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10 Things Girl Gamers Hate About Gaming

Updated on August 8, 2011
Not all girls like pink, but lots love gaming.
Not all girls like pink, but lots love gaming.

Lots of girls love to play the leading consoles whether it be Wii, Xbox 360, or Ps3. However, girls' game playing experience can be altered by who they meet or what people say about them. Although there are many girls who love to play games like Call of Duty or Left4Dead, some (not all) guys act like they are unworthy of playing because of their gender. This can frustrate girl gamers and even make them want to stop playing altogether although most don't let it get to them. Here are 10 things girl gamers hate about gaming.

1. Guys Who Don't Believe It.

Yes, we hear lots of comments thrown at us like "your not a girl. Your a 5 year old boy. Get a life." This comment doesn't actually bother us all that much but it can be annoying for someone to comment on how you speak. We don't care whether you believe we are a girl or not. Its like a girl can't speak without a guy commenting about their voice. It usually makes girls unplug their mics rather than talk like any other person in the lobby would.

2. The Random Friend Requests.

We don't care what your reason for adding us is but we know its most likely our gender. We can't have normal friends on our friends list because right when a guy sees a girl, they instantly think "add". The only way most of us would add you is if we actually spoke to you in a game and thought you were cool people. Most guys just add right away without even knowing the girl just because of their gender and it could get annoying. On the other hand, there are girls who play just for the attention but that's another story and those girls are not true girl gamers. That brings us to the next number.

3. The Fake Girl Gamers.

This is one thing lots of girls hate to see. There are girls in the gaming world who purposly try to make themselves known as a "girl gamer". A real girl gamer doesn't care if she makes herself known to the public. She just wants to play the game. Even if she's not very good at the game, she just wants to play regardless of whether people add her or not. That's what a real girl gamer is. Not a girl who says "Hey! Im a girl! I can kick your but! Add me :)" without playing the games. If a girl says that and actually plays the games, we don't really mind. But if a girl fakes it by putting her brother on the controller, it can really annoy people. These girls usually try to bring as much attention to themselves as possible. These kinds of girls also created the stereotype that "Girls only play games to get hit on."

4. The Trash Talkers.

When a guy sees a girl gamer, he talks trash. When he loses, he talks more trash. I know many girl gamers have had this experience. A guy sees a girl gamer in the lobby, talks trash, and then when your team wins with you on top, he talks more trash. There are lots of insults/ comments these guys make but that will be covered in another article.

5. Being asked out.

We don't play video games in order to get online boyfriends in other states/countries. We just care about playing the game and maybe even making some friends in the process. Getting a boyfriend? We aren't interested in. That's not why we play. The funny thing is, these guys know nothing about us and they ask anyway. It makes no sense. We suggest you take your questions somewhere else because they don't matter to us.

6. The Stereotypes.

There are many stereotypes about girl gamers. Some I've heard? "Oh, your probably fat and ugly, that's why you play games right?" What in the world--? What does a girl's looks have to do with how or if they play games? "Go play your barbie games!" Umm... I actually don't own one of those. Could you lend me one of yours? Yes, it happens all the time. We've heard them before. I know this doesn't apply to all guys but when a girl is online, she hears a lot of comments about how girls don't play hardcore games. Lesbian jokes, insults on looks, no game skill, yes we've heard it all. Some guy gamers believe that girls don't know the controls and are helpless. Its wrong.

7. The Messages.

We dread them. The messages are the perverted comments made to girl gamers. To these gamers, its funny. To us, its annoying. They start talking sexual and are cracking up on the other end while the girl is just trying to play the game. We learn to ignore and delete the messages right away, trust me. The most popular one I've heard is "Moan for me please". Really? Get a life. Its annoying. The picture messages are the worst. Girls, if you receive a picture message from a random gamer, erase it and don't look back.

8. The Questions

We hear lots of questions. How old are you? Where are you from? What color is your hair? Sure, your curious. We'll answer, we don't mind much. But then those questions move to "Can I have your number?" or "Can you send me a picture of you?" and at that point, most of us don't want to waste our time. Sure, some girl gamers don't mind all that but some do. If anything, we'll just give you our facebook name and that's it. But then the question from number 5 comes out. "Can you be my xbox/ps3/wii girlfriend?" No. I don't want to be your girlfriend, don't ask again.

9. The Obsessive Guys

Yes, some guys are complete jerks. But some are sweet. They defend you in the lobbies or like playing games with you and that's not a problem. We actually love gamer friends that we can depend on sometimes. But when the guys become obsessive and message and invite you 24/7, it sometimes gets annoying. It doesn't get annoying if we usually play with that person or group of people though. It just gets annoying when we obviously don't want to join/answer and we constantly get messages/invites. We like the guys that are in between the jerks and obsessed. Not the guys who blow up our system with their naggy messages/invites.

