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Why is My Child so Out of Control?

Updated on September 11, 2016

Monkey See, Monkey Do

Children turn out to be what we raise them to be, they'll pick up all of our habits good or bad. It is our job to lead them down the right path, and to teach them right from wrong. If you let your child do whatever they want to do, than that is exactly what they are going to do. I mean imagine your boss came to work one day, and said today you can work as long as you want, and still get paid for a full day worth of work. I don't know about you, but I would be out of there, and in a quick second. Your child is just reacting the same way you would, given an enormous amount of freedom. That's not to say that we should keep them caged up, we should just use a little more common sense in raising them.

One thing you should always keep in mind, when raising your child is that they are just that, children. They don't know how to take care of themselves, which is why they have you as their parent, to help raise them. Three year old children should never be allowed to walk the streets alone by themselves. Why, you ask? Well, because it doesn't make any sense, that's why. I don't care how smart you think they are, your baby is only three. Also, saying if you do that one more time, then saying it eight more times, is kind of pointless. Telling your kids you're setting rules, means nothing unless you actually make them follow the rules. Your child is a reflection of you, so you should go out of your way to set good examples to keep them safe. If you don't nobody else will, and the habits they may pick up along the way, could have awful consequences. So be a responsible adult and raise your child right.

These are children not pets

I am not trying to tell people how they should raise their kids, but I get so annoyed when I hear parents calling their children demons, brats etc... it makes me so sick. I mean, most of the time the ones that are saying these things, are the same ones who let their kids just run off where ever, just so they don't have to deal with them. If you are asked at any point during the day where your child is, and you have to go find them because you're not quite sure. Then that might have a little to do with, why your kid is so out of control. You are their caregivers, providers, your everything to them, and you should make an effort to set them straight, and teach them right from wrong. Sometimes being their parent means your not always going to be their favorite person, but that's okay, stand your ground, set rules and keep them.

I am a stepparent to four beautiful, bright children. I have not been able to conceive my own like so many other people. If I didn't marry someone with kids, the chances of me ever knowing the joys of being a parent, would not have been something I probably would have ever been able to experience. So many people who don't have children, would love to be able to go through the struggle of actually being able to raise one, so if you have the chance to be a parent make the most of it, put your all into it. After all this is your child not some project, or chore. Children are our future if we don't start raising them better I hate to see where that future leads.


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      JP Carlos 5 years ago from Quezon CIty, Phlippines

      I'm slowly getting acquainted to this. My daughter is 15 months old and she can be a handful.

    • profile image 5 years ago

      You are so right PNJ - we often forget we are dealing with children! Sometimes I just know I have to back-off a little because they don't just get things they are learning and going through the stages! Make allowances but give them a good role-model because in life that is what they will have internalized down the track Having had four you see the stages and up to about 3 you are dealing with Shiva the Destroyer! They love pulling things apart up to that age - PATIENCE is so necessary in the wake of destruction! The older kids get frustrated when little sis breaks up a painstakingly constructed game! Just got to try to manage it - not easy as you surely know PNJ

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      Angela Blair 5 years ago from Central Texas

      Excellent, excellent, excellent. Seems to me that parents who pay attention -- and yes, discipline their kids -- raise more well adjusted adults than those who's kids are allowed to run wild. Introduction of the word "No" early on -- and gently enforced -- has a great bearing on the whole child rearing process (my opinion only, of course). Again, super Hub and so badly needed! Best/Sis