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The love between a father and his daughter- three part series- part 2

Updated on October 27, 2016

A fathers love

As I stated in the first chapter of the series that a father is the “first love of his daughter’s life" this term comes with extremely deep emotions ties to it and it is important to understand.

A fathers voice

When a baby girl is born and the father begins the process of raising his daughter, the sound of her father’s voice transcends even into the mother’s womb during the nine months of pregnancy.

Usually the baby will recognize the voice of her father and there has been numerous studies done where a man’s voice can be very soothing to a baby with the low octaves and slow pace of words or humming. This is the male voice that she will get used to the hearing, the volume, the accent, the intent, the tone.

Fathers who speak to their daughters in natural soothing tones, volume, as opposed to a father that is loud or screams much at his daughter, she will get used to that voice. She will also get used to the patience or impatience of how her father speaks to her.

How well does her father listen to what she has to say or the importance of what she is saying. Does her father encourage her through positive language or through negative language? Does her father lift her up with his words or put her down with name calling or judging her. Does her father treat her mother with kindness, respect, love or does he disrespect her mother, put her down or boss her around. All of this will shape the type of woman that she will become one day and the type of man that she will be attracted to and eventually marry.

Affectionate fathers

Father that are affectionate with their daughters, in words and touch will have a lasting affect on her life. Words that show he loves her, that he thinks that she is smart, funny, strong sweet and beautiful. A Fathers affection with touch, hugs, kisses on the forehead and cheek, pats on the back, picking her up and holding her when she is tired, scared or lonely, crying, she will keep that with her the rest of her life. If she hurts herself and daddy puts a band aid on her cut or encourages her to get up and be strong. Does he spend quality time with her, taking her to the park, the zoo, reading books, making picnics, building things, fixing things, doing homework with her, just hanging out and talking, this will all impact her life?

Girls tend to adore their fathers and look up to them, want to feel protected by them, safe, nurtured, loved. Treated like a girl, have a tea party, play games, be silly, wrestle on the ground. all of these things girls will remember when they grow older.


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      t-willy 6 years ago from Minneapolis

      Wonderful Hub! I am a father of a 2 year old daughter and I love to write about being a father. Thank you

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      RhebaE 6 years ago from San Francisco Bay Area, CA

      Just found this article. Great series! Much more should be written about the need for fathers to be active in their children's lives! My girlfriend just married an amazing man after waiting till her late 30's to find someone good enough to meet her dad's standards. Her new husband is wonderful in so many ways and we are all thrilled that she is with him! There is plenty of other men who were interested in my friend but she always had her dad's expectations in mind. The opposite is also true. I knew another woman who had a very different relationship with her dad and its reflected in her love life too.

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      smartestkidsever 7 years ago

      I think the relationship between daughters and fathers is the most important one they will ever have and effects them through out there hole lives and also on how sucsessful they are in there own relationship with other men and the men they pick out.

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      Dawn Michael 7 years ago from THOUSAND OAKS

      Thanks oo jo, thank-you for reading my article!

      Hi saket thank-you for your comments and I am happy that you have a little girl that you love and can raise to be a healthy happy woman!

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      saket71 7 years ago from Delhi, India

      Dawn, truth of your words touches the softest core of my heart. I read your blog, touch my two year old's forehead, and am overwhelmed as she lifts her big, blue eyes from the animated movie on my laptop and looks at me.

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      o0_jo_0o 7 years ago

      You surely have my vote - the relationship between a father and daughter is so important.

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      Dawn Michael 7 years ago from THOUSAND OAKS

      Thank-you for your comments ahorseback and carrrie450

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      carrie450 7 years ago from Winnipeg, Canada

      Wonderful hub Dawn and beautifully written.

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      ahorseback 7 years ago

      Dawn , once again, soo true......gets my vote.