10. The Ruined Gaming Experience.

That's all of the above. If all of that happens, it makes a person not want to play anymore. So the annoying comments and remarks can affect a girl's gaming experience completely. If your one of the people who does any of the nine above, STOP. It's time consuming and repetitive. Don't ruin the gaming experience for anyone, you wouldn't want that to happen to you.

Girls, if you run into any of the above, ignore it. Yes, the comments can offend you or the messages can annoy you but don't worry about it too much. Just enjoy your games :)


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      2 years ago

      all of these had happend to me and it very annoying and i hate it nice article

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      3 years ago

      I have a bad habit of doing # 2 a lot sorry

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      Natalie Hajduk 

      5 years ago

      I am so glad I found this article. Beautifully written and so true. I have had the same experience on WOW, diablo and league of legends. The guys just don't get it.

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      5 years ago

      Lovely article. I wish I could meet more gamer girls that weren't fake or just plain dumbasses. They give a lot of girls a bad image. Especially on MMORPGs. Attention whores, the lot of 'em. Same for gamer guys. Most are assholes, or elitists, or sexist, or anything else you could think of. However, I will say, not every annoying person you find on the end of a chat system is a "twelve-year-old guy with no life." Talking about all these annoying kids in xBox LIVE and other things makes you just as bad as them, it's what makes a lot of kids who play many things online younger stop playing. A lot of the annoying people that everyone else calls a "kid" that I've met is actually an adult, or at least not as young of a kid as claimed. Sometimes, yes, and most children are immature and subject to doing things like that, but not always.

      So as an online gamer guy who respects all gamers, who also has done MMOs since he was four, don't sit there and blame just the kids. Blame the idiots. A lot of the time, the kids are complaining about the other people just as much as you are, and it's demeaning to assume it's the younger people just because some kids are idiots.

      And for all you people saying that it's all the kids in the chat rooms with mics, and are saying they're the reason you don't use a mic, I totally respect that, I don't either.. but use "people" and not "kids." Cos it's not just us! ^_-

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      James Robertson 

      5 years ago from Texas

      As an online gamer guy I would have to say that you are absolutely right and have great points here. Most of the guys you will run into online are little kids. At least the ones that have a mic on. If I'm playing I'm either in a party with my friends or I play without a mic because I don't want to listen to a bunch of annoying people who would rather talk about stupid crap than tell me where they just died or where the enemy is. I personally don't care what gender you are when you are on my team as long as you can perform and not be a burden. Great article. Sadly enough though most of the girls I have run into online are the fake ones that give the true gamer girls a bad name.

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      6 years ago

      Gamer guys are jerks in real life and online. That's why I don't date them

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      6 years ago from Texas

      Amen sister... You got it all right.

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      Faith Sorroza 

      7 years ago

      @envy_09 : I only talk if im in a party with my friends or something. Other people can be annoying. It really does get old too. I really am hoping that those people would read this and start straightening their acts.

      @joawmeens : They don't really get to me anymore but they used to. You start getting used to it unfortuneatly. I agree completely with you. I feel that many of the awful people on xbox ruin other peoples' experiences and I know there will never be a stop to it. Thanks for the advice too :)

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      7 years ago from Hopewell, Ohio

      I am a gamer, but not a girl. And yet, I still don't play online for some of the same reasons. The awful, awful people on Xbox Live keep me away from almost every multiplayer game. I wasn't into multiplayer before the invention of the headset, mind you, but now it's even worse.

      It's easy for me to say, but you shouldn't let it get to you, they are just 12 year old jerks who use the anonymity of the internet to make fun of others, and make themselves feel better. They are not worth getting angry over.

      If you (or anyone), wants to add me on Xbox Live, my gamertag is the same as my Hubpages name. I will be happy to not go on an on about you being a girl, and how embarassed I am to be beaten by you. I mean, I will be embarassed, but I won't go on and on about it.

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      7 years ago from Athens, AL

      Yep, that about covers all the frustrating experiences I've had playing online games. Black Ops and then Battlefield were the first games I got hooked on playing online. Which led to my husband having to buy a second Xbox so we can play some games together. Mostly I only talk if I'm in a party with our friends.

      I've had plenty of "Are you a 10-year-old boy or a girl?" to "I can't believe I got my butt stomped by a girl". Sometimes it gets old feeling like I need guys to shield me from other guys, knowing I can easily take care of the problem if it was face to face.

      Maybe some of those bad mannered male gamers will read this and take heed.


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