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Raising Multiples

Updated on June 26, 2013

Mother of Twins

I have had the privilege of being a mother to identical twins for the past three years. It is hard to explain what it's like to give birth to two beautiful babies that look almost exactly alike. They both require the exact amount of love and attention. Neither can understand why they have to share their parents with the other.

I found out I was pregnant with twin girls after one round of IVF. I was shocked and relieved. I didn't know what to expect and could not have prepared for the adventure that lie ahead.

Raising Multiples is a unique experience and I am honored to have it.

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Home with Twins - Bringing Home Twins

2 month old twin babies
2 month old twin babies

Our home has never known the cry of a single child. My first born is head strong and very demanding she made me a first time mother. One minute later her sister arrived and made us an instant family of four.

Our life is an adventure. Our daughters share parents, a room, clothes, diapers, and toys but they definitely do not share personalities. I almost forget how similar they look until it is pointed out by strangers.

I am glad I had twins before my singleton. The sleepless nights, endless feedings and diaper changes were our normalcy. We had no other baby to compare them to. How did we survive the first few months? How do I survive 24 hours alone with twin toddlers?

Raising Twins

Two faces to wash, and four dirty hands

Two insistent voices, making demands

Twice as much crying, when things go wrong

The four eyes closing, with slumber song

Twice as many garments, blowing on the line

Two cherubs in the wagon, soaking up sunshine

Work I do for twins, naturally comes double

But four arms to hug me, repay all my trouble.

~Author Unknown

Premature Twins in the Hospital

Twice the stress Twice the Tears Twice the Joy

Our twin daughters were born nine weeks early. They were little but very healthy. Sofia, my youngest by one minute and the smaller of the two didn't have the strength to eat after a few days. She was given a feeding tube. It was heartbreaking. I wanted to hold them. I missed them so much the first few nights. Thankfully I was allowed to live at the hospital while they were in the NICU

Do your research people will tell you not to look things up on the internet but knowledge is power

Care for your babies don't be afraid to touch them Do everything the nurses will allow you to do. Feed them hold them bathe them

Know there will be set backs there will be mistakes Sofia got down to 3 lbs. before they placed her feeding tube. They both also suffered from sleep apnea and bradycardia. We found their isolate turned off one night because it had been moved and the nurses forgot to plug it back in. A nursing student didn't know how to stimulate my Sofia one evening and let her oxygen levels drop very low.

Take a time out go home to take a shower and have a real meal

Get to know the nurses you want them to see your child for the tiny human being they are and not just another patient. Remember your nurses are humans too and sometimes make mistakes.

Know that this too shall pass!!

Apnea of Prematurity in Twin Infants

Sleep Apnea in Twin Infants

Both of our daughters suffered from sleep apnea and bradycardia. It got to the point that Sofia would stop breathing over 20 times a day. I prayed each time God would bring her back to me and that she would just take a breath. It was horrible and probably the hardest thing we have ever experienced. Sleep apnea is common in premature babies. The lungs are immature and they usually grow out of it once they near thier due date. Our Sofia just wasn't ready. Her sleep apnea continued to get worse. Her spells became more frequent and lasted longer. She was given a battery of test to rule out any infections or abnormalities. She was finally released to us after spending 69 days in the hospital. We brought our twin girls home on apnea monitors and pulse oximeters.

Fight for your babies!! The doctors were completely opposed to sending the girls home on monitors. Our twin girls needed to come home and be in our arms. The monitors saved thier lives more then once. They were on monitors until they were 6 months old

Sofia's Story Surviving Apnea of Prematurity
I am not sure my heart will every completely heal from Sofia's stay in the hospital. I mourn for the times she was alone in a hospital crib and the times I c...

9 Week Old Twins

Our twin girls came home when they were nine week old

6 Month Old Twins

We were so excited to have our girls home. I don't think the reality of having two babies set in until we were too exhausted to know what was going on. The first few months of raising multiples are the hardest.

My husband and I had made a plan for feeding time and diaper changes but we failed to make a plan to take care of ourselves.

Our girls had their days and nights mixed up. They would take a few naps throughout the night but they slept the majority of the day. We were a mini assembly line. The girls ate every two and a half hours. My husband would diaper and change one baby, pass her two me feed while he diapered and rocked the other baby.

It only took a few days before we were completely exhausted and irritable. I don't think we established a good routine until the girls were about six months old.

FAQ about Twins - Questions Not To Ask A Mother Of Multiples

I understand people are very interested in twins. It is hard to resist two little girls that look almost exactly alike. Unfortunately, I sometimes feel like people think my children are an open invitation to ask personal questions. It is hard not to be rude to people that stop us when we are in a hurry or the children are cranky.

Our daughters receive a lot of attention when we go out to the grocery store. People have always stopped us to ask questions or ask to touch them. Our twins have really become more antisocial. They hate talking to people and would rather no one approach us at the stores.

I would much rather people simply say something nice with a quick comment.

  1. Are They Twins?

    A: Yes our girls are twins they look almost exactly alike. They are also the same height and weight.

  2. Are They Identical?

    A: Yes they are identical twins. They are a result of one fertilized egg splitting into two people.

  3. Can You Tell Them Apart?

    A: Of Course I can tell them apart I am thier mother.

