but had a sense of humor and unfailing integrity. And he loooved Sinatra, Maria. “The timbre, the magnificent timbre in his voice,” he would say. It took me awhile to appreciate this; Sinatra is now one of my favorites. Thank you for sharing this, Maria; it lifted my spirits and my day. Hugs. :-)

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      Shauna L Bowling 

      7 years ago from Central Florida

      Maria, what a beautiful tribute to your dad. You say he was serious most of the time. I think we all need to have the Yin and Yang in our lives to keep us balanced and allow us to see both sides of the coin.

      The letter he wrote to your aunts is very heartwarming. I'm sure his words helped to ease the pain of loss somewhat.

      BTW, I think I recognize that TV behind you in your 'perfect posture' pic. We had one just like it when I was growing up. It was a Magnavox console TV/stereo/record player. Am I close?

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      7 years ago

      Very nice tribute to your Dad. He was of the generation that wanted only the best for his family, especially since he had so much deprivation as a child. A wonderful time to remember him with gratitude.

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      Peg Cole 

      7 years ago from Northeast of Dallas, Texas

      I'm so glad to see this beautiful tribute to your wonderful Dad here on HubPages. What a happy surprise to find a new hub written by you. Your heartfelt memories of your wise dad brought back so many of my own during those years of our youth. My Dad and Mom were married in July '45 as well. Isn't it a small world? I'll be back to reread this and enjoy these beautiful music selections again.

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      Martin Kloess 

      7 years ago from San Francisco

      Thank you for this. I was faced with the challenge of my two verses the many.

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      7 years ago from Northern Ireland

      Lovely hub. Gratitude for life and loved ones is always very helpful in being positive in life, even when things could get you down. Great letter your father wrote to his sisters in law!

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      Gail Sobotkin 

      7 years ago from South Carolina

      My Dear Maria,

      This loving tribute to your dad, with the accompanying photos and the beautiful condolence letter that he wrote to your mom's sisters was simply beautiful, and gave such insight into the type of man and father that he was, and the type of daughter and child that you were. A match made in heaven, I'm sure.

      It was interesting that your sister selected the name of a saint for you and that she was a decade older.

      Like your sister, I'm 10 years older than you. I know, without a doubt that, if given the chance, I would have named a baby sister, Maria, because I fell in love with the name Maria in 1962. The Broadway Musical, West Side Story, was being made into a movie and I can remember having my first babysitting gig taking care of the children in the apartment next door to ours. The kids were asleep and I softly played the Broadway version of Maria on the record player, dancing all around the living room, totally enraptured by the beautiful lyrics, which were, like a prayer. From that day forward, I was in love with the name Maria, and now, to me, you are the essence of all the love and goodness that the play and movie's heroine possessed. The epitome of femininity with a spine of steel.

      Thank you for sharing the lessons you learned from your father with us. Thank you for being you.

      Sending You a Bouquet of Hugs & Love,


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      Liz Elias 

      7 years ago from Oakley, CA

      What a wonderful tribute to your father. Thank you so much for generously sharing this marvelous insight. How interesting that your parents married in July 1945--so did mine! Funny coincidence!

      Voted up, beautiful and awesome. (No icon for 'tear-jerker,' though...) ;-)

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      Nellieanna Hay 

      7 years ago from TEXAS

      My dear precious Maria - I love this tribute to and account of your Dad and your family life with your wonderful parents, siblings and extended family.

      I see that you and I share family 'position' as youngest with 3 older siblings, too; and definitely with old-fashioned fathers who were stern, but nevertheless had hearts that melted for us. And our Dads both taught us the value of doing our best and setting high standards for ourselves. Mine called me "a very determined little girl" at a very young age, too! ;-)

      Your Dad and my George were of the same generation. George would have been 91 in Feb. of 2013. But my Dad would have been 123 in July this year.

      This is an inspiring and endearing story, dear. Thank you for sharing it! It's great to have you writing on HP, too.

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      Maria Jordan 

      7 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Good Evening to all my friends,

      Bill, Whether you visit early or late in the day, I always feel blessed to read your comments. I know what a wonderful influence your Dad had on you... it shows in the beautiful man you are today.

      Thank you, Ruby, I absolutely feel blessed. I am also most appreciative of your love and friendship.

      Nell, It is always so cool to see you. Your Dad sounds like a wonderful man and I love that you shared such special memories here.

      Jackie, Your words are so warm, supportive and ever so true. How lovely to see you and thanks for your visit.

      Mike, Smiles from heaven are a wonderful thought before retiring for the evening. From your mouth to God's ears...and have a peaceful night.

      Faith, Your remarks reflect your beautiful soul. I am grateful for your visit and friendship. Hope you have a great week.

      Hugs to all, with my thanks, Maria

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      Faith Reaper 

      7 years ago from southern USA

      Dear Maria,

      This is such a special tribute here to your wonderful dad and family. I am thankful for his service, and I am thankful for his love for his beautiful family and for you! Dad's play such a critical role in the family. Thank you for sharing your dad's letter. It is beautiful and truly shows his tender heart of love for all. I love all of your the precious photos you have shared here and the songs too.

      Up and more and sharing,

      Love you,

      Faith Reaper

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      7 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

      Having a beautiful pair of parents is a foundation stone for facing a world with shoulders squared and chin held high. Your family sounds like one with a sturdy foundation and deliberate values. It is no surprise that your Dad served his country. As you have in your service as a Nurse.

      Great song selections. Such high praise is surely bringing smiles in heaven.

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      Jackie Lynnley 

      7 years ago from the beautiful south

      Thank you for sharing this beautiful story. Daddies are so special, life is minus so much without them. The letter reflects the soft heartedness of your dad. Seems we can never be thankful enough for them. Beautiful memories and loved the songs. ^

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      Nell Rose 

      7 years ago from England

      Hi Maria, this is such a beautiful tribute to your father, and all your family. That letter did say it all, he was wonderful. My dad was my inspiration too, he never raised his voice to me, in fact the only time I cried was when I had been really naughty and he actually told me to go sit down! lol! that's how soft he was, my mother thought he had yelled but he had only said softly sit! wonderful hub, voted up and shared, nell

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      7 years ago from Southern Illinois

      You are so blessed mar, having a family unit that was close and taught you all the goodness that you now possess and share with others. I love reading about your childhood and family. Thank you for sharing..Hugs..

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      Bill Holland 

      7 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Dear Maria!

      I could either make this the last hub I read tonight or the first tomorrow...I opted for ending my day on a positive note and you did not disappoint me. What a beautiful tribute to your parents and in particular your father.

      I can say without hesitation that 75% of what I learned about living a good life as a good person came from my father before he died when I was twenty. His lessons are with me still today,and when I face a tough decision I hear his words.

      Blessings and love to you always



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