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5 Things that Help your Children

Updated on December 26, 2011
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Responsibility is a two way street

1. Read to them. This simple nightly ritual will not only bring you closer together, it will help develop their reading skills. Kids who are comfortable reading in schools are generally those whose parents read to them nightly.

2. Pay them. Once they are old enough to ask for money, tie that money to chores. We are not talking about huge things, but the simple things you probably had to do as a kid: keep your room clean, help clean up after meals, put the clean clothes away, rake the lawn, vacuum. Whatever simple tasks that need to be done that can safely and easily be done in an hour or two a week.

3. Teach them. From preschool to grad school talk to them about what they are studying. Help them when they need help. Have them explain it to you when you have no clue what they are talking about.

4. Make them work. Do not dictate what kind of job they have, but make sure that if they are driving, they are working. Not only will they meet a new group of people, they will experience a bit of how the real world operates.

5. Help them, but do not pay their way. Whether they choose trade school or Harvard, make them understand that their future depends on their work. One of the things that reinforces this is making sure they understand the majority of the burden is on their head. Knowing that you are paying for your education makes you pay a lot more attention and reinforces the desire to get up and go to class instead of staying out late to party. If you want to pay for school, pay it off after they are done. Do not tell your kids that you are going to do this or it defeats the purpose. 


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      DougBerry 6 years ago from Abilene, TX


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      C E Clark 6 years ago from North Texas

      I guess the only one of the five I'm not crazy about is #2. My parents didn't pay me for the chores I did growing up. They felt I should do my part since I benefitted from living in the same house as everyone else. I tend to agree.

      Do think reading with your child is important an helps build their vocabulary as well as their knowledge of the world around them. It may even lead to a love of reading.

      Home schooled my daughter, so reading was a big part of the curriculum which I wrote myself. So number 3 was a daily activity.

      Paying one's way through school starts in the first grade. Excellent grades will often get you grants that will pay your way through college and beyond in grants from the school you choose. Have hubs on these issues.

      Good advice for parents. Enjoy your hubs even when I don't always comment.

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      Shell Vera 6 years ago from Connecticut, USA

      Great insight. I do each of these with my little one, who is almost 4. I see the joy on her face and how smart she is and know that reading and doing chores is fun for her. She loves to read and is already writing a few letters!

      She loves to do a chore and earn money. With our new Moonjars she is going to be even more excited! This great system for sorting money between save, spend, and share, complete with a log book and a special calculator that has the money shaped like the coins!

      I agree with your other points too! Thank you for sharing!

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      Grace Marguerite Williams 6 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

      To DougBerry: Merry Christmas and Happy Felicitations! This is an informative and educational hub. I totally concur with the points you have elucidated here. Children need to be guided and to be taught responsibility-this is how they eventually thrive in the world. I admire your participatory approach to parenting. Great job!