  4. How Do You Tell Them Apart?

    A: They have very different personalities, one daughter has a high pitch voice the other has a raspy voice. One has a large birthmark and the other doesn't.

  5. Do You Ever Get Them confused?

    A: It is difficult to tell them apart in photos. I have also called them by the wrong name when they are running around and I am trying to catch them.

  6. Did You Have Fertility Treatments?

    A: Yes My girls were conceived through IVF.

  7. Are you going to Have More Children?

    A: Yes my husband and I now have a beautiful baby boy and would love to have more children. We waited a long time to have children!

Do You Have Experience Parenting Twins or Multiples.

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    • tomazg profile image

      tomazg 

      5 years ago

      I think that parenting multiples is very difficult. I deaply respect all who do it.

    • Magda2012 profile image

      Magda2012 

      6 years ago

      Beautiful twins! Thanks God they are healthy now.. I want to have twins too :)

    • eSimplicity profile image

      eSimplicity 

      6 years ago

      What a beautiful story and what a beautiful family! Thank you for sharing your story mama. I can only imagine what it would be like to have twins, this one toddler is running me ragged :) I'm a SAHM too, so nice to meet another one!

    • reginaaj2gerica profile image

      reginaaj2gerica 

      6 years ago

      You are truly blessed! My niece has twins, a boy and a girl. I have always wanted twins, but I was blessed with three beautiful children that I wouldn't trade for anything in the world. I've always fantasized about any one of my children being a twin and can't phathom two of any of them.

      Congratulations on such a wonderful lens...I look forward to reading more of your master pieces.

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      hamshi5433 

      6 years ago

      Lucky you! I would love to have twins some day when I get married :) Your two little angels are so beautiful and may god give them an excellent health and keep them smiling forever. I can just imagine them running and playing around and keeping you entertained 24/7.

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      Lori Green 

      6 years ago from Las Vegas

      My Niece and Nephew are twins. I don't know how my brother and Sister in law do it. I babysat for 2 days and was tired but they are the best and they own my heart.

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      Susan Deppner 

      6 years ago from Arkansas USA

      No experience with twins or multiples, but I can still imagine the anxiety you went through with yours. Very glad they're growing and thriving and doing well now!

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      CatJGB 

      6 years ago

      Interesting to hear your experiences, I think sometimes people wish for twins and while they certainly are a blessing, I'm sure no one would say that two are easier than one! And now two 3 year olds, whoooo, hold tight to your sanity mama ! :)

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      mouse1996 lm 

      6 years ago

      Such an amazing story. I have yet to have children yet, but I love reading about other women's journies. Great lens.

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      KReneeC 

      6 years ago

      We have a lot in common! Your story sound incredibly familiar to mine!!!! Congratulations!!!!!!

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      Mamabyrd 

      6 years ago

      @myamya: Thank You!!

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      Mamabyrd 

      6 years ago

      @aliciamaggie54: Yes the bed rest was very rough but I am blessed to have healthy, happy toddlers!!

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      amy-kiess 

      6 years ago

      gosh I wish you had twins way before me .. I could have used, probably ALL of this info. Thankfully mine were born at 38 weeks with no complications but these are such great tips. Awesome job Gina!!

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      myamya 

      6 years ago

      Interesting lens, well done!

    • Mamabyrd profile imageAUTHOR

      Mamabyrd 

      6 years ago

      @KathyMcGraw2: My daughters are doing great. They are about to turn 3 years old. They are full of energy and say the funniest things. It is hard to believe they were so tiny. We have had a routine since the day the girls came home from the hospital. It is the only way we survived. Thankfully my husband is a firefighter and works shifts. I make sure I get some âmeâ time when he gets of shift. It usually consists of grocery shopping or going to garage sales. Yes!! I am now the momma of a baby boy. He is 4 months old. I couldnât be more blessed.

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      Mamabyrd 

      6 years ago

      @Countryluthier: Ha Power of the Iguana. I will take it! I need all the power I can get with two 2 year olds.

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      E L Seaton 

      6 years ago from Virginia

      While I'm not a mama, I am a daddy of twins who turned 18, recently graduated HS and soon will start college together. Where does all the time (and money) go so quickly. Live long and prosper. May the Power of the Iguana be with you to use a COUNTRYLUTHIER twin daddy phrase. Blessed by COUNTRYLUTHIER.

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      Kathy McGraw 

      6 years ago from California

      So, how are the babies now? Do you have a routine that allows you to have "me" time? I see by your profile you have 3 kids now...so congratulations!

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      aliciamaggie54 

      6 years ago

      Oh no, you had bad rest at 20 something weeks. I bet it was a lot when the babies were in the hospital. I bet as much as you went through you feel it is worth it since you now have pre-school aged little ones. I bet they are adorable.

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      Mamabyrd 

      6 years ago

      @Millionairemomma: Thank you for reading my lens. This one is by far the most personal and needs some work but I needed to write it up before I forgot what I wanted to say. check back I will be doing some changes

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      Millionairemomma 

      6 years ago

      This was SO personal. Kudos to you for being brave enough to share. You might want to add the products you suggested at the bottom of the page. They are not there but you must be BUSY with twins and all. I have one and making the lens how I want to is unrealistic. Don't be hard on yourself.

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