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Can You Afford to Live Without a Stay-At-Home Mom?

Updated on May 6, 2015

As a former Stay-At-Home Dad the Answer is No You Can't!!

Yes for a while I was a stay-at-home dad and the wife went to work. I did her job. And I thought I did pretty well at it to. The kids may disagree on this one. OK so the food prep left a bit of ingenuity. But who doesn't like PB&J at every meal?

But when it came to the house work that they could not argue with me about. Looking back I can relate to what she is doing. Understand it that is no way. For all the other stay at home dads out there there are just some things that we can not do as hard as we try.

But this is about the stay-at-home mom. Its amazing how many organizations and people believe that both parents should work to bring in a better income for the family. Without kids that could be a possibility. With kids that is a completely different story.

As the stay-at-Home Mom in our house will say... Always do your research - Here are a few things on Amazon to help with that

You will notice that some of these are in here twice. That is because there are for the book first and the Kindle version second. Thus shown twice.

The Stay-At-Home Dad Handbook
The Stay-At-Home Dad Handbook

OK dads this site is also directed at you so here is a little something to help you as well.

 

Which are you?

Please select the one closest to your family?

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You Must Choose Wisely

Being a Stay-at-Home Parent is a choice

And in my opinion the right one.

For me being the stay at home dad was not a choice it was due to medical reasons. Looking back I would be glad to go through everything again to be able to spend the time with our kids.

For my wife being the Stay-at-Home mom was a choice. This is a choice that she does not want to change anytime soon.

You Have Chosen Wisely

The states and Home Schooling

The Map
The Map

A Very Rough breakdown of what they are Really Worth

Basic Mom Costs
Basic Mom Costs

The grass is always greener - On the other side of the window

Work vs Home
Work vs Home

I have heard women at work say that they would like to be a Stay-at-Home mom if they only could be.

I have also heard Stay-at-Home moms say they wish the could take some time a way in the work place.

Its interesting how the old saying "The Grass is all ways greener on the other side of the fence" keeps sprouting up. Or with my wording sort of close to it.

With any job "and yes being a Stay-at-Home mom is a full time job". There are usually other jobs that are out that you think would be a better fit for you. But to you parents in the eyes of your kids you could not be in a better position. They may not always say it though. But growing up and having a mom that was always there meant more that I knew but have learned that I am a parent.

Some books to relate to this idea

The Country Mouse and the City Mouse (A Little Golden Book)
The Country Mouse and the City Mouse (A Little Golden Book)

The country mouse and the City mouse sort of like the stay at home mom and the at work mom. Interesting paradox don't you think?

 
Richard Scarry's Best Storybook Ever
Richard Scarry's Best Storybook Ever

Growing up the number of times these stories were read to me or I have read them has meant a lot. Not to mention the memories that brought back just looking at the cover.

 

One Heartbeat At A Time - Steven Curtis Chapman

Friend - Wife - Stay-at-Home Mother of our kids - I Love You and more importantly - Thank You

As a former Stay-at-Home dad its nice to get out once and a while and comment

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      PaigSr 4 years ago from State of Confussion

      @rob-hemphill: One stay at home parent and one able to see then is great to see.

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      Rob Hemphill 4 years ago from Ireland

      It's great for the kids to have at least one parent stay-at-home. I was fortunate to run my wine business in a winery only 100 yards from my cottage, so I saw the kids a lot even though my wife was at home.

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      PaigSr 4 years ago from State of Confussion

      @ajgodinho: There is so much that your comments mean. So the most I can say is thank you.

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      Anthony Godinho 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      I have great respect for stay-at-home moms and dads who do so to raise their kids. That's wonderful that both of you have had the opportunity to stay at home with your kids, at some point or the other. Stay blessed!

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      PaigSr 4 years ago from State of Confussion

      @poutine: Good to hear and like you glad you did so.

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      poutine 4 years ago

      I was a stay-at-home mom for our 2 sons and glad I was.

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      mcajaclyn 4 years ago

      I am a stay at home mom who also works from home with MCA. I wasn't always a stay at home mom but so grateful I am now:)

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      PaigSr 4 years ago from State of Confussion

      @anonymous: I believe that the wife has read that one. It does sound familiar. If not I will look into it.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      Have you read Amy Dacyczyn's books? She wrote the Tightwad Gazette. The takeaway from that book is not just about saving money, but how easy it was for her during prosperous times to live on one income. It's an old classic in the one income trend well before its time. Check it out; I think you'll find it interesting.

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      PaigSr 4 years ago from State of Confussion

      @IMKZRNU2: Way to go.

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      IMKZRNU2 4 years ago from Pacific Northwest

      I was fortunate to be a stay-at-home-mom while my kids were young. I also homeschooled them and ran a business out of my house to bring in some extra income. We did live on a tight budget but I would not change anything because of all the fond memories the kids and I have.

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      PaigSr 4 years ago from State of Confussion

      @LacyChenault: Cool that both of you have the work at home jobs. I have looked into them but not found one. Yet.

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      Lacy 4 years ago from Chenault

      My husband and I are both work at home parents, thankfully. It's nice because we really split the duties up evenly quite well.

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      greenmind 4 years ago

      Good lens -- I was a stay at home dad 2...