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10 Important Lessons I Learned from Therapy in my 20's.

Updated on May 21, 2018

Lessons I Learned

  1. That critical voice in the back of your head is hurting you. Your thoughts affect you. Negative thoughts will cause you to feel bad of yourself and lead to lower self-esteem. Kick that critical voice to the curb and replace it with some self-compassion.
  2. It's okay to have boundaries. Boundaries help set healthy standards in relationships that create mutual respect and support. It sets a precedent for what is acceptable behavior from those around you. If you have weak boundaries, you leave yourself open to being taken advantage of.
  3. You can't make everyone happy. You can't please everyone. You are not everyone's cup of tea. And that's okay. Spend your time with those that appreciate who you are and fill you up with joy.
  4. Comparing yourself to others doesn't help. There are an infinite ways we can compare ourselves to our friends, family, and coworkers. It's always an unfair and you gain nothing from doing it.
  5. You don't have to be put together all the time. There is no such thing as perfection. It's okay to fall apart once in awhile.
  6. Take a break. Shut down social media. Turn off your phone. Open up a good book and sit down with a good cup of tea.
  7. Change is a process. You won't become a neurosurgeon over night. You also won't become a therapy expert and fix all your problems over night. Growth happens over time.
  8. Your feelings are valid. Negative feelings don't mean there is something wrong with you. You are allowed to feel what you are feeling.
  9. It's okay to let go of what is not serving you. If it's hurting you, making you unhappy, or the universe is telling you to step away, why are you still holding on to it? Letting go can give you peace.
  10. Be a friend to yourself. Treat yourself with respect. Accept who you are. Forgive yourself for your mistakes. Beating yourself up isn't going to help anything.


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    • thedinasoaur profile image

      Dina AH 

      3 years ago from United States

      Hi Kitty!

      I see you are a newbie here, and I loved your hub so much, I thought it'd be nice to welcome you on here. Your hub reflected my own journey with therapy. I have been actively working on my mental health for the past six years. You summarized a lot of the things that I am dealing with, even now, years later.

      I gave your hubpage a follow. I hope you get to write more awesome hubs. Again, welcome to this fun website.


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